To ask how you know you’re finished having children.

[Tunnocks34]

We have three children, our youngest is 6 months. I really assumed that after my third I’d feel like our family was complete etc but I don’t feel like I am. I feel I’d really love another baby (albeit in 2/3 years)

For context, I am 30. Money isn’t an issue and either is age, but what I’m wondering is, is there just a switch that happens. Do you ever think ‘I want no more children’, is it circumstances that stop people?

We knew we were done after my youngest was very, very poorly in hospital for 6 months (leukaemia) and was diagnosed with ASD at 3yo. I would have loved 3 dc but a combination of fertility issues, recurrent miscarriage, stress of dealing with a very ill child, the stress of coping with a child with SEN and LD, fear of another child with ASD and sheer knackeredness meant it would never happen.

I always wanted 3. I could picture 3 whenever I thought of my family. I was desperately broody after number 2.

Dc3 is now 4 and I know I am totally done. I never get broody.

I’m done at two.
I lost two in the second trimester then my DS nearly died at birth. Natures way of telling me to stop I feel. Couldn’t go through anything like that again.

I liked being pregnant and would have been happy to do that again (after having two), but then it would be followed by years and years of looking after another child, worrying about it as it got older etc etc.
No thanks.

For lots of reasons, ds2 was improbable. I knew after ds1 that I wanted another despite pregnancy misery. Just felt at 2 like there was no more longing. Plus it would be brutal financially.

We have 4 kids and I am pregnant again. I think will stop after this one as although I am know I won't feel done we will have run out of room in our car and house this time :-)

My mind keeps changing.
I have 2, one of each. Youngest will be 3 in may and a third does keep popping into my head. I have tough pregnancies though and really don't think I would cope with 3. My first baby was a breeze, second not so much. And I KNOW he would struggle with it if I had another.

First was a breeze, was desperate for a second. Then came miscarriages, a horrendous pregnancy and traumatic birth with ptsd. Feel very lucky to have the two healthy children I have. I'm done.

When the thought of a baby makes you want to run for the hills 😂

I'm only 35 but mine are 15 and 10. I am so done. There is no way I would ever go through pregnancy or the baby stage again!

Gotta have my ovaries removed by 35 due to being brca+ so no more kids here.

I wanted 3, am pregnant with my second and its been hell so far (hyperemesis, same as I had with my 1st lasting up to 8 months...).

Definately made me re-evaluate whether I want to go through this again.

Waiting for post-birth hormones to hit however I want another 5 of these!!!

I always wanted four. I have four. I’ve had really bad sickness/hyperemesis in all my pregnancies but the last one was awful, I felt so so ill the whole way through. Even on anti sickness meds I just felt terrible.
I’m broody as hell, get really envious when someone else is expecting, newborns give me actual physical pangs of need but I’m done.

I couldn’t do another pregnancy, I’m knackered all the time, and to be honest it’s the snuggly baby I want, not another child (if it happened by accident though... — don’t worry I have a coil—)

Logically, two I think would have been perfect for us, but we had our this son. If we were to have another if would mean a seven seater car and an extension.

In reality, I think we should be done. Three healthy boys, they all have our own room, fit in a normal car etc. But my ovaries are literally twitching 😂

Our this = our third

28 weeks pregnant. I've vomited every single day for the past six months, have placenta previa and am currently in hospital (again) after a major bleed. I'm absolutely fucking done with being pregnant.

I also have three with the youngest being six months. I know I’m done because as soon as something is outgrown it goes in the bin, not back in the loft! As much as I love babies and children there is more I want from life than raising young kids.

I decided I was done when we found out no2 was a boy. Got one of each and that's enough.

I thought I wanted 4.
Baby 3 was a horrific delivery and I never want to give birth again! I am also tired, busy and poor enough now.
I really do feel 'done'.

I am pregnant with my first and we've agreed we are happy with just the one. We both come from families with lots of siblings & cousins. In an ideal world we'd have 5 but it's not ethical and I'd rather have a comfortable life with the one.

Had one, feel no desire for another, even though when trying for this one it was all consuming. Feel happy as we are, which is a nice place to be.

I always wanted 3. Had my gorgeous boy and I know I'm done with one. He's hard work and my husband is not how I expected him to be as a father. If we were younger (I'm 31 and baby is 1 year) I might consider another in 4-5 years but I don't want to have a baby at 36-37 so I'm definitely done. Plus financially at the moment we can't afford another and I'd rather give our son more than less.

Relentless exhaustion!

Just DD3 for me.,. I wondered if I’d want more but now when I see a pregnant person my only thought is you unlucky fucker thank fuck it’s not me 😂 (obviously i don’t say this out loud and express suitably hallmark sentiments)

I have three and 100% know I’m done. I wanted three, Ive got three.
Even if I didn’t have the ‘done’ feeling, I wouldn’t have any more for practical reasons. I can just about give them all the 1:1 attention they need/deserve at the moment, any more and it wouldn’t be possible.