It’s rude to take one look at the dinner I have cooked then get lots of condiments for it.

[Wasail]

I spend time preparing a meal that is tasty and balanced, H takes one look at it, doesn’t taste it or anything, just gets his collection of condiments from the fridge and smothers his dinner.
We are talking things like truffle mayo ( he is a bit wanky with his condiment collection) so things that will fundamentally change the flavour of the meal. And no, I didn’t make fish and chips. ketchup or mayo, not both, would be acceptable in that case.
I think it’s unbelievably rude of him, he thinks it’s perfectly fine.

And that's okay!

Maybe he just really really likes condiments and was happy to have something to go with them.

It was a fish roulade with cheese sauce and veg. He put horse radish, chilli sauce and truffle mayo on it. He could have tasted it first.

I’m with you OP. It’s rude and I would be offended if I cooked a meal with an integral sauce and someone smothered it in an ‘inappropriate’ sauce.

Steaks, chips, fish and chips, sausage and mash etc - add away.

A delicate fish dish, chicken in cream etc? Ketchup? I’d be pissed off.

littlelongdog I think you are right, there is a whole shelf in the fridge devoted to his condiments.

Some people like condiments 🤷‍♀️

I don’t think it’s rude. He likes a lot of flavour. YABU.

I just had to google fish roulade.

Truffle mayo, horseradish and chili sauce sounds like an absolutely manky combination, maybe he just has awful taste? Or is pregnant?

It’s very thoughtless and dismissive of your efforts to immediately smother his food.
In his favour, it’s possible he has dulled taste buds or sense of smell. As we get older it happens. Also, horseradish does go with some fish. It matches smoked trout well. Even so, he could have been a bit more tactful.

Ourson he has been rather moody recently, maybe he is hormonal.

Actually, does he smoke? A heavy smoking relative can taste almost nothing so layers his food in salt and ketchup so he gets a savoury and/or vinegar hit, it helps him deal with the texture of food he can't taste

Would you prefer that he didn't finish the meal because it wasn't to his taste? Ridiculous. It's not for you to dictate what someone else will enjoy. As long as he's not scraping it into the bin (which would be a real insult when you've gone to the effort of cooking). You can't impose your opinion on his choice of condiments.

I think its rude for someone to tell me what i can or cannot put on my food

I get where you’re coming from OP.

If he’s going to just smother every meal in condiments regardless (without even tasting it first, the heathen), it’s totally demoralising and feels very unappreciative.

Why bother going to the effort to cook something lovely if all he wants to taste is the condiments? If I were in your shoes he’d be making his own food or getting plain boiled pasta or oven chips from now on.

He doesn’t smoke and he has the check to raise an eyebrow at me if I add salt to my dinner, apparently that’s not healthy .

My Dh does this - smothers everything in Cheese and pepper! Yes it’s annoying but I’ve just let it go. I used to think he was trying to suggest my cooking wasn’t very good but I’ve realised it’s just that his tastebuds are shot to fuck as he gets older!

Cheek not check

@Wasail I’ve just SHRIEKED (quietly) with rage in the back of a cab about the salt eyebrow!

Presumably he's familiar with your style of cooking and how you season it, so he knows what it's likely to need for him to enjoy it most. It's simply his personal taste, not a personal attack. I think you're being over-sensitive.

Why does he have to taste it first? He's not trying to hide your flavours, he's adding the flavours that he enjoys the most.

User I know, outrageous!

Tbh if I was served fish roulade with a cheese sauce I'd have to do something in order to choke it back 😬

I think it's rude, he's just assumed he needs to add flavouring to your cooking without even tasting it first. Just dump a ready meal in front of him in future and let him smother it in whatever he likes while you make yourself something lovely.

My DH adds salt to every meal I cook before tasting it. I wouldn’t mind if he tried it first to see if it needs it - he just goes straight for the grinder.

YABU
He requires more flavour in food than you do, just different sets of taste buds
He evidently finds your food too bland, so he adds in flavour
He presumably doesn't add condiments to your plate as well, so it doesn't affect you

He is BU to criticise your salt intake though
That's your choice of added flavour