To the lady I arranged a Christmas gift swap with...

[giftponderings]

On the Christmas gift swap thread, I arranged a gift swap on private messenger.

I posted my parcel on the 3rd Jan and was told my parcel would be posted within the next few days. I have not received anything as of yet. I have sent two private messages asking if my parcel had been delivered and that I had proof of postage if they needed it, and could I please have my proof of postage, as I think my parcel may have got lost.

AIBU to wonder if my parcel has not been posted yet?

To the person who I've sent my parcel to, please can you let me know when I can expect my parcel?

Thank you ☺️

Why all the nastiness and hostility toward the OP on this thread? Just STOP It! Scroll past the thread and leave the OP alone. How dare you insult her like that? Do you have nothing better to do with your time? You lot are telling the OP to get a life? The irony of it!

Wereallsquare because the world will fall in due to giving your address out via a Pm apparently! 😂

People give their addresses to people on EBay , FB marketplace, gumtree etc. What terrible thing will happen if you do it on here? I would love to know.

I did the present swap thread. I swapped something and both of us received what was expected. Of course there was the risk the other person didn't send what they said but it was an unwanted gift I sent so a risk I was willing to take.

I think the OP should leave it personally but I don't think she deserves this amount of hostility. People are so paranoid about their MN account and privacy but for many that doesn't extend to other SM accounts. It doesn't make sense.

'How dare you insult her like that? Do you have nothing better to do with your time? You lot are telling the OP to get a life? The irony of it!'

It's pathetic isn't it. A load of over invested clipboard holders apparently wanting to protect posters yet pile on and call them stupid. I'm sure the attacks are far worse than giving out an address via pm.

'People give their addresses to people on EBay'

What? Do the thread prefects know this?!

How lovely of @Freshstart40.

Yes Lord (nice name is it an homage?). Nice to see reasonable posters isn't it after all the froth and bossiness.

Now you see, if I had the address of some people on here who are so fucking rude, I would post it on the thread See the problem?

(Of course I actually wouldn't do this!)

Another issue is, for example, that people who post in FWR would never give out their address to strangers on MN as such people may well be trolls and RL life details absolutely would be used for abuse. Also I'm sure some posters have very good reasons for not wanting to be "traced" in RL).

Also MN has had data protection breaches from the inside eg #InternGate so do you really want your personal info so easily mined from your inbox and possibly posted online?

Anonymity is very important for most sensible some people, and if others haven't got the brains to see why, I hope someone else is advising their DC on how to stay safe online.

If you need it explaining to you why giving out your address to strangers on the internet is a bad thing then you’re too far gone to help and there’s no point.

'Anonymity is very important for most sensible some people, and if others haven't got the brains to see why, I hope someone else is advising their DC on how to stay safe online.'

Totally agree, I wouldn't give out my address there are many unpleasant people about. The point is you can say that without being a condescending arsehole.

O wad some power...

Are you referring to yourself as a nice poster?

If you need it explaining to you why giving out your address to strangers on the internet is a bad thing then you’re too far gone to help and there’s no point.
How do you think that internet shipping works?

shopping not shipping...

Have there been any reports of any bad things happening when people have shared addresses on here?

When the one mumsnetter had the police sent round by the hacker (what's the word, my mind is blank) it was because she engaged with him on twitter and he found her address through open social media, not through Mumsnet data or PMs.

I completely understand why people who are embroiled in the trans debate would be careful (there are nasty folk on both sides of the debate all over the Internet) but most of us are not involved.

List of strangers that I have given my address to so far this week on the internet:
My bank
My car insurer
Tesco
The pharmacist
John Lewis
Someone collecting something on Freecycle
Optician
Kitchen installer for quote
Plumber
Barnados

'Now you see, if I had the address of some people on here who are so fucking rude, I would post it on the thread grin See the problem?'

Yes as has been said there are many unpleasant people about who would love doing nasty crap like this it's true. The 'fucking rude' posts have been deleted anyway. HTH.

I wouldn't give out info via pm, but I don't think the op deserves the ridicule she's received.

@McT123

Unlike Randomtwit69, they will all have a data protection policy.

Unlike Randomtwit69, they will all have a data protection policy.
I very much doubt that the freecycler would and as for the rest, do you think that potential axe-wielding lunatics are going to think "I have the address of someone from THE INTERNET and would go round and slay them but I can't because of GDPR"?

There is a huge difference between giving your address out to a company and some randomer on a forum.

A company is selling you goods, a bank services; they have a purpose.

That’s the difference. It shouldn’t need explaining 🤦‍♀️

*There is a huge difference between giving your address out to a company and some randomer on a forum.

A company is selling you goods, a bank services; they have a purpose.

That’s the difference. It shouldn’t need explaining*
There was also a purpose to the OP giving her address to the non-present-sender. Still don't see any difference.

Does seem odd to scam someone for £10-15, but then again, she could be doing it to dozens of people. Also, she has probably not been active since 1st Jan, because she it was a sock-puppet account, and she is done with it.

Name and shame @giftponderings...who is the user? What's her username?

2020Bluegirl Are you for real?

You think the OP who has name changed for this thread, should 'name and shame' another poster who might very well be in hospital for all anyone here knows, but you've made up your mind she's a scammer?

Jesus Christ

Can someone tell me the heinous crime that the fake present sender will do to the op with her address details? Are we talking identity theft? Burglary? Stealing her bank details? I've been giving my address out a lot lately to people on the end of the phone, who can quite easy scribble it down to take home after work, should I be worried? I've also bought 3 dresses and a soft toy on ebay so once again my details have been given out, I also handed my cv into to a stranger with not only my address but phone number and date of birth! Anyone could get hold of that!

The people saying it's fine to give your address out to anonymous internet randoms, do you also teach your kids that it's fine?

If not, why not?

I wouldn’t give my address out on here because of the issues this site has with security.