Just been treated to not one, but two

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Unsolicited dick pics.

Sadly from DPs best friend. I messaged him to see how he's doing and somehow he thought this was appropriate. I thought he was joking when he said he was going to send one.

I've laughed it off and turned off notifications for his messages now. I don't know if I should tell DP or just leave it. He's having an awful time just now as it is, but I'd be really upset if I thought he was looking at pictures of another girl in a similar vein.

Also I want to delete the pictures but I don't want it to look like I was trying to be secretive if/when it comes out.

We see this friend once a year. He's older than DP and DP looks up to him somewhat.

Should I just delete/ignore?

Unfriend and block him. You don't need someone like that taking up headspace

I think him telling you that he has 'deleted them his end' was a prompt for you to say 'Yes yes. I've deleted them my end too'. In other words collude in his erasing of the whole thing.

Hope your DP says the right things tonight. I'd be taking a very dim view if he says anything like "it's just a joke"

Hope you and DP are OK tonight.

send them to his mother, girlfriend, granny, boss...

send them to his mother, girlfriend, granny, boss

Great idea! You might end up in the sex offenders register and with a conviction but YOLO!

So there was never any flirting at all between you?
Such a massive lapse in judgement seems really odd to me.

What did DH say?

No, Dieu and even if there was, unless i actually said "please send me a picture of your cock" I dont think a bit of flirting would justify his actions.

Such a massive lapse in judgement seems really odd to me.

Odd, bizarre, ridiculous and outrageous - but hardly unusual.

Have you not heard of other women complaining about this? Or do you always assume that it is connected with mutual flirting?

The OP has said this repeatedly throughout the thread.

Just occasionally it would be good if women believed other women about this offensive digital flashing.