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Ghosted... slightly petty revenge

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Nickynackynoodle · 04/02/2020 14:28

I've been ghosted by someone I had quite a long relationship with, long story short he's met someone super cool and fucked off with her, quite literally overnight. She's very well connected and is helping him with his future business plans which are admittedly very exciting.

I'm pretty pissed off (and heartbroken) as I have been essentially used for the last 12 months in a number of ways so... I have bought the www. domain names and set up social media accounts in the names that he was planning to use for his exciting business.

I probably ABU but I have long evenings alone now when I used to have someone in my life, I'm being highly self disciplined in not contacting him... I'm enjoying seeing him look at the banal stuff I'm posting on insta, trying to work out who's stolen his names.

If he tries to buy the domain names I will absolutely sell them and not at a profit, same as if he asks for the social media names. I just vainly hope that he will realise life won't always go his way because he's so fucking handsome and charming.

I'm getting over it btw, I don't want relationship advice!

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Foslady · 04/02/2020 15:46

And @Nickynackynoodle - I’m impressed, remember to set a diary note for a month before they run out.......Wine

PhilCornwall1 · 04/02/2020 15:48

If he funds out you can say well I was buying it for a surprise but then you dumped me so I thought a profit would be better

It was registered after he dumped her, not difficult to find that out,

StrangeLookingParasite · 04/02/2020 15:48

Post really crap pictures like a slice of bread, some paint drying that sort of thing. Ask readers/lookers for their most boring pictures.

And dog bums.

Heh, I think it's funny. Stuff him! And definitely make a profit. It's only fair.

Frouby · 04/02/2020 15:48

I absolutely love it.

Work out how many hours on average you spent with him each month. Then multiply that number by your hourly salary. And that's how much they cost for him to buy them back because that's how much time he cost you.

Love the lottery idea as well and it's not as far fetched as you think. I knew a bloke years ago who carried on for 2 years with the same numbers as his ex. One day he couldn't be arsed to get out of bed to pass his dad the £1 that morning and his dad was too tight to lend him the £1. Bloody numbers came in 😂😂😂. His ex rang to ask if he'd carried on doing 'their' numbers. He was devastated obviously but it couldn't have happened to a nicer man tbh.

LLBandTTC · 04/02/2020 15:48

Hahaha you’re my kind of person! really curious about the names now though 😂

Fairyliz · 04/02/2020 15:50

Good on you op this is brilliant! Revenge is not about being petty but regaining some power.
Let’s be honest someone who can treat you like this doesn’t care if you are ‘living your best life’ . But they will be annoyed /inconvenienced by this.
I took revenge on a colleague who passed on an incorrect rumour about me 30 years ago. I occasionally see this ex colleague now and still have a little inward smile to myself.

Butterymuffin · 04/02/2020 15:51

The only thing I disagree with you doing is not selling them for profit.

Me too. The whole 'being the better person' angle is overrated. Plus I like the way OP is 'vindictive' whereas it was fine for him to start seeing someone else and ghost her instead of behaving like an adult. OP has spent time and money on his business too so this is just payback.

RunningAwaywiththeCircus · 04/02/2020 15:52

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Spied · 04/02/2020 15:53

Make a bloody profit.

BrendasUmbrella · 04/02/2020 15:54

What's wrong with some mild revenge on someone who hurt you? It's not like you ran out and slashed his tyres.

Keep the IG account and post boring pictures of kittens on it. I wouldn't sell the domains either, he might get a third party to buy them. Maybe sell them for the price of a Chanel bag or something else you would like, see how much he really wants them...

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Nickynackynoodle · 04/02/2020 15:55

Have double checked all domain searches and no contact details available.

Thank you for the compliments. Thank you for the reality checks.

This is the worst thing that's ever happened to me, for many complex reasons. I've managed to not look at his social media (yes he's blocked but I can unblock him) for over a week now. Less his forays into the insta which I have now logged out of.

I'm taking baby steps but I feel like my heart has been removed from my chest.

That's not part of the AIBU btw, so don't pull
Me to pieces!

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Halestorm · 04/02/2020 15:55

It was registered after he dumped her, not difficult to find that out

He didn't dump her, he ghosted her.

And the problem with ghosting is that you are never quite sure exactly when it dawns on your victim that you ghosted them. It could be days or weeks even.

UtterSocks · 04/02/2020 15:55

You are fantastic! Love it. Sometimes karma needs a helping hand, he sounds like a shallow, opportunistic piece of shit

PhilCornwall1 · 04/02/2020 15:56

He didn't dump her, he ghosted her.

Same difference isn't it? Basically he's gone.

FizzAfterSix · 04/02/2020 15:58

Well done OP.
Make some money, why not.
Serves him right for treating someone who did so much for him so badly.

caffeinefix · 04/02/2020 15:59

I'd do the same. Crack on, OP.

damnthatanxiety · 04/02/2020 16:00

Don't sell to him. Just keep them and forget about them!

Justaboy · 04/02/2020 16:00

Don't mess around anymore leave him and her to stew, hold your head high and retain your dignity:)

bigknickersbigknockers · 04/02/2020 16:01

Id say this is a fair and harmless revenge for the shoddy treatment he dished out to you. No ones gonna die or even be hurt by this, just nickynackynoodle will have that warm feeling of satisfaction that she didn't just roll over and accept his shitty behaviour.

AryaStarkWolf · 04/02/2020 16:03

Same difference isn't it? Basically he's gone.

Not really, at least if you dump someone you have the decency to actually tell them you're breaking up and give them some sort of explanation/goodbye. Ghosting someone is disgustingly cowardly and disrespectful. How on earth can you think they're the same thing? Ghosting someone is like the modern day equivalent of telling your partner you're popping out for a pint of milk and you never see them again

TatoTurner · 04/02/2020 16:06

I think this is fine. Just don't post anything damaging or malicious. Dumping and ghosting are not the same thing. He lied to her and misled her and probably cheated on her.

SciFiScream · 04/02/2020 16:09

Such a genius idea. You know if they accounts had followers already there'd be a bigger value in the accounts.

I'd follow you...

JumpingOnTheBed · 04/02/2020 16:11

That is BRILLIANT - love it!

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DonKeyshot · 04/02/2020 16:14

It was registered after he dumped her, not difficult to find that out

Given that the OP was ghosted, how do you expect her to know the exact date when the opportunist broke up with her, PhilCornwall?

The OP may have assumed he was preoccupied with his new business venture and bought the domain names as a lovely surprise for him when he got in touch with her again.

As she now knows, he had no intention of contacting her again and she's out of pocket as well as broken-hearted.