To the lady I arranged a Christmas gift swap with...

[giftponderings]

On the Christmas gift swap thread, I arranged a gift swap on private messenger.

I posted my parcel on the 3rd Jan and was told my parcel would be posted within the next few days. I have not received anything as of yet. I have sent two private messages asking if my parcel had been delivered and that I had proof of postage if they needed it, and could I please have my proof of postage, as I think my parcel may have got lost.

AIBU to wonder if my parcel has not been posted yet?

To the person who I've sent my parcel to, please can you let me know when I can expect my parcel?

Thank you ☺️

I know what you are saying Worra but what do you seriously think will happen to the op? A adult giving address details on mums net as a pm is hardly the same as a child being groomed on line. I certainly wouldn't give my details out but I really don't think the op deserves so much shit when in all honesty the risk is pretty low surely. What are people thinking will happen?

Giving your address to your bank is a teensy bit different to handing it out to strangers on the internet. The PP who asked whether you’d call your children out for doing that was correct, we all drum it into our DC from a fairly young age. I think you have been incredibly naive OP and evidently didn’t learn your lesson handing it out a second time.

MN is an anonymous forum. Anyone can sign up and use any false name they wish, why on Earth would you give them something as personal as your address?!

I have no idea Buster and for what it's worth, I understand what you're saying.

I didn't mention grooming though. Say for example a child was talking to another child on Xbox, I still don't think the parents would be happy if the child gave their address out.

But going back to the OP, this place is full of trolls that most of us can't get into the mindset of, so I'd still err on the side of caution.

But what do people think will happen to the op now her address is in someone else's hands?
I 100% agree that children need to be protected, totally agree, but an adult giving their details on mums net as a pm.... Its hardly the same as a child giving their details via Roblox or whatever, which will be crawling with unsavory characters.

Cross Post Worra.

The people saying it's fine to give your address out to anonymous internet randoms, do you also teach your kids that it's fine? If not, why not?
Because children are much more vunerable than adults and there are [a tiny number of] people who try to groom children and part of that can be finding out where they live for a number of reasons. Most adults are not vulnerable in the same way.

I also wouldn't let my pre-teens travel long distances unaccompanied on public transport but would be happy to do so myself.

What do you think might happen to you if you give out your address?

I also don't think the risk is that great (on mums net), a totally different ball gane if, for example an adult was to put their address on Pieces of Fish or whatever its called, that would be 100% madness, to me it's far riskier to put a picture on Facebook of your child in their school uniform in front of your front door on the first day of term....

Then sending a pm of your address. Sorry the last bit wasn't completely clear! 😊

Ok, I know I'm playing devil's avocado here

If giving out personal addresses is ok, why the need for the PM?

Why not just put it on the thread?

Obviously the OP wanted that privacy, but why if she thinks it's ok?

The devil's avacadoe Asda seem to be selling quite a few of those lately Worra, NONE are ripe

I think sending one person your address via pm is a lot less risky then posting it on a thread, the chances of that one person living near you, knowing scum bags that might use your address in a horrible way, or that person being some kind of diviant is a lot less then posting it on a thread read by thousands. Also you don't need to be a mumsnet member to read threads, you can Google 'how to get my baby to sleep' and the chances are you get a mumsnet thread, that won't happen with a pm. It's such a minimal risk imo. Just to clarify I wouldn't have done it personally I don't think, but saying that when my son was born prem if a mumsnetter had offered me some prem baby clothes, you know what, I might have done it.

Ha ha to avocado 🥑😃

Refreshed

I see what you mean Buster, although I remember years ago a few trolls posting people's addresses on a different forum, after a secret santa.

Like I said, you just can't get into the mindset of some people.

Indeed you can’t get in to the heads of some people, I have seen people from mumsnet engage in online mobbing which is passing details round in an offshoot group and then trying to threaten them by posting their dc names, parts of address, even their home town. Then trying to gaslight the victim by claiming it’s all in their mind, and posting, say a Wikipedia link to their hometown.
I can’t imagine the mindset of people like that but it happens.

Some people get very obsessed with other people and their lives and I wouldn’t risk it.

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That's just nasty Worra, what a spiteful thing to do. Some people are just plain weird. I'll tell you what I hate giving out and that's my email address. Bloody spam emails do my head in! 😂

@heartsonacake, I know I was stupid, but sometimes you need to have faith in people.

I'm the niave one here.

Gosh Avocado, that sounds utterly horrifying.