Dh thinks I should make his lunch

[williams345]

Name change for this because I'm fuming,
Dh keeps moaning that I don't make his lunch for work , I look after the kids, I work, I clean the house. Why doesn't he make my lunch ?
I keep saying to him we are not in the 19th century just because I'm a women doesn't mean I HAVE to make your lunch. He has hands why can't he make it himself and in the past when I did used to make his lunch if I ever missed a day he would rather spend money on McDonalds etc than to not be lazy and make his own lunch !

"His work mates wife makes his lunch"

I think you need to contact her , take her out to lunch and remind her that she lives in the 21 century. You will probably need to have a chat about ironing as well.

Don't ask about sexual activity though, if it turns out she has the flexibility of a gymnast and the stamina of a marathon runner you will be fucked, metaphorically speaking.

I see nothing wrong in making your dh’s lunch

If you want to,nothing wrong with it. If you don't want to but he expects you to, there are many things wrong with it.

PLEASE DO THE TERRIBLE LUNCHES AND POST HERE EVERY DAY!

Tuna and banana sandwiches
Toast sandwiches - two slices of bread and a slice of toast in the middle
Ham ‘n’ jam surprise
Brown sauce baguette
Seaweed wrap
Egg and Stilton on rye
Lunchbox of chickpeas
A whole turkey
Beetroot and marmite sprinkled with a tablespoon of chilli flakes.

Go on. It would be hilarious.

You answered your own question: it's how he was raised.

Does it make it ok? No. Tell him you will start making his lunches when he comes home from work and cooks YOUR dinner.

Explain to him that his mother is a housewife and has the time, you work and you don't.

Marriage is a partnership not slave labour. CF.

Your DH is a massive, unadulterated CF.

Why can’t he make his own lunch? If he finishes work and even makes a cup of tea or drink... he’s capable of making a sandwich..

I’d refuse point blank if I were you and tell him you make your DC’s Lunch because they are children and not a fully functioning grown adult.

The cheek!

What century is it again?

In 25 years of marriage, even when I didn’t work, I don’t think I’ve ever made my dh lunch.

@LellyMcKelly I'm literally crying.

Please do this OP. 🤣🤣🤣

Toast sandwich is my favourite suggestions

I think the main issue is his expectation and demand that you make it. I make my DH’s lunch on most days but if I’m busy/tired/can’t then he will do it. Tbf, it takes 5 mins to make a sandwich and throw some fruit, yoghurt etc. in a lunchbox. Making my husbands lunch doesn’t make me downtrodden like some people are implying. It’s just something nice I can do to make his day better when at work as he doesn’t have to waste his lunch hour walking to and queuing for lunch. Make the man a sandwich!!

@PityParty4one, no he doesn’t but he does other nice things for me

My friends DH was like this and she got fed up of him whining so she made him a kids lunch, cut the sandwiches into hearts, juice box, bag of baby carrots etc and a note reminding him to be a good boy at work. He didn't check it before he went to work, opened it up, his work mates took the piss out of him and he never asked for one from her again.

I wouldn't have done it myself but stopped him asking.

I haven’t had chance to read the replies.

I would suggest saying that you think it a good idea of his and it will be good to have more equal distribution of the household tasks. That you will make everyones lunches and he can make the dinner.

That you think it is a great idea that you will set up a Rota for getting the kids to and from activities and for doing the weekly cleaning and washing and ironing.

Doro so why do you make his lunch?

If you said no one day would he accept it no issues and just make his own?

@Mamato2gorgeousboys if you don't make your dh a sandwich he could make one himself so again, he doesn't have to walk and queue .

When we were both working we would take it in turns to make each others work sandwhiches. But since I've become a sahm I make his at the same time as the kids. It's no extra effort as I've got all of the stuff out anyway. I dont mind. But when I go back to work, I'd expect him to take turns again.

I love DonPablo’s idea! #belter

Of course you are not being unreasonable. He sounds like a chauvinistic pig.

You should agree to make his lunch. Present him with a list of daily and weekly jobs he will need to do in your “job exchange”. You shouldn’t have to take on extra but tell him you’ll happily trade a weekly bathroom deep clean, daily hoovering and fortnightly bedding changes etc

How long has he been going on about this? Is he trying to wear you down? Every time he asks or brings it up I would say nod and say, why yes of course darling...

Then I would walk away laughing, one of those big old dirty laugh's every single time......and then surprise him with a week of the terrible lunches suggested by @LellyMcKelly

I honestly read MN and wonder how all these disgusting misogynistic pigs managed to find women to put up with them.

THIS.

I know someone whose mum divorced his dad after years of shit like this.

Apparently one of the flashpoints was the dad moaning one time too many about the quality of his lunches. He went on to specify the sorts of sandwiches he wanted.

The mum responded by cutting out pictures of said sandwiches from magazines, getting them laminated and putting them into his lunchbox.

What a legend

Not to derail your thread, but my DicH expected me to make his lunch while he was working from home. I was at work.. I mean wtf!

He should marry his mate's wife then, if that's how he measures a woman.

YANBU btw

I usually make my husband's lunch when I do the children's. It only takes a few minutes so no big deal. We both work but I do less hours so it's only fair I do a bit more. If we were both full time, who knows? I might well carry on because it's just a habit.
However if you don't want to do his lunch then don't bother.