To leave 16 and 13 year old alone overnight

[Scampitramp]

School years 11 & 9. 13 year old nearly 14.

We've been invited to a party a couple of hours away so will stay overnight. Would leave mid afternoon Saturday & return around lunchtime Sunday. Used to being left while we go out locally, sometimes until early hours. Fairly sensible - can be trusted not to have friends over/parties/not to set fire to the house.

Seeing it as first foray into further independence.

Yay or nay??

It all depends on the dc themselves. I could leave one of mine but not the other dueto personalities etc, plus my dc do not get on and it would be ww3 within half an hour.

Surely even teens that dont get on have to learn to live in relative harmony. And you build up to leaving them. Most teen siblings delight in winding each other up but if someone else tried to they have each other's back. What if they still dont get on at 18 and 20 but are still at home. Do you never leave them just in case

Well that 13yr old managed to move out last summer at 17, and is completely independent from me so no regrets.
As I said though, there was an iron tight back up plan that first time, leaving her overnight was rare anyway, I hardly ever go out and next time I'm away overnight she's coming, as she wants to, I can't have done that bad a job when she wants to spend time with me.

Pumpkin so that says as a parent you are responsible for the children if the babysitter is under 16. It's protection for the babysitter IMHO. Not for the children or the parent.

No one is desputing parents have a big influence over children and being too over protective isn't helpful at all. But I also think we are debating what would be over protective.

You know your kids.
Have a plan for worst case scenario that they can carry out.

Scouts can be camp without a leader if they are deemed capable and o let you know if they are

Italiangreyhound
You accused me of posting something that's not true!
Why?

@IHaveBrilloHair What did i say?

There

@IHaveBrilloHair I've looked back through all the messages and cannot see anywhere where I have spoken to you directly, let alone accused you of lying.

I think you are confusing me with someone else

I definitely would have trusted my 16 and 13 year old children a few years ago to stay home alone ..they are now adults !! My main concern would have been the general mess to come home to..no one has died from mess!!

Words fail was directed at Joseph who said words fail in relation to my post. He or she highlighted part of my post and said words fail. After I asked them not to keep talking to me.

I said 'Clearly not true' because words did not fail him or her. I was not addressing you or your post.

@IHaveBrilloHair I am sorry if you were offended but I was not talking to or about you.

Crikey...calm down everyone..basically there are some mummies who say yes and others who say no ..night night 💤