Just been treated to not one, but two

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Unsolicited dick pics.

Sadly from DPs best friend. I messaged him to see how he's doing and somehow he thought this was appropriate. I thought he was joking when he said he was going to send one.

I've laughed it off and turned off notifications for his messages now. I don't know if I should tell DP or just leave it. He's having an awful time just now as it is, but I'd be really upset if I thought he was looking at pictures of another girl in a similar vein.

Also I want to delete the pictures but I don't want it to look like I was trying to be secretive if/when it comes out.

We see this friend once a year. He's older than DP and DP looks up to him somewhat.

Should I just delete/ignore?

unfortunately, men send unsolicited dick pics all the time. It’s something grown men do a lot, not just 17 year olds.

Not normal men, its just weird, even within a relationship its a bit odd.

If you lie down with dogs you'll get fleas. I would think way less of my husband if he didn't ditch a friend who did this. I wouldn't presume him to be a dick pic sender but I would certainly assume he tacitly approved of such behaviour. He ditched a guy who went to prostitutes so.

Tell your husband

Was it a photo of his actual dick? Or one of those meme/gif things?
If the former then tell your partner but if the latter I'd just ignore it.

@OhNoMyCheds in your case I'd assume your partner at the time had a very good reason to be reading your messages. Your now DH wrote carefully worded messages and you've now married him. Somehow I can't imagine your feelings were completely platonic.

@GiveHerHellFromUs

Yes, totally and I did think that when I posted. The problem with MN is that all men seem to be lying, cheating bastards, when actually that just isn't the case and comment such as the one I referenced are unhelpful to the OP.

I'm in no way condoning what this "friend" did and if this happened to my wife, the person would be left in no doubt what I thought of them and if they were sensible, they wouldn't be doing it again.

What a sleaze. When the fuck did this ever become ok? Tell your dp and don’t you dare feel guilty about anything, op.

Unless he sent them and then IMMEDIATELY followed it up with

"Oh fuck! I am SO SORRY!! Those were not for you! They were for girlfriend/different woman/whoever! Please immediately delete them, I can't apologize enough!!"

Then he meant to send them.

And you need to tell your DP regardless of what you think the friend's intention/state if mind/state of drunkness was.

@GiveHerHellFromUs okay dear

Do not reply.
Tell your DP.

I suggest you tell DP at once and ask him to tell his friend not to do it again. So you’re making it clear you and DP are on the same side. Show that you’re embarrassed and the pictures were unwelcome.
Best of luck.

I would tell my DP immediately. He is no friend.

I’d reply with “I think you sent these to the wrong person!”.

I would respond by telling him he's a dirty fucking sleazebag who should be ashamed at behaving like a 12 year old, and then tell dp.

What gets me is that do these idiots actually think that this would be a turn on to the woman they are sending them to?

Nothing would turn me off more!

Sounds like he’s trying to one-up your DP in that weird way men do sometimes. A bit of the old “I can take her if I want her.” As though women are possessions. Either that it helps was out of his tree and is dying of shame today. Hopefully.

Either way mention it to your DP in a lighthearted way. And do NOT feel guilty for receiving unsolicited dick pics.

Tell your dp.

Either that or he was*

And there he is, consequence free. It would have been easier to pass the phone over saying ‘how yuck, look what x just sent!’ Why delete them before telling your DH?

Im never sure if the best response is to say wheat I'd LIKE to say, or just don't respond. Like a flasher, he's looking for a reaction to wank over.

so what was the innuendo that would make a guy think he could send a dick pic?

A lot of guys don't need any encouragement. Last year a random bloke dropped a dick pic onto a crochet subreddit I follow. It was deleted pretty quick, but still, what encouragement would you find there?

Urghhhh this is so fucking weird...they can't seriously think anyone is arounsed by looking at their cock?? It's the same mentality as catcalling. It's basically saying "I'm going to show you my sexual interest in you even though you almost certainly aren't interested because my right to do that automatically trumps your discomfort". It's pervy and a power move at the same time. Revolting.

Yes, tell your DP.

Otherwise you are colluding behind his back.

This guy seriously needs to know that this is not OK.

I would reply “that is completely unacceptable and I don’t appreciate it. Don’t ever do that again to me or anyone else.” And copy Dp in,

Recover the pics before the gaslighting starts. Show your Dp and then delete.

I'd tell the DP straight, because they could be whatever friends but this is inappropriate! I think to know that your so-called best friend is shorty is better than to rely on such person

As usual we have posters trying to excuse the perverted behaviour by asking if the OP was flirty or saying he may have been drunk. FFS, I’ve been drunk as a skunk before, but I never felt the need to photograph my fanny and send it to someone.

He’s a fucking creep and is probably getting off on the fact that he’s forced you into keeping this ‘secret’. In his arrogance, he will assume you’d be too embarrassed to tell your husband. Of course your husband is going to be upset, but he’ll get over it, whereas this dirty little secret will eat away at you, if you don’t tell your husband.

Unless you grabbed him by the crotch, exposed his dick and took a photograph of it, you are in NO WAY, responsible.