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Ghosted... slightly petty revenge

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Nickynackynoodle · 04/02/2020 14:28

I've been ghosted by someone I had quite a long relationship with, long story short he's met someone super cool and fucked off with her, quite literally overnight. She's very well connected and is helping him with his future business plans which are admittedly very exciting.

I'm pretty pissed off (and heartbroken) as I have been essentially used for the last 12 months in a number of ways so... I have bought the www. domain names and set up social media accounts in the names that he was planning to use for his exciting business.

I probably ABU but I have long evenings alone now when I used to have someone in my life, I'm being highly self disciplined in not contacting him... I'm enjoying seeing him look at the banal stuff I'm posting on insta, trying to work out who's stolen his names.

If he tries to buy the domain names I will absolutely sell them and not at a profit, same as if he asks for the social media names. I just vainly hope that he will realise life won't always go his way because he's so fucking handsome and charming.

I'm getting over it btw, I don't want relationship advice!

OP posts:
Halestorm · 04/02/2020 14:51

Look, it's not your fault you bought them as a wonderful surprise for him while you were together. You weren't to know he would break up with you before you could give him his gift.

And now he's ghosted you, well, one wouldn't want to bother him, especially given he's made his feelings quite clear.

Now buy all the domains in .com, .ie and .eu.

achainisonlyasstrong · 04/02/2020 14:51

Good thinking and don t want to be boring. But has he done anything bad besides breaking up with you which is really not a moral crime? I think you should be able to break up with a person without eliciting this kind of revenge. Thinking about it is one thing but doing it another. Move on and meet someone more fabulous.

Zilla1 · 04/02/2020 14:52

I would sell at a profit - as much as he's willing to pay. I wouldn't deactivate the social media, rather allude to some exciting plans. I wouldn't see it as being vindictive. If he ghosted with no bad behaviour beforehand on your part after a relationships then that is really unkind.

byefeliciabye · 04/02/2020 14:52

Brilliant work GrinGrin

CinderEmma · 04/02/2020 14:55

Nice move

mnthrowaway202020 · 04/02/2020 14:55

I think you’ll look quite unhinged if he ever finds out it’s you though.

AryaStarkWolf · 04/02/2020 14:56

bahahahaha that's hilarious, you are an evil genius

AtomicRabbit · 04/02/2020 14:57

Nope, don't agree with that at all. What a waste of time. It's so petty.

The best revenge is a life lived well and happily without looking back.

You are still looking back. You haven't moved on and you are still dwelling.

It makes you look like a sore loser, a bit pathetic. OK, so he's a bit of social climbing tosser. So what?

Move on.

I wouldn't want to grubby my hands with anything to do with him anymore. Yuck.

xGAIAx · 04/02/2020 14:57

I wonder if he saw this side of your personality and that is the reason he backed off.

NotALurker2 · 04/02/2020 14:59

"I think you’ll look quite unhinged if he ever finds out it’s you though."

Of course she will. Plus she'll have to keep it a secret from anyone else she ever gets close to, including friends. Unless she wants to use this as a way to weed out kind, healthy people from her life....

XJerseyGirlX · 04/02/2020 14:59

Love it

Meruem · 04/02/2020 15:00

The best revenge is a life lived well

A platitude drummed into us by society because, well we can't have everyone going around getting revenge. How messy would that be? So we are conditioned to be "good" and "take the high road". It's a load of rubbish. Good for you OP!

JosefKeller · 04/02/2020 15:01

genius!

Keep the names but forget about them.

Use your free evening to start a sport, a hobby, a course, anything to keep you occupied. Is he worth stealing all your free time?

NoNoAndDefinateNo · 04/02/2020 15:01

That is brilliant. I love it!

Post really crap pictures like a slice of bread, some paint drying that sort of thing. Ask readers/lookers for their most boring pictures.

GinAndTings · 04/02/2020 15:02

Look, it's not your fault you bought them as a wonderful surprise for him while you were together. You weren't to know he would break up with you before you could give him his gift.

And now he's ghosted you, well, one wouldn't want to bother him, especially given he's made his feelings quite clear.

Now buy all the domains in .com, .ie and .eu.

LOVE THIS!

HumousWhereTheHeartIs · 04/02/2020 15:02

I always think the best way to get revenge is to pretend you don't give a shit and recover quickly - but this is brilliant. As long as he doesn't know it's you then knock yourself out!

JosefKeller · 04/02/2020 15:03

A platitude drummed into us by society because, well we can't have everyone going around getting revenge. How messy would that be? So we are conditioned to be "good" and "take the high road". It's a load of rubbish.

depends how you look at it.
If you move on and do things for you, you can look back in 6 months or a year and see what you achieved. Chances are, you will have completely moved on by then.
if you get stuck on getting revenge, you will still be in exactly the same place months from now. Is it worth it?

Revenge is fun, but it's your own interest to get on with other things.

Rhubarbncustard4 · 04/02/2020 15:05

Brilliant - made me laugh

I hope your ok though OP and move on to a happier future - don’t waste too much more of your time on him

PenelopePissedstop · 04/02/2020 15:05

I can appreciate petty. I do believe the best ‘revenge’ is a life well led, but that doesn’t mean I don’t appreciate the humour in a small act of non malicious rebellion.

BoomBoomsCousin · 04/02/2020 15:06

That’s a great petty revenge. I wouldn’t sell them back though. Ghost any requests. Let him think up another name.

MouseTails · 04/02/2020 15:07

This is one of the pettiest revenge stories I’ve ever heard. The pettiest probably being a woman who found out her boyfriend was cheating on her so she broke up with him but ever since she has played ‘his’ lottery numbers so if he wins the jackpot it’ll be shared between them 🙈😆

MNuser12345 · 04/02/2020 15:07

This is brilliant !!!

Meruem · 04/02/2020 15:09

Revenge is fun, but it's your own interest to get on with other things

No reason at all why you can't do both!

MouseTails · 04/02/2020 15:09

@achainisonlyasstrong I don’t think he actually broke up with her because she said he’s ghosted her. Also not sure what else he did but OP said she’s been used by him in a number of ways and I very much doubt he broke up with OP and happened upon a new girlfriend the next day, it’s more than likely he cheated on her.

AryaStarkWolf · 04/02/2020 15:09

I can appreciate petty. I do believe the best ‘revenge’ is a life well led, but that doesn’t mean I don’t appreciate the humour in a small act of non malicious rebellion.

Exactly, fucking hell there are some high horsed goodie two shoes in this place today. It's funny, she hasn't killed his puppy or burned his house down