AIBU re: lift giving: will she turn up on Friday or not?

[Whiskeychaser]

Second thread.

Thanks for all the support.

Dreading them coming out od school because I can see my dd getting it in the ear from them, and I'm really feeling for her.

Link to first thread to follow in a minute (when I figure it out).

Right, so instead of asserting yourself and making boundaries, you’ve ditched them and left them stranded while some strangers on the internet cheer your version of events on

Agreed. And no, I’m not the woman or her daughter either.

You are the kind of people who enable the existence of a “queen bee” at school playground and secretly thrive on the gossip.

Exactly.

well this is an interesting statement right ? is this a direct Threat to OP's daughter ? has the CF friend found the Thread ?

For gods sake, are people really this obtuse? This is what the mob mentality leads to. Any dissenting voice, anyone who dare disagree is piled on and accused of being part of the story. You can all cheer and clap and salivate for the next update, taking this nonsense to two threads, but not everyone is looking at this and thinking “oh well done OP, you are so amazing and strong” Others have an entirely different point of view.

Gosh OP you did not lose your temper at all. Your response was entirely normal after the way she has treated you and what she said. She needed it said like that as she wasn't understanding it any other way. Your hangover probably makes your text feel worse to you because that is what even the smallest amount of alcohol does to me. You've said what needed to be said now and hopefully that's an end to it. I hope she doesn't text you again

Well done. It needed saying as she clearly doesn't get it.

Brilliant reply - eloquent and angry! Well done - I wish you had finished with - and while we are talking about dogs I am no longer willing to help with yours !

She’s such a cow. You are not and have nothing to feel guilty about. You have a whole load of Mumsnetters who think you are lovely and so kind and a great mum.

Do not apologise for losing your shit at her – I'm amazed it didn't happen sooner! I cannot believe she's trying to guilt-trip you like that. All you asked was that her daughter made her way to yours to make your life a bit easier!!!!!

Well done. Please could you give some assertiveness advice on some of the other weird doormat threads

Oh OP
WELL DONE!!!!
You stood up for yourself which is great
Have you warned your DD that she might get texts off CF's DD. I think it best you both block their numbers so you don't get drawn into any more aggro

Ha! Well done. Has she responded?

Sorry to read that OP, hope you’re ok and can move on now

That’s perfect, OP! You said what needed to be said.

@MintyMabel
Nobody was “stranded”, they got themselves there so are perfectly capable of getting themselves home again
Both plenty old enough to learn that if you treat your friends like shit then they won’t want to be your friends anymore.
There really is no other acceptable option I’m afraid. It’s that black and white.

Some people really are just takers aren't they.

It's actually hilarious that she thinks you doing the club run for 2 years solid is "unreliable" what world does she live in 😂

@MintyMabel not everyone is looking at this and thinking “oh well done OP, you are so amazing and strong”

But vast majority of people are

Good for you OP, you should feel proud that you’ve called her out on her behaviour and not been a doormat.

As I said in a pp, I think in time you’ll look back at this and see far more times she’s used you and how the friendship was weighted in her favour - you gave a lot more than you got.

Block her and move on. If it were me, I’d also speak to the club leader and give her a brief overview of what’s happening and ask her to keep an eye on your DD as the other girl has given her a hard time at school and could spill over into club too.

She really thinks you are her employee!

Well done great response.

Has she replied?

Clapping hands

Ha! It needed spelling out - well done!

Let your DD know to ignore any mutterings at school and rejoice in having one less CF in her life

You needed to lose your cool tbf as cf's such as this one dont understand softly softly.

She is completely delusional and thinks the world owes her a favour. Rather than be angry that you cant pick her daughter up from her door now she should have been grateful you had given her all those lifts in the first place... arrangements like this cant last forever and she should have had a back.up plan or suck it up.

As to you being a coward, why should you have gone in there if she had already been ignoring your messages? Where you go inbetween drop off and pick up is up to you.

This friendship has been of no benefit to you for a long time because it hasnt been a friendship, it's been you doing her favours with nothing in between it sounds like. Good riddance.

Forget it all and have a fun life. Use the saved petrol money and time to do something lovely with your own family. She feels aggrieved.....so what? She can paint whatever picture she wants for herself. You know what happened and have your own story. All good but try to let it all go now. You really don’t need to see her again.

It wasn't rude. It was actually quite a calm response considering her text.

It never ceases to amaze me how some people are so entitled that they almost seem to think they're being generous to you by letting you do them a favour. It's baffling. They must have been brought up to believe that the world revolves around them.

Well done op. You were not a coward. You tried to establish contact which she ignored. She could have discussed it face to face last week. She sounds very manipulative.

You offered her dd lifts 2 years ago, I'm stunned that she is using the reason that she wouldn't have let her join the club if she knew the lift situation would change . My own child has changed clubs and interests several times over the last 2 years, was she expecting you to still give her dd lifts if your own dd left which is a very real possibility?

15 minutes out of your way driving, once a week for 2 years adds up to how much of your time, to do her a favour? Perhaps someone can do the maths. Also calculate the cost of petrol. Not the actual going to the club as you would have been going anyway. The cost of the additional petrol!!!
She had that text coming. How on earth can she still think that she's in the right?

Perfect response. Now block her .