Dh thinks I should make his lunch

[williams345]

Name change for this because I'm fuming,
Dh keeps moaning that I don't make his lunch for work , I look after the kids, I work, I clean the house. Why doesn't he make my lunch ?
I keep saying to him we are not in the 19th century just because I'm a women doesn't mean I HAVE to make your lunch. He has hands why can't he make it himself and in the past when I did used to make his lunch if I ever missed a day he would rather spend money on McDonalds etc than to not be lazy and make his own lunch !

Those oily Chinese snacks need some century egg with them.

I have made my Dh’s lunch once and it was because he was busy with an urgent household repair that he was more talented at addressing than me.

I suppose I could be said to make DHs lunch-but that’s because he always takes left overs from the night before (pasta/rice etc). Also I work from home and he never gets in before 8pm so I will have earlier and eaten with the kids so can’t wait till then.
Your DH is a lazy dickhead though

I've been with OH for 10 years. There have been years when I made him lunch, then years when I didn't(even though I was a SAHM) so he did them himself or bought something (particularly in summer if there was nowhere to keep them cool enough). I'm now making them again ,but there's no expectation to. If i want to and I can be arsed I make them, if I don't,he makes them himself.

I don't make him dinner(except very rarely), his dick hasn't fallen off yet.

Make him a lunch of Capri sun, petit filous mini box of raisins and a cheese string.

Sahm with school age kids I would do pack lunches for everyone out , and cook supper.

Wohm means division of labour. Simple.

I don’t work and make my son packed lunch but would never dream of making Dh lunch . On the few times I have ( usually involves left overs ) he doesn’t take it !

My words would be something along the lines of "sex and travel " (think about that )....

I suspect that there is frustration as you are working and doing childcare. Perhaps a discussion about responsibility in the home is needed? Don't feel bad about saying no. just explain that your plate is full. Explain to him that you are burned out working and doing childcare and the home and actually that you want more support including making lunches. Or just say no.

BTW I am stay at home mother of 3. I do not make my husband's lunch, but I do make extra for dinner and he packs it to take the next day. I also don't iron his shirts or send cards/presents to his family.

He being an ass
He a big boy and can make his own

I make dh lunch and have no problem doing so. While I'm busy with lunches what's one more?
I'm guessing your dh is one of those who has no appreciation for you, takes you for granted and does nothing much around the house. No wonder you dont feel like doing it.

My ex husband used to do this all the time. If I didn’t make his lunch for work he’d buy something instead because he was too damn lazy to make it himself. I’m so glad I divorced him, I felt more like his mother than his wife!

I make my dh’s lunch, no big deal. I see nothing wrong in making your dh’s lunch

As a newly-wed, my friend refused to make her husband a packed lunch so his mother used to bring one round for him every night... the marriage lasted 5 months

Doro why do you make his lunch?
Does he ever make yours?

I’d be tempered to pop the components of said lunch in a box along with a note saying make it yourself you 1950’s arse stain
If he’s so full of envy for his mates lunch maybe his wife can send him a packed lunch in as well. Has he ever prepared a meal for you? If not I’d be sure (and have myself done this) that at least one day of the week you don’t sort an evening meal out. I didn’t care if it was beans on toast, take away or a decent cooked meal but it was/is his responsibility. I do the lions share of cooking I don’t mind but I do mind doing it 7 days a week. Sharing is caring after all 😄

My 10 year old makes his own lunch and often puts mine together at the same time. If he can do it, so can a grown man.

It is nice to do things for each other, so I agree with OP, why doesn't her DH make lunch for her?

I've often wondered if men in relationships ever consider what single blokes who live alone do?

Funnily enough these men can work,do housework and feed themselves but blokes in a relationship seem incapable of doing both.

It's sheer laziness.Unfortuately I seem to be in possession of one of said lazy shites.He'd rather waste money on McDonald's than make himself food to take to work and then acts like a martyr because I don't make him lunch.In fact unless he can open it and shove it in his mouth he's not interested in food preparation at all.

Do I care?,nope because he's a adult and it's not my responsibility to feed him while he's at work ,he's my husband not my dog.

My husband once asked me why I didn't make his lunch since his mum makes all his dads lunches and dinners for him and a lot of the guys he works with have wives make them food. I don't said "are you sure you want to eat any lunch I make you after such a sexist and old fashioned request?" He didn't ask again.

A sahm making lunch for her dh is perfectly reasonable. A woman who works full time should not be expected to also fulfil the role of a 1950s housewife.

I think men who want a wife who stays at home and panders to their every need should be prepared to take the full financial burden.

You are both working. Tell him to make his own. Could you take turns to do all the lunches - do day about or week about.

Yes make him a children lunch as others have suggested!!!
He won’t ask again.
My ex used to think I should iron his shirts. He was a misogynist!!!
Women’s work!!!

I'd make wasabi sandwiches every day.

And I'd wipe the bread on my armpits....

Making each others lunches should be something you both do, not one servant to the other.

I'd make the same as you do your DC, it won't add long to your time or inconvenience you much.

(Having said that, I always make DH's lunch if I am making the early morning cup of tea, it's something to do while waiting for the kettle to boil)