To be annoyed by shopping as a family outing?

[Sweetbabycheezits]

I normally do the food shop on Saturday or Sunday morning. It's not rammed, but it's fairly busy, and one of the things that makes it so busy is entire families grocery shopping together. Yesterday, it was mum, dad and 3 kids maybe 5/6 and under...why?? The kids were bored and whingy, in the way, touching everything on the shelves. Surely one parent can stay home with kids, and one can do the shopping? I totally understand lone parents who work in the week having to take the kids along, but can't for the life of me understand why on earth the whole family needs to go? I'm probably just grumpy lol, so it could be that IABU...

Yabu, in some families both parents work and want to spend every minute with their children on weekends. Also, parents like to teach children the cost of everyday living and maybe they do their shopping on route to grannies house, either way none of your business and YA definitely BU

I don't mind family groups. It's the pensioner days out that wind me up. Have a chat in the cafe if you must, but not 3 abreast in front of the milk.

Ugh Yanbu. I find it annoying and. Bit pathetic. You don’t need to go together.

I personally think what others do, and how they do their shopping is not anybody concern. If they take their kids or if they don't. Why can't one parent stay home baloney...

I've done plenty of shops with my kids straight after kids club or school, reason being with all the running around ferrying them across the city, I won't have time to go fetch the milk I will need again or somehow my son needs something for school and it's soo important that he can't wait for tomorrow. (secondary school) so I have done thst taken the kids in with me. I don't shop as its entertainment for them. They get that at home on the TV family board games and their PlayStation. Of course thus after school, on way back from somewhere you go do a shop kids do just want to go home. And even if u took kids as a family shop, fine you can do that. Supermarkets are not made for just a person, and making comments about kids taking things off shelves.... Yes they do and not putting them back they are kids... Yes they need to know to put it back, however iv seen adults do that a plenty. Frozen food by the baskets at the tills, dairy products amongst the cat food. It happens its wrong. But uknow u get on with life.

I make shopping lists with them, I've even showed my kids look help me decide which item I should go for and why? We have worked out if a bigger jar works out better then a smaller jar of chocolate spread, or if a branded item on offer is better then supermarket brand in price today? They look at prices, they know the value of things so they in turn value them better.... Oh mum these cookies are £1 today they are usually on at £1.50.

However all in all, I've read through the posts and some of u MN can be so judgemental. I know I'm going to get alot of my current post but uknow I will share my view and leave. Rest is upto you if u want to argue about it. First post in your opinion its your opinion. You asked for an opinion on it you got my opinion on it. Stay happy

I feel the same about Doctor/dentist/optician appointments. Regularly seems to be a whole family outing where practically the whole waiting room is taken up and bored dc run riot.
Seriously?
You think large families should book their dental/whatever appointments spread over several weekends so that you get a variety of people to wait with??? . Wow.

I’m a trad wife. It is my job to do the shopping. It is my job to look after the children. If I mismanaged my time and have to do shopping on the weekends I have to take them with me. I have thought my children how to behave in public even when they are doing something boring. My children also help. The older children have a list and are responsible for making sure their list is within the budget on their list. The youngest has to pick the items that match the pictures on her list.

Doesn't bother me at all. As long as mine are behaving. They know where everything is in the supermarket and can work the self scanner so I'm happy. If anything is too high for me to reach I can pick them up and they reach it for me. I just feel my life is too short to worry about what other people are doing, but that's just me.

I always complain about this. Our tesco is full of sullen looking teenagers standing around in front of the shelves staring at their phones, while two parents do the shopping, and miserable toddlers on a full family outing. It's not a family day out, it's not fun and takes twice as long with kids in tow. I don't drive yet (nearly there though and I have a car waiting!) so either DH does the shop on a weekend morning or I do it and he does something else with DD then comes back for me. I do the self scan so no need for any help with packing or anything. If all else fails we do it online.

My kids are 2 and 4. We always book a dentist appointment as a 4 appointment slot and all go in together. It helps them be a bit more cooperative seeing their parents having their teeth checked first. The 4 year old has a heart defect and had open heart surgery about 18 months ago. She has frequent hospital appointments and we all go. She has a lot of anxiety after the trauma of going through surgery, she wants both parents there and we usually don't have anyone to have DS.

