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To think who eats a family meal to themselves?!

588 replies

GimmeTheSnacks · 05/02/2020 23:44

I made a meal this evening ready for tomorrow as the chicken needed cooking. It was cooling down on the side before putting it in the fridge. The next thing I know dp is home from work then walks in with a huge plate of it. It looked like a lot so I asked if he'd reheated the whole thing to which he replied "no I've saved ds (5) some as I know how much he likes it". I explained it was for tea tomorrow and he said I should have told him when he got home.

He has enough common sense to know I will have cooked it for another days meal so this was just so selfish. He can be selfish with food in terms of snacks but he's never done it with a meal before. There were 4 chicken breasts in it ffs!

Aibu to think this was out of order and selfish?

OP posts:
mantarays · 06/02/2020 12:17

IntermittentParps

Hmm Didn’t say you “couldn’t”. I said I don’t like it.

PatellarTendonitis · 06/02/2020 12:18

Tbh I dont think we get a full story here - 3 children below 5, a baby, OP is working....... like how?

Ah, the wonderful world of MN! Where everyone can afford to take a whole year off and no one has to budget for shopping/food, must be nice. Hmm

WooMaWang · 06/02/2020 12:19

I don't know exactly how much he weighs but is definitely very overweight.

There's a surprise. 😆

Bluntness100 · 06/02/2020 12:22

This thread needs to go in classics, it's absołutely batshit. 🤣

Now we even have someone laughing at him because he's overweight. Yup let's bring on the fat shaming too. Make it a full house.

interest12 · 06/02/2020 12:23

Sounds like he was hungry, geez. Have him cook more tomorrow

katseyes7 · 06/02/2020 12:23

This is the kind of thing my ex husband would have done. l worked shifts.
Quite often when l was on a late shift and he made his own evening meal, he'd have 2 chicken Kievs, potatoes, and a ton of veg. Then later in the week he'd complain there was "nothing to eat."
My reasoning was that if he had one chicken Kiev plus veggies at each meal, there would have been something to eat. His was that if he chose to eat two, that was his right..... (notice the use of the word 'ex' in the first paragraph).

mantarays · 06/02/2020 12:24

If he’s very overweight then this is very disordered eating, and he should attract our sympathy, not our contempt.

OlaEliza · 06/02/2020 12:24

Next time the OP will hopefully remember to tell him the food on the side is the meal for the next day

What the actual fuck did I just read Confused

WooMaWang · 06/02/2020 12:26

I'm not laughing at him because he's overweight. I'm laughing that the OP needed to clarify that he was. It would have been a complete surprise if he hadn't been overweight.

pandora101 · 06/02/2020 12:28

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Bluntness100 · 06/02/2020 12:32

It would have been a complete surprise if he hadn't been overweight

Really? Because I'm five eight, size ten, don't have an eating disorder and sometimes if the mood strikes me I can over eat.

I think we all get you'd never do such a thing, but no over eating on one occasion is not a sign of obesity nor is it funny.

SunshineAngel · 06/02/2020 12:33

My partner can be very greedy - and could probably eat several portions of his favourites - but at the same time he ALWAYS asks me before he eats anything whether that's okay. He will have snacks, but if it's anything "proper food" that could be a meal, he will ask if I'd planned to use it, as he doesn't want to mess up my meal plans. He's quite considerate like that, really.

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GimmeTheSnacks · 06/02/2020 12:37

To people asking if we'll get a takeaway/he'll buy something else...no, we don't have money for takeaways or extra food. It will have to be something on toast or pasta.

I'm at work so maybe I should wait and see which hot meal is on the table when I get in??

And people saying I'm controlling his food intake? Erm no...I'm trying to ensure there's enough food to feed our family. I have gone without before to ensure my children are fed, luckily it isn't like that now but I do like to have nice nutritious food especially since I'm breaatfeeding plus working.

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SapphosRock · 06/02/2020 12:38

Threads like this make me so glad I'm a lesbian Grin

Wouldn't catch a woman doing this.

Waspnest · 06/02/2020 12:38

Well we can never know for sure that a thread is genuine but I don't think there's anything here so far that stands out as dodgy. Maybe report if you think the OP is a troll?

FWIW my DH has moaned on and off for years that I don't cook enough pasta (I do the amount said on the packet, I don't like pasta so I have rice instead) and will scrape out dishes when we've finished food etc. He's finally admitted he is overweight bordering obese and is trying to lose weight by fasting/cutting carbs and openly admits that his portions were way too big but that he absolutely loves food and if it's there he will eat it (though he would never do what the OP's DH did) so I don't think the situation described is that unrealistic.

mantarays · 06/02/2020 12:39

Do come back and tell us what you eat tonight!

PatellarTendonitis · 06/02/2020 12:39

pandora you are troll hunting. That's against Guidelines. If you have doubts about the veracity of someone's posts you report them to HQ.

pandora101 · 06/02/2020 12:41

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GimmeTheSnacks · 06/02/2020 12:45

There was plenty of veg in the curry including potatoes. Not just chicken and sauce!

He does eat food all to himself without considering other people in the house. He also ate 2 whole packets of jammy dodgers, I'd bought a pack for him and a pack for the children as I have coeliac disease so can't eat them. He'll eat all 4 bars of chocolate in a packet etc etc.

OP posts:
OlaEliza · 06/02/2020 12:45

@Pandora101 What is so unbelievable about a woman with 3 kids working?

They are on a budget hence probably going back to work as soon as she was able.

There have been many threads on here about greedy bastard husband's eating all the food, do it's not unheard of.

Bluntness100 · 06/02/2020 12:45

How's he so very over weight if there is so little money for food and you sometimes have to go without to feed the kids op? The man gets one chicken breast, half a packet of rice and some veg for his dinner and portions are tightly controlled. Where's all the money coming from to buy the amount of food it will take to keep him very overweight?

MimiLaRue · 06/02/2020 12:46

I'm sorry OP- he sounds like a selfish prick.

He'll have to sort out food for tonight then wont he? since he ate everyones...

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GimmeTheSnacks · 06/02/2020 12:48

Because he thought/assumed they had already had theirs and it was left over. Ten bloody pages and no one has understood this. He knows what a whole curry looks like and I'd decanted it into tuppaware I was just waiting for it to cool. Also he saved some for one of the children. And still doesn't explain why he needed to eat the whole thing!

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OlaEliza · 06/02/2020 12:48

How's he so very over weight if there is so little money for food and you sometimes have to go without to feed the kids op? The man gets one chicken breast, half a packet of rice and some veg for his dinner and portions are tightly controlled. Where's all the money coming from to buy the amount of food it will take to keep him very overweight

What nonsense. Cheap food isn't always healthy food. It's been proven that obesity is most prevalent amongst those in poverty.

pandora101 · 06/02/2020 12:49

pandora you are troll hunting. That's against Guidelines. If you have doubts about the veracity of someone's posts you report them to HQ.

you are right, I just had too much fun with this one, sorry. I rest it.

the topic is very interesting tho and worth to discuss it, family food and food planning and budgeting is very much worth it and as it seems from some comments also very much needed.