Ghosted... slightly petty revenge

[Nickynackynoodle]

I've been ghosted by someone I had quite a long relationship with, long story short he's met someone super cool and fucked off with her, quite literally overnight. She's very well connected and is helping him with his future business plans which are admittedly very exciting.

I'm pretty pissed off (and heartbroken) as I have been essentially used for the last 12 months in a number of ways so... I have bought the www. domain names and set up social media accounts in the names that he was planning to use for his exciting business.

I probably ABU but I have long evenings alone now when I used to have someone in my life, I'm being highly self disciplined in not contacting him... I'm enjoying seeing him look at the banal stuff I'm posting on insta, trying to work out who's stolen his names.

If he tries to buy the domain names I will absolutely sell them and not at a profit, same as if he asks for the social media names. I just vainly hope that he will realise life won't always go his way because he's so fucking handsome and charming.

I'm getting over it btw, I don't want relationship advice!

YAS QUEEN! ...I am so very jealous of your sheer brilliance!

Can we get a round of shots for this lady!?

When I was 20 and in Uni, I was dating this 35 year old (I'm 34, I now know how naive I was). Totally in love, we were going to have little ginger babies blah blah blah....he ghosted me. He stopped calling/coming around to my dorm room etc...so, I called up the venue where his rock band would practice 3 times a week, pretended to be the frontswoman he was bumping gingers with, and moved all of his room booking dates.

Cost him a lot of money, that.

C'EST la vie.

Love it! Ignore the haters. But please give yourself some time and then move on, everything happens for a reason and your future will be amazing x

This is brilliant and has made my day. Make sure you buy any variations of the name too...eg if it could have “The” in front of it. Shut that bitch down :) best thing I’ve read in ages

No wonder he ghosted you if that’s how sly and conniving you are.

He’s won in this scenario - I Hate to think what other abuse you’d dream up if you’d stayed together.

Um.... did you buy with your real name?

He can check the registered owner on www.whois.com ....

What I am getting at is that the sort of person who did that sort of thing would not be the sort of person you'd be heartbroken over

The thing is blowmebaloney - when we fall in love, we fall in love with the person we see before us. Sometimes that turns out not to be the real person, and the real person is a shit, not worth the steam of our piss. Intellectually, we know this - emotionally, we are still heartbroken because we are effectively bereaved - and we are grieving for the person we thought we had a relationship with.

None us here is stupid. All of us can be vulnerable.

OP you must make a profit, you could donate it to an animal charity

Or perhaps to a cause that he hates . . . in his name. Let him know.

I just think it’s mean, sorry. Is the world a better place for this? Just move on.

I thought I was a genius when I set my snorey fuckers snoring racket as his ring tone.........but you op. I can it bow down in your presence.

If I can be like you when I grow up then I will be very, very happy.

I Hate to think what other abuse you’d dream up if you’d stayed together.

Abuse...

Coming in late to say

bloody brilliant

You go grrrrl

How is buying a website name abuse? She’s perfectly entitled to buy whatever she wants. He doesn’t own it (obviously!)

go you.
i'd let him have the domain name - but only at a hefty price.

I think you had a lucky escape from him.
what he did to you, he'll do to her.

The double standard here about what is 'abuse' when women do it, compared to the actual abuse men get excused for day in day out, is staggering.

I second what @Vanhi said!!

So sorry you have been treated this way OP. Heartbreak is the worst . And YANBU for the petty revenge!!

But if you want children, then have them! Find a man before, during, after, never - whatever suits - you can still have kids. (I’m Speaking as a woman in her mid to late 30s whose just had a baby and planning another in unconventional circumstances. I also have a lovely bf btw).

Xxx

Well played, OP. Well played

I love this, inspired. I would take it further - start posting 'teasers' on the Instagram page for the brilliant new business which is about to launch - like 'T-30 days to our incredible launch, stay tuned'

Add in little touches which hints at a similar business to his but doesn't make it clear at all.

It is a good life lesson to him. Don't be put off by people suggesting you are mean spirited.

Oh perleaseeee don’t sell the domain names to him - -you can’t ask for a huge profit as he’ll refuse and re-name and you’ll feel as. Though he’s ‘won’ / just keep them. Or sell doggy diapers or something in that name.
Well done - I think it’s a really cool revenge.

Use the £30k for a sperm doner and have the kids you want? My friend did it and had her gorgeous twins at 42.

I love this, inspired. I would take it further - start posting 'teasers' on the Instagram page for the brilliant new business which is about to launch - like 'T-30 days to our incredible launch, stay tuned.’

Add in little touches which hints at a similar business to his but doesn't make it clear at all.

Love it! Great idea. That would get him really worried!

Op, you are my hero xx

I love it.

I don't get why some people are saying it's petty? Surely ghosting someone and just leaving their life to be with someone who can progress their career is pretty low? So, on balance, the OP's response is pretty calm. It's not like she has caused hundreds of pounds of damage to his property!! She simply registered a domain name 🤷‍♀️

That’s exactly what petty means, she’s done a small thing that may inconvenience him. She hasn’t committed a crime or damaged his property. She’s done something petty that’s made her feel better.

I keep picturing the op cackling to herself as she pressed the purchase button.

Absolutely hilarious 😂😂😂

Good for you !
Sick of people treating others like they’re nothing when something better comes along.