Ghosted... slightly petty revenge

[Nickynackynoodle]

I've been ghosted by someone I had quite a long relationship with, long story short he's met someone super cool and fucked off with her, quite literally overnight. She's very well connected and is helping him with his future business plans which are admittedly very exciting.

I'm pretty pissed off (and heartbroken) as I have been essentially used for the last 12 months in a number of ways so... I have bought the www. domain names and set up social media accounts in the names that he was planning to use for his exciting business.

I probably ABU but I have long evenings alone now when I used to have someone in my life, I'm being highly self disciplined in not contacting him... I'm enjoying seeing him look at the banal stuff I'm posting on insta, trying to work out who's stolen his names.

If he tries to buy the domain names I will absolutely sell them and not at a profit, same as if he asks for the social media names. I just vainly hope that he will realise life won't always go his way because he's so fucking handsome and charming.

I'm getting over it btw, I don't want relationship advice!

Whadda bitch!

(I'm secretly impressed though OP 😬)

You can be made to sell them at no profit, or possibly even pass it on if the courts decide you took them to deliberately deprive someone else.
There was a local case that ended up in the newspapers. Didn't make them look good.

@witchend oh cool, a link would be good thanks?

You can be made to sell them at no profit, or possibly even pass it on if the courts decide you took them to deliberately deprive someone else.
There was a local case that ended up in the newspapers. Didn't make them look good.

Oooooh YAWN

Brilliant but then I bought out all the domain names, including all possible variations in a similar manner, not an ex but a former supposedly close friend some years ago. It's fairly cheap to do and if you buy in bulk you tended to get a few discounts and the .uk domain extensions for 99 Pence etc. I also paid a little to have all the information hidden and used a friend via a different country too. This person ripped me off and stole from me. They had built their business idea on the precise name and had no option but to buy the domain names via a broker. I got back what was owed to me that way.

Look, it's not your fault you bought them as a wonderful surprise for him while you were together. You weren't to know he would break up with you before you could give him his gift.

Brilliant @Halestorm

Yeah, I m sure he's eager to drag his shitty behaviour through the courts.

Good for you OP.

If he tries to buy the domain names I will absolutely sell them and not at a profit, same as if he asks for the social media names.

Would you? I'd stick at least one zero on the end and then have a nice night out. It's funny OP and I think he deserved it. And I know you weren't looking for advice but all I would say is, now you've done this, move on. It's a horrible breach of trust, but try not to let him do any more damage than he already has.

If it only cost a few quid and has cheered you up why not - better than a bottle of vodka or loads of doughnuts!

Ha ha ha that is fucking genius. What a great little passive aggressive revenge move. Don't sit looking at him looking at the site though. Just leave it there very funny

.. and I hope you're feeling better soon OP, sounds like you are well rid of the bellend

sell them for profit - I think, 'own it' is the expression Well done, you!

@Nickynackynoodle You're amazing!!! Genius idea.

Definitely sell on to him if he asks - you can sell Instagram names too, for a big profit! Oh, and who cares if he found out it was you, he obviously thinks nothing of you, and why would you care what that bastard thinks of you anyway?

This thread has cheered me, on balance. I'm trying with the new hobby keeping busy thing. I've wasted years of my 30s on this guy by the looks of things. I'm slowly picking myself up.

I will return here and read this when I'm tempted to text/unblock etc.

OP, if you've started a social media presence and could show you've intentions around the use of the URLs/domains, I shouldn't worry, especially as if your ghosting ex doesn't know it's you. I'd just make a few social media posts so it looks like legitimate use and sit on your hands and wait to see if you get a approach though the relevant broker.

Dumping and ghosting are not the same thing. It's fine to end a relationship with anyone, ghosting is like mental torture!

As for the people saying you could get dragged to Court - he couldn't even get his act together to buy his own domain names. This Muppet won't be hiring barristers anytime soon. Draw a line under this OP, you played a blinder. I hope you feel better soon.

Fucking love it!!
I abhor cheats, and ghosters even more so.

I'm all for this!
Don't sell them back to him, set up a website with an advert for erectile dysfunction

OMG OP you are gangsta! Well done!! Don't delete - have fun. And sell them at a profit. It makes good business sense.

Brilliant work, OP. Applause!

Ghosting is one of the nastiest and most cowardly things you can do to someone. Combined with the fact it looks likely, given the timeframe, that he also cheated, this arsehole deserves everything he gets, imo.

This is great. I think we should submit the boringest photos for you to add the the Instagram account.

Apologies if this is too nosey, but how much do there things cost?

£30 odd for 2 domains for 2 years. Not much considering how much his fucking Christmas present was.

@KatKit I bought a few a couple of years ago, all were £1 except the .com one which they charged £9.99.
At the point of renewal all the £1 jumped to £5.99 for 1 year - no idea where the figures come from

Dig two graves then, OP...

He'll know it's you ultimately and he will feel validated for his behaviour. You'll carry on looking to see if he's bewildered still. What's the point of that? All this is doing is holding you back there. What a waste.