It’s rude to take one look at the dinner I have cooked then get lots of condiments for it.

[Wasail]

I spend time preparing a meal that is tasty and balanced, H takes one look at it, doesn’t taste it or anything, just gets his collection of condiments from the fridge and smothers his dinner.
We are talking things like truffle mayo ( he is a bit wanky with his condiment collection) so things that will fundamentally change the flavour of the meal. And no, I didn’t make fish and chips. ketchup or mayo, not both, would be acceptable in that case.
I think it’s unbelievably rude of him, he thinks it’s perfectly fine.

I'd be in the camp of he probably does like the food, I doubt he's trying to hide the taste of the OPs terrible cooking, I'm sure the OP is a good cook. He probably just likes to put some sauces on because he likes it more with them on

OP, think how liberating it could be for you to cook exactly what you want and give your DH a bowl of plain rice or pasta.

Or as a special treat, fish fingers or a plate of chips.

How would it be "liberating" to have to cook two meals? Even if one is very basic?

Think how liberating it would be to unclench a bit and just let him enjoy his food however he prefers it, while you enjoy yours, exactly as you made it? Or if you absolutely can't stand to have him season/add condiments to the food you've cooked food to suit his own taste, then by all means stop cooking for him. But who would actually be so precious or so petty towards her own husband?

A lot of people put condiments/seasoning on their food as a reflex. It's part of what can be called, 'an eating ritual.' (Almost everybody does it because it's normal for them.)

I have a sibling who always coated their food in salt before eating it. I've also seen someone put salt on salad so thick it looked like snow. Their choice.

I hate cooking, if I’d gone to a lot of trouble to prepare a nice meal I’d be pissed off if someone just covered it in something else - they’d be getting plain pasta after that 🤷🏻‍♀️

I cover everything in condiments, cheese, seasonings or strong gravy. My kids like bland food and most of my relatives are not fans of spice or salt. I on the other hand love lots of flavour. I've been known to eat marmite and whole grain mustard straight from the jar (I never double dip my spoon don't worry!) If I made things to my taste nobody else would eat them, sometimes I serve everybody else and then add stuff in, so a big spoonful of lazy chilli or plenty of hot sauce to a chilli, or a handful of raw onions and a big dollop of mustard in my pasta salad, that kind of thing.

My DH and I cook from scratch most nights. Thai, pasta , various curries, we use basil, coriander , various different spices and flavourings.
Each meal tastes different.
Chucking the same load of condiments over every meal making it taste the same seems pointless.
Some people have very dull meals.

I see both sides tbh. But then I like seasonings and condiments meals are to my personal taste. I would try it first though....

I make the most DELICIOUS Cottage Pie and my DH pours brown sauce over it every time - does my head in. I know I am being unreasonable and after 42 years you'd have thought I would have got over it but no I have not!!

I get you @Wasail. My mum does this with all her food. Winds me right up when I’ve cooked a nice meal for her and she smothers it in chilli sauce or curry ketchup! She also almost always insists on having a “side salad” with every meal consisting of 90% raw onion! I’ve come to realise she has absolutely no sense of taste because she smokes so she can’t taste the already flavorful meal.

My granddaughter covers everything in mint sauce! It can be stomach churning to see her ladling it on to everything from sausages to meat and potato pie but it’s her choice (she’s sixteen btw, not a little’un) and as she points out, I use probably too much salt on everything.

This thread is making me laugh

My husband does this too, and he also takes a holier than thou attitude to me adding a grind of salt to a bowl of pasta as he upends a bottle of HP over his

I detest condiments and never buy them so my auntie took to buying DH a huge bag of assorted chutney, sauces, mayonnaise, mustards etc every Christmas. Literally a cupboard of the stuff which he spends the year happily daubing over his meals.

Hahaha. Mine does this also and when I ask him how it tastes he always says good. Then as a joke I ask him ‘and how does the food taste’
Doesn’t bother me really. His food his choice.

No. Maybe he likes those particular condiments. They are meant to add to the flavour of a dish not mask it. Perhaps you are a bit over sensitive.

I made a rack of lamb and my OH dumped smoked oysters on it and then hot sauce. Usually I just go with it, but this insulted me.

My husband does it with salt, no matter how perfectly I salt the meal he always adds more, it's just a habit of his, even he doesn't know why he does it. I started getting worried about his salt intake so I stopped adding salt to the meals and we just add it afterwards how we like it it's just something some people do.

YANBU! It's rude. If the cook doesn't put the condiment on the table, don't ask for it. Or at least taste it first. My DH does this, it drives me nuts.

Hmm. I think I’d prefer someone to properly enjoy their meal how they want to have it. I quite like ketchup with sausage, mash and gravy. As long as he’s appreciative of your efforts...

Personally I like condiments with most things and intend to have mayo bbq sauce and ketchup as I like to have all 3 (separately. I dont mix them together). If I have fish and chips I will have gravy, peas, curry sauce and ketchup

Yeah - I get it. It would have been nice if he tasted it before adding loads of other stuff to it.

Think it’s a bit unreasonable, HOWEVER if it is a meal that has been cooked constantly and taste the same every time then not unreasonable.

I’m like that with certain people who cook the same meal the same way and will have a courtesy bite before adding something to my taste.

It’s not ideal, I would cook what I like to eat to please myself more! My husband rings me from work to say he would like a burnt pork chop, burnt chips and mushy peas - lol I duly oblige!

I never thought to get offended about condiment usage... there is too much else going on to even look at what my husband puts on his food 😂 Someone I know puts brown sauce on roast dinners... I tried it once, found it hideous, but I dont judge him for it. We all have our own tastes and preferences 🤷‍♀️

(Fwiw, if my partner tried to control my condiment usage I would definitely go out of my way to use more 🤭)

My DP does this on the dinners he cooks for himself - some people just like sauces and extra seasoning. Wouldn’t be a big deal for me.

It is quite rude to add condiments before tasting something to be fair.

Maybe he’s used to your cooking and knows that it won’t be as spicy as he would like without needing to taste it. Does he cover restaurant meals in condiments? Don’t take it so personally,