Everyone is just doing what's right for their family. There are so many cats bum mouthed, miserable fuckers in this world.

Not everyone drives/has a car, so respective parent and therefore children have to tag along to help carry bags onto public transport/walk.
We live across the road from two supermarkets Lidl and Tesco so I can go by myself.

consfusedandlookingforwine

I’m a trad wife. It is my job to do the shopping. It is my job to look after the children. If I mismanaged my time and have to do shopping on the weekends I have to take them with me. I have thought my children how to behave in public even when they are doing something boring. My children also help. The older children have a list and are responsible for making sure their list is within the budget on their list. The youngest has to pick the items that match the pictures on her list.

Does your husband know you're using the internet?

Yes, internet access is very traditional. Along with cars, modern cleaning products and washing machines.

If you have agreed to take on all the domestic labour in your relationship, then say that. All this twee tradwife-ing off twitter reminds me off nothing so much as teenagers going to Straight Pride marches 'because heterosexuality should be celebrated too', because they feel left out without a label.

So being a ‘trad wife’ means you can’t possibly leave your children with your DH while you do the food shop?

I’m pretty sure my Grandad looked after his children back in the 50s. He definitely was the person who went to them when they were ill.

I totally agree op. Why drag your children around the shops when they could be at home playing and having fun with the other parent.
I notice it so much nowadays - some couples do everything together (daily chores I mean) and it seems such a waste of valuable time. I can only put it down to untrusting partners or simply that one of them is too nervous to go out alone.
It's pretty sad when you think about it.

Why drag your children around the shops when they could be at home playing and having fun with the other parent

My dc quite enjoy coming shopping with me.

Why drag your children around the shops when they could be at home playing and having fun with the other parent I could apply that logic to myself: why bother going to work when I could be an home chilling out and having fun? My dh works! Yes I'm an adult so it's a bit different but when does it change? When do children learn that life involves chores and other crap as well as fun and games? When do they learn how to do those chores if they're never part of them? I think this is why we have lots of people growing up now without basic life skills - they've been sheltered and babied too much as children.

I think it’s piss poor parenting to keep your kids home instead of taking them out and about with you, but we’re all different.

I feel the same about Doctor/dentist/optician appointments. Regularly seems to be a whole family outing where practically the whole waiting room is taken up and bored dc run riot. It's easier and quicker to get the whole family's teeth/eyes checked at the same time. When we took dc1 for his most recent app't with the paediatrician, we had to take dc2 as well because it was in the holidays. Both dh and I like to go together because that way we can answer the questions about dc1 together: one of us might notice something the other hasn't for example so we're able to give a rounder picture. Unfortunately that meant all of us in the waiting room but the dc certainly weren't "running riot".

There is no excuse NOT to drive too and share driving. It's not the 1950s but fgs all these women on here who keep saying 'DH drives but I dont' LEARN!! Erm... my sister doesn't drive and relies on her dh to do so because she has epilepsy and can't. Is that a good enough excuse for you?

There is no excuse NOT to drive too and share driving.

I much prefer people who do not drive, for any reason, than morons who put us all at risk by driving like lunatics or idiots. Go no further than around a school and admire the parking skills.

So yes, it's absolutely fine not to drive if you don't want to. And nothing to do with strangers.

We do a shop in a saturday with the dc, after swimming lessons. Don't get me wrong I'd rather go on my own but I've recently increased my hours in work so work most week days. We live semi rural so I'm not about to drive my dc home just do make the journey back to the supermarket. If I get a day off in the week I do it then whilst their in school.

It's absolutely ridiculous to always keep children at home if there's a parent available just so their mere presence doesn't upset random members of the public.

Shop online then, duh

What in fresh hell is a 'traditional wife'?

What annoys me most is when I’m trying to do my shopping and it coincides with when Tesco have released their team of online shoppers. Last time in certain aisles you could not move for them blocking aisles with their carts and stopping for chats.

OP you can find it annoying as you like. That dosent changet tje fact that family's have just as much right to be there as anyone else . If YOU dont like it then YOU need to change YOUR way of shopping.