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Original poster

It’s rude to take one look at the dinner I have cooked then get lots of condiments for it.

561 replies

Wasail · 29/01/2020 22:32

I spend time preparing a meal that is tasty and balanced, H takes one look at it, doesn’t taste it or anything, just gets his collection of condiments from the fridge and smothers his dinner.
We are talking things like truffle mayo ( he is a bit wanky with his condiment collection) so things that will fundamentally change the flavour of the meal. And no, I didn’t make fish and chips. ketchup or mayo, not both, would be acceptable in that case.
I think it’s unbelievably rude of him, he thinks it’s perfectly fine.

OP posts:
Mymomsbetterthanyomom · 31/01/2020 23:24

@Wasail
Gasp!!!!
How dare you?!Lol
Good grief...These comments to your perfectly reasonable question are telling of their homelives for sure!!

Incrediblytired · 31/01/2020 23:26

If I’m honest, I think it’s vile, common and shows an unrefined palate. It’s just bad etiquette.

Justdontdoit · 01/02/2020 02:06

I voted YABU only because I eat mayo with absolutely everything, bar soup! Confused Unrefined palate maybe, but I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m addicted, lol. If he enjoys it, leave him to it. It doesn’t mean that he has no appreciation for your effort. Condiments just make a good thing better Grin

urkidding · 01/02/2020 06:07

It is insulting and childish to do that. Divorce him and find someone who appreciates your cooking!

urkidding · 01/02/2020 06:10

It what about chicken nuggets everyday for him? Stop cooking for him.

KatherineJaneway · 01/02/2020 06:22

I spend time preparing a meal that is tasty and balanced

Tasty in your opinion, clearly not his.

I think it’s unbelievably rude of him, he thinks it’s perfectly fine.

Why are you trying to change him? Clearly this is not new behaviour yet you cook fish roulade with cheese sauce and veg, a delicately flavoured dish, and expect him to eat it as it is. He likes strong flavours, do you ever cook with strong flavours?

Elfblossom · 01/02/2020 07:58

Do you realise that there are children in the UK who go to bed hungry or go to school with no breakfast because their families are being kept in poverty by this shitty government ... there are children all over the world living in war zones or being shot by a peer whilst doing something as normal as going to school... Children literally surviving by digging through rubbish dumps ... but what YOU are SO upset about, and so "exceptionally" so that you have to write about on the internet, is that someone put condiments on a meal you made???

You clearly have too much time on your hands ... why not go and help out at food bank or a homeless kitchen/shelter ...

On a serious note ... are there other issues in your relationship? Is this a straw/camel thing? If this is the true level of things you have to complain to the world about then you're lucky. If not, if there are real issues in the relationship that you're masking with 'condiments' then deal with them or break up.

Juliette20 · 01/02/2020 08:05

Oh do bore off. No-one is ever allowed to complain about anything more minor when there are serious things going on in the world. May as well shut down Mumsnet, then.

Original poster
Wasail · 01/02/2020 08:22

Voting is slowly going in my favour, if I can keep the thread going for another 400 posts I might just get to 50/50 Grin

OP posts:
Mumgonenuts2020 · 01/02/2020 08:31

I have had stick for years from my H I have a food snobbery problem😄 I have learnt to accept that I just need to mirror takeaway good and the normal roast dinner is a way to my husbands Heart. However we went to hungry horse the two of us on the way to go and see 8’out of 10 cats and he a Quadsilla Burger 42 years of age btw with a ranch sauce and Another sauce he wasn’t happy with in which he picked half of this off with a serviette, in which he wished he had asked for no sauce in the end, but he ate it as he was hungry I had scampi and jacket potato and peas and tarter sauce!! 😄😄 You are right 20wedding19 it is how they are brought up. I was lucky my dad was a chef!! 😄

Campervanlife4me · 01/02/2020 10:28

My dsd used to do this with ketchup. On sunday dinners, bolognese, on everything!

Aglet · 01/02/2020 12:09

I get stick from my family when I ask them how they can possibly appreciate the flavours of the meal if they drown it in chilli sauce. Seasoning is one thing, but they might as well have a plate of boiled rice or mashed spuds if they are only interested in the taste of chilli sauce.

Scarletoharaseyebrows · 01/02/2020 12:54

Oh, elfblossom won't somebody think of the children?

It's mumsnet, not the Guardian headlines. Big off.

Bonnetdedeuce · 01/02/2020 13:46

Although horseradish pairs beautifully with smoked mackerel/trout, earthy truffle would be too overpowering for such a fish dish and certainly not a cheese sauce, as for the 🌶 sauce...leave the philistine!! 😁 🤢 Chilli flakes on broccoli are naice though.
The addition of salt would enhance the flavours so he wouldn’t have to cover your lovely meals in all that crap, I can see where your coming from my H covers everything in bloody Worcestershire sauce but he is an ogre, enjoy your meal and let him crack on. Want fish in 🧀 sauce now.

KatherineJaneway · 01/02/2020 14:14

My dsd used to do this with ketchup. On sunday dinners, bolognese, on everything!

I make bolognese with some ketchup. Gives it a lovely twist.

Melliha · 01/02/2020 15:16

My husband used to salt his meal without tasting until he ate a piece of gammon that was salty.
By all means season food if it needs it but check it needs it fisrt.

jwpetal · 01/02/2020 15:18

I make food for my family then had hot chilli sauce. It doesn't bother me at all. Just let him do it. The reaction is more of a reflection of you then of him.

Olliephaunt4eyes · 01/02/2020 22:15
LoveIsLovely · 01/02/2020 22:42

Some of these comments are hilarious. A lack of etiquette, an unrefined palate, oh noes!!!

My husband is not British and it makes you realise how ridiculous a lot of stuff around food or whatever is. The first time I made rice pudding, he literally thought I was joking (he loves it now though). On the other hand, he thinks that potato on pizza is normal.

So which of us has the unrefined palate?

StrangeLookingParasite · 01/02/2020 23:34

I can't think of anything more depressing that my dinner being a meal I didn't like but was not allowed to object to because the cook had "put a look of work in".

This is just not what was said. All she is asking is that he taste the food before adding anything else to it. For that matter, how can you make a decision about what would go best with it if you haven't tasted it?
At no point was it said that he should not be allowed to add anything ever, and all the remarks about her cooking, or how enjoyable or not fish roulade is, are just rude, for no reason at all.

KatherineJaneway · 02/02/2020 08:01

All she is asking is that hetastethe food before adding anything else to it.

Maybe he knows op doesn't cook with enough salt from experience for example

Bella2020 · 02/02/2020 08:16

I think it's a bit precious of you. Some people like extra seasoning or flavours. Something one person thinks is tasty, another person will find bland. So long as he is eating it, then you've no need to feel insulted.
Me, I like quite a bit of salt, my husband loves ground black pepper.

ethelfleda · 02/02/2020 08:18

The OP was worth reading just to learn about ‘wanky condiments’ Grin

moochew · 02/02/2020 08:51

On the other hand, he thinks that potato on pizza is normal. Potato on pizza is fabulous!

dellacucina · 02/02/2020 10:13

Potato on pizza is a classic Italian preparation. It IS an Italian food, after all.