Partner hit me with a pillow this morning in anger

[Milosunshine]

I’m aware a pillow isn’t the worst thing you can throw at someone however my partner has gone into an angry outburst because I haven’t made his breakfast this morning. For the past 2 years I have created a rod for my own back and woken up at 5am (2 and half hours before I am due to leave for work) and made his breakfast and lunch. I mentioned last week I was getting tired so at the end of last week he let me lie in. This morning he is infuriated and said it was one off. Just venting really as I feel so emotional and guilty 😞

I really hope OP is ok, been thinking of her all day xx

@HippoMumsy me too such a horrible situation. I can't get her out of my head and hope she hasn't minimised his behaviour and gone back

@HeadachesByTheDozen they are also wrong!

I know me too...but if she has - we are still here for her for any support she might need xx

I wonder how she's doing now though..
Are you still at your cousins?

they are also wrong!

But again as I said, you are only going to say 'fucking' if you are frustrated. So both are acceptable because they both have different circumstances/connotations. You say read the fucking thread! if you are exasperated with people not reading before posting.

If you are talking about yourself, you are not likely to be exasperated with yourself, hence why you would say I haven't read the full thread.

1. Refers to other people.
2. Refers to yourself.

Both are right depending on either circumstance.

my Aunt used to think LOL meant lots of Love... all sorts of mayhem resulted 🤓🌼

RTFT isn't a MN acronym, it's been around a lot longer, like RTFM (Read The Fucking Manual). I've been online since '97, and it was in use then.

1. Refers to other people.
2. Refers to yourself.

Both are right depending on either circumstance.

The important thing is though, that people at least read the OP's updates, and preferably the last couple of posts before they press Post.

Save lots of unnecessary (and sometimes unkind) comments along with a huge amount of repetition

Another one here, thinking about her and wishing her well. However, now after this amount of time, I feel like it's really likely.... She's gone back. Reading her other threads, she's probably returned to TTC with him as well. OP - if you're still reading, we're still here for you.

Maybe it depends on the presence of an exclamation mark and the rest of the sentence?
'Please RTFT before commenting' as opposed to 'RTFT! '

Thinking of you and hope you’re OK OP. I read your posts with my heart in my mouth - you are dating my ex! Not literally I hope, but he also expected me to get up early every day to make his breakfast, threw pillows at me, and told me that I wasn’t fairly representing him to friends if I complained because I should be telling them about all the good stuff he does for me now.

I’m willing to bet he’s love-bombing you right now and telling you that you’re the only girl for him and that nobody can ever understand what you two have, because it’s so special. If he is, and if you’ve caved and gone back, then it’s ok and it’s not your fault. It’s all part of the cycle that you need to break from.

You need to know that in a healthy relationship, ‘the good outweighs the bad’ is not something you even need to think about. Your relationship is not a balance sheet and a partner who treats you this way even 1% of the time is NOT a good partner no matter how lovely he is the other 99%.

Op are you ok? I hope you haven't felt pressure to go back tomorrow him and minimise what he's done . If you have gone back to him be strong and stay safe. Do not put up with his abusive behaviour you are worth more

Hope you're ok OP

Please do the Freedom Programme. You won’t regret it

Such an a**hole, at least take turns making eachother breakfast. That would be nice

@Milosunshine hope you are ok