Page 11 | DH asked me to take underwear pics at work

AdalbertWaffling · 2020-01-22T17:31:57+00:00

So today I get a text from DH asking for me to go and take some pics of me in my underwear in the loos at work and send them to him. I replied "No... X". Firstly I was super busy so didn't have time, secondly I can't think of anything less sexy than taking my top off in a toilet cubicle and trying to take a selfie, and thirdly I'M AT WORK so really didn't feel like it was appropriate. I have now asked him something else and just got back "No... X", so he's obviously pissed off at my response, or lack of. Tbh knowing him he probably would have been fine with me saying no by laughing it off, or in a way that didn't make him feel bad for asking. I'm really not sure if IABU here! I don't think I was in that I was at work, but also we're in a loving relationship and maybe I should have been a bit kinder in my response? Or maybe I should have just nipped off for 2 mins, taken a selfie and not been such a prude???

Scatterlit · 23/01/2020 10:40

Yeah, it’s adorable he wants his wife to provide him with wank fodder in the toilets during her workday. It’s so adorable that ‘I’LL ONLY WANK OVER YOU IN YOUR SCANTIES IN THE WORK BOGS’ should be on Valentine’s cards. [hm]

How low would your self-worth as regards men have to be to find that endearing? Get help.

Arthritica · 23/01/2020 10:44

I’m relieved to read your update, OP. Because boundaries

You were both at work ffs.

itchytits123 · 23/01/2020 11:10

@Scatterlit

Hahaha

PotholeParadise · 23/01/2020 11:18

No one said people would deserve that, of course no one deserves that. The fact is it is a risk you take if you are willing to send pictures of yourself half naked/naked to anyone, regardless of who they are to you.

No-one has said they'd deserve to have them leaked in this thread. But it's an aspect and risk that recent members of the yer-such-a-prude crowd have been neatly sidestepping.

Odd.

Divebar · 23/01/2020 11:33

It is indeed a risk you take when you send a photo of this type.... mitigated to a pretty large extent by not including your face in the picture. ( depending on tattoos and other identifying marks and scars). Sending it to your DH and not some random probably helps too. And as for being at work... I Imagine that that’s all part of the fun. It certainly wouldn’t be the most daring/ shocking thing to have happened in my workplace.

cavabiensepasser · 23/01/2020 11:39

It really does make me chuckle that some people seem to think that there's nothing worse, nothing at all, than being a 'prude'.

I for one really enjoy having boundaries and asserting them, it makes for a much nicer life. Men don't mess with you or throw strops with you over sex, they know it'll either get them nowhere or will be out of the picture at the drop of the hat because I, having lived for a quarter of a century and being old bitter and jaded have zero time for male bullshit.

Being a 'frigid prude' is great. Wouldn't change it for anything else.

Tanyaaah · 23/01/2020 11:40

I don't think it's a big deal! I probably would do it, if in a new and exciting relationship.

Willow2017 · 23/01/2020 11:53

it's quite sweet he wants to walk over his wife rather than porn when he's alone
Can he not remember what his wife looks like? Op later said she has sent photos before taken at home why does he need one in a grotty toilet?

bluebell34567 · 23/01/2020 11:56

is this for real?

PotholeParadise · 23/01/2020 11:57

Tanyaaah

A new, exciting relationship, in which you know little about each other, is probably the worst time to do it.

Divebar · 23/01/2020 11:58

You don’t know it’s grotty... it might be quite snazzy.

DisgraceToTheYChromosome · 23/01/2020 12:01

Ewww. The kind of man who finds this arousing would eat doner kebab in daylight.

NigellaAwesome · 23/01/2020 12:02

A guy at our work was dismissed for taking dick pics in the loo at work. He sent it to someone and the employer found out. Was able to identify the cubicle he took it in by the cracked tile on the floor.

Not a school or anything like that.

Divebar · 23/01/2020 12:08

He sent it to someone and the employer found out

Sounds like the “someone” wasn’t fully on board.

Vanhi · 23/01/2020 12:46

I must have discovered that magic pill too, because when mine gets aroused so do I. Oh - there it is again - wanting to have sex with your sexual partner ...... not weird ...... normal ......

Generally I'm in sync with my partner. But we both have days when we're maybe just a bit tired, or distracted, or run down. And we have a nice hug and that's it. No pressure on either side. We both know it's not personal and is only a very temporary thing.

having lived for a quarter of a century and being old bitter and jaded

25 is a bit young to be old and jaded. I'd give it to your half century before that sets in.

