Copy of wedding picture

[Nai89]

Hi All.
So I attended my first cousins wedding summer last year {2019}. I'd recently just had a baby too but attended as it was the first wedding where a bride was joining the family.

Anyway so in the last month I asked for a copy of a wedding picture taken professionally (Grooms maternal side). I thought it was great to have an image of my nan, my own uncles, aunts, 1st cousins etc. Everyone in this photo is a close relative plus the fact me, my husband and 3 children are in this photo.

To my dismay I was point blank refused. I was told they're 'private pictures' and that I should respect the grooms wishes (my first cousin). AIBU for asking for a copy? I find it deeply disturbing that no one else in the picture is objecting to me to having a copy but the fact my children are in this image and they won't share it with me.

My eldest son is 7, daughter 5 and newborn. There are other children in this photo too. I am actually livid how they can refuse this, I find it disturbing to the point im not sleeping today. Why won't a 23 Yr old newly married man share a professional group photo of his maternal side??

@DappledThings things change over the years I guess.

If the bride and groom are just being precious about it, then as it’s their wedding I guess they are entitled to be. I don’t think there’s really a right or wrong answer.

@Hempleaves

Oh my, I sooooo love coming on here and being called names by someone who doesn’t allow others to have an opinion.

Thanks for the compliment. Xxx

I think he hastily made up that excuse to make himself seen to be not tight. He probably thought like us, we had 40 couples each wanting a particular photograph @ £20 each = £800 !!! The groom wouldn’t be allowed to print copies of the originals due to copyright reasons. So when you buy one, you’ve got to do the same for the rest, which works out at a lot of money. This is where photographers really take the cash in!
If they’ve just forked out for a wedding, to then unexpectedly find and pay an extra £800 for various prints of photos, for say in our case 40 people couples/families, was too much and was something we couldn’t afford as we’d just brought a house. We hadn’t actually factored in this extra cost, as we assumed that people would take their own photos with their own cameras or phones, or get someone else to take one of them. It may seem like just one photo to you, but think about the above...
Maybe ask around to see if someone took a photo of you all, or phone the from and explain that you’ve just realised the astronomical cost and didn’t realise, but would be willing to pay for your own.