To return this cheque?

[MAFIL]

I've received a cheque today from an organisation that I have been embroiled in a legal dispute with for some time. They have finally admitted their fault and compensated me. All good, except the cheque is payable to Mrs MAFIL and, unsurprisingly, given its my name, my bank account is in the name of Dr MAFIL. Now I expect my bank will probably accept it, given it has the correct first name and surname on, but this has really pissed me off. I have been communicating with these people for over a year and on every occasion I have referred to myself as Dr. Nor do I ever recall disclosing my marital status as it is wholly irrelevant to the matter in hand. (I am married as it happens but my husband has a different surname.) The casual sexism really annoys me. As a middle aged woman it is assumed I must be married? And I am not entitled to the courtesy of my professional title?
I am tempted to return the cheque and insist on a new one being issued. But on the other hand, it has been such a battle to get to this point, half of me wants to just bank the money and forget about it. Given their general ineptitude to date, who knows when the new cheque will arrive.
WWYD? Send it back? Shrug it off and bank the cheque? Only complain if the cheque is refused by the bank? Bank it but send a letter complaining? Something else?

You know what they say about a bird in the hand.... bank it now!

If you are adamant you are right regarding their intention, do not send it back. You are playing right into their misogynistic hands. "Oh look another hysterical woman". I can just picture it.

Bank your check and hold your head high.

Jeez-
Just bank the cheque already. Don't take it personally. Petty gripes like this just serve to trivialise real sexist issues.

The degree of sexism doesn't negate the fact the behaviour is sexist. It's the dismissive attitude of what may seem as 'lesser' acts of sexism that enables extreme examples of misogyny.

Being a title snob over a money win! That cheque would be in my account so fast. Its rather lower middle to be snobby about professional or qualification related titles according to Jilly Coopers book 'Class'. Its up there with putting all your certificates on the wall of your home.

Being a title snob over a money win!

What's snobbish about using titles correctly?

Its rather lower middle to be snobby about professional or qualification related titles according to Jilly Coopers book 'Class'.

Oh well if Jilly Cooper said it, it must be right And why are you using 'lower middle' as an insult?

It's the dismissive attitude of what may seem as 'lesser' acts of sexism that enables extreme examples of misogyny

No, it’s not. In fact it’s the reverse. It’s people throwing their toys out of their pram over trivia that gives feminism a bad name and not being taken seriously on big issues. This kind of thing is the little boy who cried wolf.

In fact it’s the reverse.

If you're going to state something as fact, are you going to provide the data and the studies to back that up?

No. Common sense and life experience work perfectly well.

It's more the feminist aspect that's winding you up and I understand that, but having the cheque changed won't stop this type of misogyny. It will always go on I think.

Personally I couldn't be bothered, but if it's very very very important to you then ask them to change it.

No. Common sense and life experience work perfectly well.

So 'wot I rekkon' stated as fact. As the saying goes, common sense is the set of prejudices acquired by the age of 18.

Yeah, dont confuse shit you think with common sense.

Common sense is a very rare commodity these days and all the more precious for it.

It's JUST a title ffs. Just bank the cheque (or get a grown up to do it for you) and be grateful you don't have any real problems.