Hadalifeonce · 23/01/2020 13:44

I have told both of my DC that they should never put anything on their 'phone or the internet that they would not be happy with nanny seeing; I also live by that rule.

AlaskaElfForGin · 23/01/2020 14:27

I'm going to put the cat amongst the pigeons here and say that those who are not interested in keeping their husbands sexually interested in them are very likely going to be the same ones on here saying they've found out he's been having an affair.

Oh you've really 'put the cat amongst the pigeons' haven't you! And by that I mean tried to be controversial and made yourself look a bit silly by implying that to keep your husband/partner sexually interested you have to fall for shit like sending them photos from work. If you like that kind of thing, fine, crack on! Don't assume that others have to work so hard to keep their partner interested ...

samyeagar · 23/01/2020 14:28

I think if I ever actually internalized some of these hyperbolic reactions and attitudes in this thread, and used them as some behavioural guide in real life, my wife would leave me, no question.

What has happened to moderation and thought in reaction? I really have to think that this is mostly nothing more than any other part of the bottom have of the internet in that the immediate jump to extremes based on assumption, with lack of information, just has to be typical keyboard warrioring, and that the behaviour shown here is not really carried out in real life. Grim existence for them if it truly is

Scatterlit · 23/01/2020 14:29

Sending it to your DH and not some random probably helps too

Thing is, as this site testifies, DHs have a habit of becoming ex-DHs, in some cases filled with malicious fury and a determination to punish their former spouses in every way possible, whether it's skipping out on child maintenance, introducing your toddler to their every ONS, calling social services, or splashing their ex-wife's naked photos and phone number all over the internet -- it's the 2020 equivalent of scrawling 'Call slaggy Justine for a BJ on 02765378!!! She;s always up for it!!!' on the wall at school.

WeeSleekitTimerousMoosey · 23/01/2020 14:34

I have told both of my DC that they should never put anything on their 'phone or the internet that they would not be happy with nanny seeing; I also live by that rule.

Wise advice. Nude pictures are just not a necessary part of life.

CuriousaboutSamphire · 23/01/2020 14:35

I'm going to put the cat amongst the pigeons here and say that those who are not interested in keeping their husbands sexually interested in them are very likely going to be the same ones on here saying they've found out he's been having an affair.

Well. There you go then! My 30+ year marriage is based on me giving my DH enough sex to keep him interested in me! Like that's all I am to him... a sex thing. Not a friend, companion, lover, home sharing, pleasant person he can rely on, trust, confide in, lean on etc. No reciprocity there either!

No. I'm just somethink he can fuck whenever he feels the need!

Thanks for clearing that up for me!

Thestrangestthing · 23/01/2020 14:46

*I think if I ever actually internalized some of these hyperbolic reactions and attitudes in this thread, and used them as some behavioural guide in real life, my wife would leave me, no question.

What has happened to moderation and thought in reaction? I really have to think that this is mostly nothing more than any other part of the bottom have of the internet in that the immediate jump to extremes based on assumption, with lack of information, just has to be typical keyboard warrioring, and that the behaviour shown here is not really carried out in real life. Grim existence for them if it truly is*

Eh?

Thestrangestthing · 23/01/2020 14:49

I don't think it's a big deal! I probably would do it, if in a new and exciting relationship.

That would be really stupid.

Scatterlit · 23/01/2020 15:00

I think if I ever actually internalized some of these hyperbolic reactions and attitudes in this thread, and used them as some behavioural guide in real life, my wife would leave me, no question

What has happened to moderation and thought in reaction? I really have to think that this is mostly nothing more than any other part of the bottom have of the internet in that the immediate jump to extremes based on assumption, with lack of information, just has to be typical keyboard warrioring, and that the behaviour shown here is not really carried out in real life. Grim existence for them if it truly is

Trying to see through the verbiage -- are you saying you think that behind our 'keyboard warrioring' we are all in fact smiling coyly and sending our significant others photos of us posing in our scanties with one foot on the loo seat and the sanitary bin looming sexily in the background? But in a moderate kind of way?

Willow2017 · 23/01/2020 15:12

I think if I ever actually internalized some of these hyperbolic reactions and attitudes in this thread, and used them as some behavioural guide in real life, my wife would leave me, no question.

What has happened to moderation and thought in reaction? I really have to think that this is mostly nothing more than any other part of the bottom have of the internet in that the immediate jump to extremes based on assumption, with lack of information, just has to be typical keyboard warrioring, and that the behaviour shown here is not really carried out in real life. Grim existence for them if it truly is

Is this supposed to impress us poor women? It's a bit hyperbolic itself tbh.