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Ghosted... slightly petty revenge

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Nickynackynoodle · 04/02/2020 14:28

I've been ghosted by someone I had quite a long relationship with, long story short he's met someone super cool and fucked off with her, quite literally overnight. She's very well connected and is helping him with his future business plans which are admittedly very exciting.

I'm pretty pissed off (and heartbroken) as I have been essentially used for the last 12 months in a number of ways so... I have bought the www. domain names and set up social media accounts in the names that he was planning to use for his exciting business.

I probably ABU but I have long evenings alone now when I used to have someone in my life, I'm being highly self disciplined in not contacting him... I'm enjoying seeing him look at the banal stuff I'm posting on insta, trying to work out who's stolen his names.

If he tries to buy the domain names I will absolutely sell them and not at a profit, same as if he asks for the social media names. I just vainly hope that he will realise life won't always go his way because he's so fucking handsome and charming.

I'm getting over it btw, I don't want relationship advice!

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MarshaBradyo · 04/02/2020 15:10

It’s really easy to do all this so he should have done it before talking about names.

stakeholderwizz · 04/02/2020 15:10

I would sell that at a premium TBH!

PepePig · 04/02/2020 15:10

Sell for a profit Grin

Nah, sometimes in life you need to throw the odd low blow. I got broken up with in an awful way a few years ago and it took me weeks to get my belongings back because he was too much of a pussy. So, I may have "sabotaged" his PS4 controller he leant me when giving it back Smile.

AryaStarkWolf · 04/02/2020 15:11

The pettiest probably being a woman who found out her boyfriend was cheating on her so she broke up with him but ever since she has played ‘his’ lottery numbers so if he wins the jackpot it’ll be shared between them

bahahahaha that's really funny, how did that even occur to her

Lovemusic33 · 04/02/2020 15:12

I think it’s brilliant, well done for thinking it up and doing it. If he does find out you bought them I think you should offer them to him for a very unfair price 😂, don’t let him have them for what you paid for them.

LangLiveThePenis · 04/02/2020 15:13

I'd sell them to him for a profit and give it to charity.

MouseTails · 04/02/2020 15:15

@AryaStarkWolf I don’t remember now if she’s included in her post how it occurred to her but she obviously has a great imagination! And much better than things like prawns in curtain poles/cutting up clothes because she’s not doing anything that’s actually wrong but can imagine how infuriating it’d be to have half of the lottery jackpot and your ex having the other half! Grin

mayaknew · 04/02/2020 15:16

OP that us absolutely genius!!!!!

If I ever need a bit of revenge I'll be sending you a DM! 🤣 I'd never think of doing something like that! Well done ! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

crystal1717 · 04/02/2020 15:16

Good idea. If he wants them get him to pay you a large % of his new company.

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Nickynackynoodle · 04/02/2020 15:16

I know I need to move on. The domains are mine for 2 years for a few quid. I'll
Probably forget about them when I've stopped crying myself to sleep. I've been naive and am annoyed with myself as well as missing what was a convincing effort on his part.

I'm also trying to do the live well thing. Finding it tough & had to get signed off work for a bit.

It literally went from "I love you" to nothing within 24 hours... and then it all became clear. He'd found someone who could help him more.

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AryaStarkWolf · 04/02/2020 15:17

@MouseTails it's absolute genius Grin

Eckhart · 04/02/2020 15:17

@NotALurker2

you'll be outing yourself as a mean-spirited and vindictive bitch which will only validate why he dumped you.

Whereas you yourself are such a kindhearted soul.

Time40 · 04/02/2020 15:17

Brilliant! I love it. What a great revenge.

Sell them to him for a profit, and treat yourself to something nice with the money. Or even better, sell them to someone else for a profit.

fromdownwest · 04/02/2020 15:18

Did he cheat on you or just leave you?

PS You do not sound like you are getting over it.

Petty and childish at best I would say, at worst if he could ascertain that you have taken IP from him, or any of his accounts, even prior to him leaving, then a letter from an IP lawyer may make interesting reading.

DonKeyshot · 04/02/2020 15:19

Great move, OP. Hope you make a considerable profit on your investment. Grin Wine

cstaff · 04/02/2020 15:20

As Craig would say on Strictly - FAB UUUUU LUS. I love it.....

It is genius OP. If he has no clue about it - even better.

Justanotherlurker · 04/02/2020 15:20

You do realise you can find out who owns the domains?

Either way, I'm sure he can just set up a different domain if needed, but whatever gets you through it.

LouHotel · 04/02/2020 15:20

I think the petty is justified and think your brilliant OP.

Ghosting is really shitty and doesn’t allow you closure, let this be your closure and don’t give it anymore headspace.

Kirschcherry · 04/02/2020 15:22

I think it’s genius op. I’m sorry you are hurting and hope you feel better soon.

ShesGotBetteDavisEyes · 04/02/2020 15:22

I love it! I also love the lottery number story - imagine his face if he won and then realised he’d have to share with his ex!

ajandjjmum · 04/02/2020 15:23

Brilliant. Take care of yourself, give yourself time to get over it, and move on.

MuthaFunka61 · 04/02/2020 15:23

Good on you @Nickynackynoodle.
That's a master stroke (or mistress stroke,which ever floats your boat).

Live your life well for you,you deserve it and treat yourself with the profit you make.

You rock!

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Nickynackynoodle · 04/02/2020 15:24

@Justanotherlurker I've researched this & you can find the company they're registered through but not my name. The company will contact me if someone wants to buy them. Confused

@fromdownwest he'd struggle to say this was his IP.

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PhilCornwall1 · 04/02/2020 15:25

There is no way you'll be able to sell him the domain names because if you do, you'll be outing yourself as a mean-spirited and vindictive bitch which will only validate why he dumped you.

Do a lookup and you may just find your name is against it as the registrant.

WhatTiggersDoBest · 04/02/2020 15:27

So... he's got inside your head to the point that you've spent money on Domain Name Registration (did you also pay for privacy because if not he can absolutely look up who owns the domain, and if so you've spent even more money on this) and you've wasted time on posting things to the Instagram?
Sorry, I'm not seeing how you've had the last laugh here.