To be annoyed by shopping as a family outing?

[Sweetbabycheezits]

I normally do the food shop on Saturday or Sunday morning. It's not rammed, but it's fairly busy, and one of the things that makes it so busy is entire families grocery shopping together. Yesterday, it was mum, dad and 3 kids maybe 5/6 and under...why?? The kids were bored and whingy, in the way, touching everything on the shelves. Surely one parent can stay home with kids, and one can do the shopping? I totally understand lone parents who work in the week having to take the kids along, but can't for the life of me understand why on earth the whole family needs to go? I'm probably just grumpy lol, so it could be that IABU...

My husband is not capable of doing a big shop on his own, he buys all sorts of things we would never have so I am in charge of doing the shopping, but I still drag him along to chew his ear off on the way round (we get very little time together due to his work) and more importantly he lugs all the bags for me 😊 ultimately it does mean the kids get brought along but we don't mind!

Can’t you find something better to do than ‘spend time together’ in Tesco?

Off topic, but do you remember when supermarkets had dating nights? I wonder if they still do?

Not read the whole thread but this story has made my local rag online

and one of the things that makes it so busy is entire families grocery shopping together.

You make it busier too OP, everyone adds to the numbers in the shop. Maybe online shopping would suit you better. You can be as intolerant as you like then in the comfort of your own home.

Online shopping and click and collect for me. Me and ds are autistic so no way are we doing supermarkets

Can’t you find something better to do than ‘spend time together’ in Tesco?

Why does this bother posters so much? :o

It's not my idea of fun but each to their own. It's their family time and they should spend it how they like.

My husband is not capable of doing a big shop on his own, he buys all sorts of things we would never have so I am in charge of doing the shopping

This absolutely riles me, tbh. I see threads on here near enough every day about how 'D'H can't be left alone with the kids, the household falls apart when he's left on his own, etc. I find it very, very difficult to believe that a grown man, who presumably holds down some sort of professional job, is not "capable" of doing a bloody grocery shop.

It isn't rocket science. You walk around and put things into a trolley. You have a budget. You pay at the end. You put it in your car and go home.

Can we please stop infantilising men in this manner? Not only is it ridiculous, but what if anything was to happen to you? He'd have to cope, then. Much better for him to do a few shops and learn how to do it effectively, than strip him off the responsibility like a child.

Alternatively, can we also stop letting men out of doing things because they're intentially shit at it? Don't get me wrong, it's fine if you like doing the shop but no one becomes good at doing something if they never get a chance to. And helping someone who's quite bossy when doing the shop isn't the same as doing it yourself.

I enjoy spending time with dh in all sorts of places, supermarket, park, beach, pub, gardening, cleaning, driving, working....I feel a bit sorry for people who only enjoy time together when all the work is done.....perhaps your parents left you at home while they did the shopping?

We leave the car at home and walk. I can't carry all the bags on my own so we all go.

I'm not talking about whole family appointments, I'm talking about when whole families attending an appointment when one name is called

Like when the entire extended family turns up in a&e for a day out.

@SlippersAndThePaper yes exactly that 😆. It's common on mumsnet for posters to try and pick holes in what you've said (especially if they are ones guilty of the action being discussed 👀). I'm sure it was pretty obvious what I was referring to and in a small waiting room it's impossible not to overhear whether it's one appointment or several for the entire extended family being checked in for.

@Pepepig you really shouldn't let this rile you, you have taken my comment out of context. My husband is more than capable of running our household just as well as I am, however when it comes to shopping he lacks willpower and buys more treats than I like to have in the house or will swap products if not in stock and I am a bit fussy with them. I don't make excuses for something he isn't able to do, I said he wasn't capable of doing a big shop but he would feed our family fine if he had to make all decisions himself, I just like what I like and I also like spending time with him wherever that may be.

My kids come shopping with me, because I feel they need to experience the the reality of life, its sometimes bloody boring but you need to do it. It also gives them a good learning perspective on the price of things such as food and basic living essentials.
My husband, or elder children (18&16) come with me sometimes because I'm disabled and need their help sometimes, also if I have been struggling with anxiety it's nice to have some support.
My husband doesn't go shopping on his own because he'd buy stuff that me and the kids wouldn't want to eat, and he'd never buy enough for everyone there's 7 of us, and he hasn't ever been able to gage how much the kids eat, he's just not that person he's fine to grab milk, bread, and loo rolls but after that it's just a waste of time. Just my penny's worth.

Do all 7 of you go together?

I see families shopping together all the time! I've never noticed it was a problem. although I have a boy who really struggled with shopping when he was younger and we definitely got our fair share of tutting, eye rolling and snooty looks.

I often get my dh to take me shopping with my ds as I don't drive . But more often than not I'll do it online for the reason that it's less hassle to not drag my ds out with us .

This thread has made The Sun, must have been a slow news day lol

Good grief...who knew my minor rant would become tabloid fodder!?

Can you put a link on please x