DH asked me to take underwear pics at work

[AdalbertWaffling]

So today I get a text from DH asking for me to go and take some pics of me in my underwear in the loos at work and send them to him. I replied "No... X". Firstly I was super busy so didn't have time, secondly I can't think of anything less sexy than taking my top off in a toilet cubicle and trying to take a selfie, and thirdly I'M AT WORK so really didn't feel like it was appropriate.

I have now asked him something else and just got back "No... X", so he's obviously pissed off at my response, or lack of. Tbh knowing him he probably would have been fine with me saying no by laughing it off, or in a way that didn't make him feel bad for asking. I'm really not sure if IABU here! I don't think I was in that I was at work, but also we're in a loving relationship and maybe I should have been a bit kinder in my response? Or maybe I should have just nipped off for 2 mins, taken a selfie and not been such a prude???

Cool story bro.

Is this an episode of Fleabag?

@MolyHolyGuacamole

Ha ha ... I think this might be a wind up ..

I’ve asked my partner to before! But we are kinda like that. I wouldn’t do it at my work because it’s a police station and the fucking toilets are RANK. But I don’t really think it was a big deal for him to ask and for you to say no, I wouldn’t find either of those offensive tbh, you’re in a sexual relationship.
But off if he’s pissed off with you though, that is absolutely not on

my wife would leave me, no question

Your wife probably should leave you. You sound like a complete sophomaniac

But I don’t really think it was a big deal for him to ask and for you to say no, I wouldn’t find either of those offensive tbh, you’re in a sexual relationship

I agree with all this. Obviously if the OP doesnt want to do it she shouldnt and he shouldnt sulk because thats incredibly childish and stupid.

That said- there's a lot of sex shaming going on in this thread, people saying taking pics is "sleazy",gross, controlling and mysogynistic etc etc

Not if two people are into it it isn't. Lots of couples send sexy pics to each other and it doesnt make them sleazy or sex maniacs or brainwashed by the patriarchy FGS. Some people are just...frisky!

I have told both of my DC that they should never put anything on their 'phone or the internet that they would not be happy with nanny seeing; I also live by that rule.

Likewise.

Hmmm, my DH has never asked me for dirty work selfies before....does that mean he's having an affair or he will have an affair? These new sex rules are complicated...

Was the text meant for you?

Sorry OP but if he hasn't asked you for anything like this before, i would find it weird

Was the text meant for you? Sorry OP but if he hasn't asked you for anything like this before, i would find it weird
Then maybe rtft? There have been 280+ posts including updates by op.
He has asked op more than once at work. She doesn't mind at home just not at work.

Was the text meant for you? Sorry OP but if he hasn't asked you for anything like this before, i would find it weird

Oh FFS. Mumsnet at it's finest

It's really not the end of the world

He asked you to do something you're not happy to do and you said no. You then asked him something and he said no.
What's the big deal??

Tbh OP should have put in the main description that he'd asked a few times and knew she wasn't into it. Everyone shot their bolts over not quite the right question.

@Willow2017

I said "IF"
I'm not going to read 280 posts about photos of underwear.

Said "If"

Sure the OP can ignore if not relevant

@chocolateandpinkgin

MN at its finest.....

You obviously don't look at the site much then