To be annoyed by shopping as a family outing?

[Sweetbabycheezits]

I normally do the food shop on Saturday or Sunday morning. It's not rammed, but it's fairly busy, and one of the things that makes it so busy is entire families grocery shopping together. Yesterday, it was mum, dad and 3 kids maybe 5/6 and under...why?? The kids were bored and whingy, in the way, touching everything on the shelves. Surely one parent can stay home with kids, and one can do the shopping? I totally understand lone parents who work in the week having to take the kids along, but can't for the life of me understand why on earth the whole family needs to go? I'm probably just grumpy lol, so it could be that IABU...

When do they learn how to do those chores if they're never part of them

I see this so often on MN. It's such a strange attitude. Funnily enough kids learn to do things when they need to do them. And even if you don't take them to do a full food shop ever in their lives, I'm sure you have them with you at some point when you buy something in a shop. They don't need "teaching" how to buy things. They do need teaching how to manage money but a busy weekend supermarket shop isn't a prerequisite for that.

If your kids like supermarkets, fair enough. But if they don't, please either leave them at home or shop online. Retail staff get headaches every single day from screaming kids.

There's a couple near me who do the school run together every day. I say run, but they walk. Walk the kid to school, chat to other parents, wait til bell goes, slowly walk away.

Obviously to them, this is an enjoyable part of their day.

Some folk are mental.

I've only just seen the posts by @FelicisNox and @Wingingit247
Jeeze, if someone made a post like that about women you'd be up in arms.

I'm sorry that you both have such crappy partners. But actually many many men are fully functioning in the shopping and cooking department. I don't have a single male friend who's unable to do a weekly shop efficiently. They're also all good cooks.

Maybe you should take some time to teach your partners how to do it if they're deficient in this area, rather than treating them like children and then belittling them on a forum.

If you don't like it, start shopping online that way you can avoid it all. I don't drive so need my husband to help bring the groceries back so that means I take my 3 children with me. My kids like helping, when they were around 3/4 I use to do picture lists for them so they always felt involved.

SERIOUSLY?

Sounds to me like you aren’t wondering if you’re being unreasonable, you are just letting all us other mums know that people out there judge us when we bring our kids to the supermarket. Everyone has their own reasons for doing what they do, have u nothing else to think about? Moaning about such a non issue.

Are u ok hun?

HowlsMovingBungalow

It depends how invested in the label the couple are.

This is the darkest side of the label www.nytimes.com/2018/06/01/opinion/sunday/tradwives-women-alt-right.html, but there's a load of women using it because they've come across it on the internet or This Morning.

My kids quite like going to the supermarket and my dh and I like going together. Different people like different things.

Thanks for the link @Pothole - scary stuff!

It’s nobody’s business but the family, surely? I’d like shops, trains and planes without restless, noisy children and inconsiderate adults. I just accept that everyone has a life and unless they’re breaking the law there’s not a lot I can do about it.

Oooof, you'd all hate it where I live!

Friday night in a Caribbean supermarket is where the social network is AT!! The place is lit, families out to catch up with each other and I'm not talking parents and children, I'm talking grandparents, parents, several kids, bumping into old friends and catching up in the aisle with their trolleys blocking everything. I'm not even exaggerating!

You don't go grocery shopping on a Friday night unless you love being intensely frustrated and waiting in line at checkouts.

I go early Saturday morning by myself, without kids and without husband. It's quiet and I can get it all done without the incessant whining of "mom can I have...?"

PotholeParadise That article made my blood run cold.

I don't think I've ever done a full food shop with OH.
Nightmare

We just send each other a text of things needed and whoever can pop to Aldi on the way home gets what is needed.

He is a grown up, I am a grown up, we don't need to hand hold to do a food shop.

Since my DD was born 12 years ago I've always done online shopping. I never saw the point of dragging my children around the shops;.I'd rather take them to the park. Online shopping is so much more convenient too. They do love going supermarket shopping with us when we're abroad though.

WorraLiberty thank you. Both my husband and I are retired and don’t have much spare money time. I keep joking I’m going back to work as I had more spare time then. We do school runs every day and look after grandchildren before/after school and during school the day. Therefore I’m one of those annoying people who sometimes do shopping at the lunch time or on a Saturday AND with children in tow! How annoying am I 😂😂😂😂😂😊

I hate families getting in my way so I shop in the evening. You have picked the days most families would go out together. Change you routine or stop moaning.

@TwoZeroTwoZero I'm not talking about whole family appointments, I'm talking about when whole families attending an appointment when one name is called

@happycamper11 like last time I went to the dentist and a family of 8 came in for one child’s appointment an hour early and when told they had the time wrong they said ‘no problem, we’ll just wait’ and took up the entire (tiny) waiting room

YANBU, but some people ( My DH) Don't like going shopping alone. And will beg me and the kids to go to the supermarket with him. It's weird. He loves spending ages in the supermarket. If it was up to him it would definitely be a family affair

Some people... just want to?

Exactly as Leaannb has said. Great learning opportunities and teaches children about real life tasks.

Leaannb
I use grocery shopping as a teaching moment. On how to budget, how to read labels and besides each one of my kids are responsible for cooking 1 night each week. Meaning they have to plan,budget,shop, cook and clean. They go grocery shopping**

My friend's husband and DS all go together. He insists - he likes them all to be together. She hates it but won't let him do it himself alone because she doesn't trust him to get the right stuff.

Fun, eh?

I'm a lone parent. I use Ocado mostly, so when we do shop together it's usually just a few bits and it's for a recipe or something.

They dont need "teaching" how to buy things

When mine must be really thick because they most certainly did. Knowing how to assess fresh produce, to check use by dates (and when it's necessary and when it's not), how to tell a good joint of meat from a bad one, how to compare prices despite the supermarket's best efforts to make it difficult, which fish from which fishery is sustainable and what's not. Even how to place things on the checkout belt so they can be efficiently packed and unpacked - I had to show them everything.

Exactly as Leaannb has said. Great learning opportunities and teaches children about real life tasks

Great but why take DH, grandma and great Aunty Hilda at the same time?

I'm not talking about whole family appointments, I'm talking about when whole families attending an appointment when one name is called When we go to the dentist only one name (mine) is called but the app't is for all of us.

Ok, but it works differently at mine . And surely if all had appointments they'd all go on the room and not sit and wait outside then leave. This situation does happen most often at doctors though where it's definitely just one name called per patient