To think who eats a family meal to themselves?!

[GimmeTheSnacks]

I made a meal this evening ready for tomorrow as the chicken needed cooking. It was cooling down on the side before putting it in the fridge. The next thing I know dp is home from work then walks in with a huge plate of it. It looked like a lot so I asked if he'd reheated the whole thing to which he replied "no I've saved ds (5) some as I know how much he likes it". I explained it was for tea tomorrow and he said I should have told him when he got home.

He has enough common sense to know I will have cooked it for another days meal so this was just so selfish. He can be selfish with food in terms of snacks but he's never done it with a meal before. There were 4 chicken breasts in it ffs!

Aibu to think this was out of order and selfish?

Good answer OP! And what did he say?

Also I like your style in telling about the McDs ads!

LTB.

So what happened at dinner tonight op?

Fuck me he has no shame. What’s for dinner ffs.

I was in earlier and the 2 oldest were "starving" so we had oven baked potatoes and various toppings with a varied salad including boiled eggs as the boys request...delicious! DP doesn't see it as a proper meal though and has always regarded baked potatoes "weird" for the main part of a meal. He rummaged around for ages and produced a hot meal for himself......a pot noodle!!!!

Good. He can keep producing his own meals.

Good on you op!!

Ha nice one -the cheek of him asking whats for dinner ffs

Well done op. I'd let him starve for the rest of the week, personally

I'd make stuff he doesn't see as 'proper'. FFS all this 'what's for tea' and he doesn't fucking cook and you both work FT. Funny how he gets in late a lot, too, so you can do the kid work. Just cut that shit right out. I'd start locking up the kids and your food, too, but then, I used to ditch greedy people like this at the first sign.

Nicely played. The kids need a lot more baked potatoes in their diets, I think.

I wouldn't lock up the kids, mind ;)

Thanks everyone.

I'd make stuff he doesn't see as 'proper' That's actually a good idea. Even something like an omelette/frittata he says isn't normal food for a meal! Even if I do something like wedges and salad with it (salad gets called "green shit").

PickAChew they do...I love a baked potato!

Locking up the kids for a bit sounds great bit but I fear it would be frowned upon so I'll refrain. I don't lock up snacks but I hide some of my gluten free things as they're a real but very rare treat and I was so looking forward to come cookies to find they'd all been eaten! Plenty of normal biscuits in the house but he couldn't leave mine alone! I also hide the odd chocolate bar from a multi pack if I might want one another day.

The more you post about him the worse he sounds.

Why would any normal living partner eat his breastfeeding wife’s treats? Gluten free treats, when there’s other regular snacks in the house?

Sounds like he’s doing it on purpose.

He sounds so utterly shit.

Sorry but your husband sounds really strange.

What on earth is not 'proper food' about jacket potatoes with lovely fillings? A lot more nutritious than a flipping pot noodle!

He’s being an arse. Good for you, your response was just right.

His eating sounds really disordered.

Buy him a copy of this and point him in the direction of the kitchen
www.amazon.co.uk/Hairy-Dieters-Make-Easy-weight/dp/1409171892?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

Ideally, he should go to the GP for a check up but I bet he would come back and tell you the doctor said everything was fine.

My husband eats treats etc all the time, so i hide things i really want, but even he would never eat a massive meal without checking!
(he is awesome in every other way, and we all have quirks, so i’m ok with the treat “stealing”)

I would be making baked potatoes and frittata on rotation for dinner every night now. You'll save money that way too. Given that he will go to McDonald's with his own money anyway, you might as well spend family money on things you and the kids like and that you'll actually get to eat.

Baked potato isn't dinner but pot noodle is?!

We need some ideas for "non-dinners" to suggest to the OP so she and her children can have varied meals without Mr Greedy sticking his nose into the trough. Some she could prepare ahead of time would be good, too, as the ones she has are delicious and healthy, but need to be cooked immediately before eating.

What's his opinion on veggie food, OP? There are some very tasty recipes for veggies pies etc that can be made in advance.

Omelette isn't a proper meal but a 4 person curry and rice is a snack? 🤔

I'd simply stop consulting his preferences for a bit, and cook meals you and the children enjoy. And definitely find a secure hiding place for you (expensive) gluten-free treats so they don't get hoovered up.

Was he a labrador in a previous life I wonder?