Dh thinks I should make his lunch

[williams345]

Name change for this because I'm fuming,
Dh keeps moaning that I don't make his lunch for work , I look after the kids, I work, I clean the house. Why doesn't he make my lunch ?
I keep saying to him we are not in the 19th century just because I'm a women doesn't mean I HAVE to make your lunch. He has hands why can't he make it himself and in the past when I did used to make his lunch if I ever missed a day he would rather spend money on McDonalds etc than to not be lazy and make his own lunch !

I'd never make him lunch until he made me lunch

I make my dhs lunch...big difference is I'm a sahm with school age children. If I worked, I wouldn't.

My dd use to make baked bean sandwiches -lovely & messy -you can add something to them (hmm suggestions?) & do them in economy white sliced bread - you know the type that glues to the roof of your mouth

Hit him.

I'd start making him really shit lunches just for fun.

Like give him half a cucumber and a pack of Pom bears in a lunch bag.

Well done for saying no! Does he do his equal share of housework and childcare? Time to make him sort that out!

"I'd get three photo frames. In the first one, a picture of you, the second one, a picture of his mother and in the third, a picture of Gordon Ramsey. Ask if he can tell which one you are."

Please do this 😂😂😂.

I think I'd tell him to call his mate's wife. Who knows, she might be up for a younger man!
Or not.

I used to make dhs lunch when I did dds. But now she doesn't have packed lunches I don't. He either makes his own or takes cash.

We were skint a few years ago so I said he should take pack up. He asked if I would get up with him at 5.30am to make it. How I laughed. You should do the same.

When dh tries to get away with something ridiculous based on outdated sexist predefined roles I ask why owning a penis prevents him from doing it. You should do the same.

@SameOldHorrorstory.

I fancy a mustard, beetroot and pate sandwich now. It sounds really nice!

Make his lunch. A jam sandwich cut into quarters, carrot sticks and half a dozen grapes.

He'll stop asking.

If you are both working, you should take turn!

Or, you get to some arrangement that works for you (one makes lunch, the other does the ironing...)

Having to do more chores when you both work equally , just because you are a woman is so stupid I wouldn't even listen. I would just ask him what is for diner for the next foreseeable future and not lift a finger in the kitchen - as long as your kids get fed obviously

Tell him you will do every other day... He can do the others

... For you both obviously

I make dd 1 lunch which is completey different to what he would have

Personally, I'd tell him to fuck off.

Otherwise, you could make him the same as DD's - if he doesn't like it, he can bloody well make it himself!

Write a list of all the domestic jobs and sit him down to divide them up

Why? That's more work for OP. Why is that her responsibility? Does he need mummy to give him his chore list for the week?

I make my husbands lunch every day. He has a really stressful job and if I make his lunch it's one less think for him to have to deal with during the day. He makes me a cup of tea every morning and has my breakfast set up and ready to go. To me it's just a kind thing to do.

If you work significantly less hours than DH I could understand asking. But no, he can make his own lunch. (And get him to make your DD's as well). My DH preps his own packed lunch every evening and does the kids sandwiches for the next day at the same time.

I make my DH lunch, I’m in my thirty’s. But he asks me and does it himself when I tell him I’m not doing it because I’m busy or just can’t be bothered.

He doesn’t expect it.

My husband thought I should iron his shirts. I think I probably laughed and said a firm no. I don’t iron anything so why the fuck I’d iron his shorts I don’t know.

Christ sake he's not a child. My ex, for all his hideous faults, always managed to make his own lunch as a fully functioning adult. I don't think he'd have dared to ask to be honest!

Do you make his tea, wash and dry and hang his clothes, organise appointments that he/you both need to appear at, remind him of special occasions like his own parents birthdays like his secretary?

If you do, you shouldn't. And it's not even good enough for him.

@Sparklyring would you do it if he told you you should because his mates wife does, though?

Honestly if I was you I would be tempted to say "as a grown man are you not embarrassed that you're incapable of making you own lunch and want to be treated like a child?"

I make the DCs lunch, and sometimes, if I'm feeling generous, I'll ask DP if he wants me to put him a lunch box together. Sometimes he says yes please, other times he says no he's fine, and sometimes he goes and makes his lunch and DCs.
Its called teamwork and a bit of give and take!

I'd get three photo frames. In the first one, a picture of you, the second one, a picture of his mother and in the third, a picture of Gordon Ramsey. Ask if he can tell which one you are.

Oh please do this