It’s rude to take one look at the dinner I have cooked then get lots of condiments for it.

[Wasail]

I spend time preparing a meal that is tasty and balanced, H takes one look at it, doesn’t taste it or anything, just gets his collection of condiments from the fridge and smothers his dinner.
We are talking things like truffle mayo ( he is a bit wanky with his condiment collection) so things that will fundamentally change the flavour of the meal. And no, I didn’t make fish and chips. ketchup or mayo, not both, would be acceptable in that case.
I think it’s unbelievably rude of him, he thinks it’s perfectly fine.

The correct condiments for fish and chips is vinegar and salt. It should ideally be something like a salty vinegar soup heavily croutoned with soggy chips. Only way. Therefore YABU.

I think I have read the word condiment more over the last 24 hours than in my entire life up until now

Surely it would be more upsetting if he tried it first and then added lots of condiments! At least this way you know it's his taste buds rather than your cooking lol 😂

As a former chef, I can tell you, people have a different taste to you

I used to find it insulting at first... Just like you. Then an old boy reminded me... Who made you incharge of people's taste buds?

I know plenty of chefs who over salt their food. So for me, a squirt of ketchup, definitely helps. The sweetness helps cut through the saltiness.

I tried the ... You haven't even tasted it yet.

As I got.wiser, oops, older, I got used tompeoples taste varying., And would cook with less salt, but plenty of other herbs n spices.

If it's your kids and theyre just chucking on condiments automatically, I'd say.... Oi, taste it first! For everyone else (adults) leave them alone.

My partner does this: he sulks if I add anything to food he has cooked, yet will happily chuck in extra hot sauce or whatever to anything I’ve made. I regularly point out my issue with this....

YABTU.

I get your point but this isn't about your cooking, it's about his eating preferences.

If he didn't like your food he wouldn't eat it full stop.

I get your point but it's not the end of the world. My husband is the same, it doesn't matter what I cook he puts ketchup and 2 different types of chilli sauce on his food. He's from the Caribbean and this routine is totally normal to him.

Let it go. I'm sure you have habits that annoy him.

Does he smoke? Sounds like he has blunt tastebuds or maybe it’s just habitual. It would drive me insane and I think you should just give him a plate of mashed potato instead of going to lots of effort to cook tasty dishes for him. Pearls before swine.

Everyone's taste buds are different. My husband puts red sauce on EVERYTHING! he has bread with EVERYTHING!

It's not a reflection of your cooking. Don't take it personally. Everyone's too sensitive these days 🙈 or too verbal about it..

I think it’s rude and offensive. If he likes the taste of chilli sauce, truffle mayo and ketchup on everything, I’d just serve him a plain baked potato... 7 days a week. Anything more is a waste of your time effort and ingredients.

You married a troglodyte.

Aglet yes I did

Thought I could make a silk purse out of a sows ear

You are being utterly ridiculous. I hope to high heaven you never have something serious to worry about. He probably just needs the condiments for that giant chip on your shoulder 🤣🤣🤣

I know, shame on me. I don’t let my family eat with their mouth open, talk with their mouths full, use mobiles at the table or hold their fork like it’s a dagger either. I am basically a dictator of manners

My gran used to smother her chinese takeaway in brown sauce! Did it bother me no, it makes me think if her every time I order chinese x

Don't waste any more time cooking. Serve up supermarket basics meals. He will not notice the difference, you will save loads of time and money.

""And no, I didn’t make fish and chips. ketchup or mayo, not both, would be acceptable in that case.. This sentence alone makes me think that you are exceptionally controlling about condiments! You would honestly (try to) force somebody to choose between ketchup and mayo???""

^ this

My husband does this with mango chutney! Puts it on everything 🙈

I think you need a big dollop of "get over yourself" tbh.

Round my way if it isn't dosed in "ought moist" it isn't food.

Using condiments is not on a par with bad table manners

Maybe, just maybe your cooking isn’t that good.

My in laws dont even have salt on the table, asking for some is most definitely frowned upon

I’ve just eaten a vegan felafel that definitely needed help from condiments. Dry as hell.

If this is all you've got to worry about , you've obviously got a very nice life...

Seriously? Please be kind bc this is really a petty. I think there is more to your anger.

dh and dd love spice. They put it on EVERYTHING. Dh even chooses restaraunts based on condiments available for his eggs.

Regarding fish, it is very easy to discern dryness. Everyone has preferences for various foods. But, to your complaint; if anyone thought that they had the right to tell me my condiment choice was up to them, I would politely thank them for the effort for the meal and leave. Never to return. (And I don't eat them often.)

A petty complaint. Sorry.