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Ghosted... slightly petty revenge

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Nickynackynoodle · 04/02/2020 14:28

I've been ghosted by someone I had quite a long relationship with, long story short he's met someone super cool and fucked off with her, quite literally overnight. She's very well connected and is helping him with his future business plans which are admittedly very exciting.

I'm pretty pissed off (and heartbroken) as I have been essentially used for the last 12 months in a number of ways so... I have bought the www. domain names and set up social media accounts in the names that he was planning to use for his exciting business.

I probably ABU but I have long evenings alone now when I used to have someone in my life, I'm being highly self disciplined in not contacting him... I'm enjoying seeing him look at the banal stuff I'm posting on insta, trying to work out who's stolen his names.

If he tries to buy the domain names I will absolutely sell them and not at a profit, same as if he asks for the social media names. I just vainly hope that he will realise life won't always go his way because he's so fucking handsome and charming.

I'm getting over it btw, I don't want relationship advice!

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MrEzraGoldberg · 04/02/2020 14:34

I think that's brilliant. Love it Grin

edwinbear · 04/02/2020 14:34

I actually think that's brilliant! I'd feel pretty smug if I'd had that idea Grin

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HollowTalk · 04/02/2020 14:35

Have to say that that is a fantastic revenge! Don't forget the .com, .co.uk and the .net.

PollyParrotsCrackers · 04/02/2020 14:35

Grin Grin

TurtleCavalryIsSeriousShit · 04/02/2020 14:36

Nope, I love it too! Don't feel bad about it. Grin

whatevertr · 04/02/2020 14:37

The only thing I disagree with you doing is not selling them for profit.
Make some cash out of it, think of it as compensation for wasted months Wink

mauvaisereputation · 04/02/2020 14:38

I think you're setting yourself up for more pain by doing this tbh. You own the domains now so that's that but tbh I'd shut the social media accounts down if I were you. I'm sure he'll be well aware that it's you doing it if he does discover the accounts and just think that you are trying to force him to get in touch with you. I don't think it will 'teach him a lesson'. Mainly I think you will just be happier if you try to distract yourself with other stuff rather than stew over this guy to the extent of pretending to be him/his business on social media. It is hard but it will get easier. Good luck.

MrEzraGoldberg · 04/02/2020 14:39

Yes, definitely make some cash from them if you can. Why the hell shouldn't you??

Herocomplex · 04/02/2020 14:40

I’m slightly wishing you’d taken his idea as well, and go on to become fabulously successful.

NotALurker2 · 04/02/2020 14:40

There is no way you'll be able to sell him the domain names because if you do, you'll be outing yourself as a mean-spirited and vindictive bitch which will only validate why he dumped you.

It's one thing to have a revenge fantasy, but what you did is beyond that. I would take a long, hard look at myself if I were you. Is this how you behave when people break up with you? That is really not a healthy response. Something wrong there OP....

dayswithaY · 04/02/2020 14:41

Absolutely do sell the domain names for a fat profit. And not to him. Crown Wink

HollowTalk · 04/02/2020 14:41

She could sell them to someone else who could sell them to him, though.

MrEzraGoldberg · 04/02/2020 14:41

No, it may not 'teach him a lesson' but it will inconvenience him, frustrate him and annoy him. All good in my book. But I love a bit of innovative revenge, me.

I admire your thinking.

Basecamp65 · 04/02/2020 14:42

That's great - as long as you are not posting anything malicious then this is harmless

he can change the name of the business when it comes to setting it up just as if someone else had thought of it and done it first

If you are still doing this in a month or so then it would be a bit worrying but you probably need this right now - just do not get nasty.

aroundtheworldyet · 04/02/2020 14:43

Yeah just take his idea. Make millions! If you can.

CrocodilesCry · 04/02/2020 14:43

I'm enjoying seeing him look at the banal stuff I'm posting on insta trying to work out who's stolen his names.

Sorry to break it to you but he knows!

notfromstepford · 04/02/2020 14:43

Great move - and I absolutely would sell them for a profit! Grin

AnuvvaMuvva · 04/02/2020 14:44

Love it. Inspired.

Rationalcat · 04/02/2020 14:45

Nice one!
I vote for profit too, if it comes to it.

ChidiAnagonye · 04/02/2020 14:45

There is no way you'll be able to sell him the domain names because if you do, you'll be outing yourself as a mean-spirited and vindictive bitch which will only validate why he dumped you

Which is how he will spin it.

Having said that, I think you deserve a high five OP. wish id thought of it

Original poster
Nickynackynoodle · 04/02/2020 14:48

I will delete the insta account shortly but he won't be able to use the name... the domain names can only be bought through a broker so he won't know it's me. TBH, I was surprised the business name wasn't already taken so it's quite plausible that it could be one of the other people he's been peacocking at.

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BumbleBeee69 · 04/02/2020 14:48

Brilliant OP.. bloody brilliant.. Grin Flowers

Notacluedoyou · 04/02/2020 14:49

Genius.

Make sure your info is private as it’s pretty easy to find out who owns a domain. Don’t use any of them... that’ll be more annoying to him and less time consuming for you.

Nexttt!!