To be annoyed about his comment?

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So I have been seeing a guy for 9 months, I am going through a divorce with a man who was pretty manipulative and abusive so have had support to deal with having good boundaries etc.

Anyway today in a text conversation he has made a comment about my pubic hair! I am not a wax it girl but I trim my bush, I don’t really like being hairless, and ffs it’s my body to decide! He prefers no hair or at least it very trimmed back back I am not livid with his comment about me having a stray hair and that i use any excuse to have hair down there!

Grrrr! I have put him straight saying it’s my body. I just feel pissed off right now! What are your thoughts? My ex husband never had an issue with this!

Nobody is entitled to tell you what they would prefer to be different about your body. Any part of your body. That's is unacceptable.

Inappropriatefemale why are you so invested in this thread? It's pages now of you defending your personal life; this thread isn't about you.

I’m defending what I said and I am entitled to do so and I give examples of my own life to prove my point otherwise I’m just spouting things without back up so to speak.

Also I’ll say what I want thanks, it’s not like I’m using my real name!

I always say something on a thread if I have something to say coz you know, that’s what you do on MN threads, is there a rule about only posting once that I seem to have missed?

he'll be on a forum discussing the use of 'negging' techniques to bring a woman under control
he knows I have low self esteem
yep thats why he chose you, he's nice until you feel safe then he starts chipping away to get you under control

I find pubic hair collects smells

personally I hate PH on a guy

Maybe he is politely telling you .... it smells down there ?

WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK

yep thats why he chose you, he's nice until you feel safe then he starts chipping away to get you under control seriously? I don’t think it’s that deep. He said he doesn’t like public hair

That kind of bullshit entitlement is a real turn off.

I think having no hair is childlike though, because children don't naturally have pubic hair and adults do, how is it sick to point that out?

I think what's more sick is women preferring to have no hair because they think it's 'dirty' or looks 'ugly'.

Women putting their physical health at risk because we've been socialised to think our natural bodies are disgusting, or because our own partners prefer us that way.

@QueenOfTheSavages why don’t people just mind their own business about others preferences?

Personally, I think men who don't like pubic hair are either the type to watch too much porn or prefer women to look prepubescent. Either is a big turn off.

Tell him, if offends him so much then he he wont be seeing it again.

Inappropriate female, I’m sorry that your conditions of worth are aesthetically based for the pleasure of men. I hope you know that your value as a person is not dictated by the decor of your genitals

It depends how he expressed it, to be honest. Surely women have preferences about their partner's bodies, too? Do they never express them?

(I barely trim, never mind shave down there - but I do get that many women do, and that for some reason, men like it)

My friends probably split 50/50 on who waxes it off and who doesn't. We do actually talk about stuff like this because one of our friends does waxing and it comes up in drunken conversations. (where we discuss it, our friend is of course completely confidential and never discusses who does or doesn't!).

It is a matter of personal choice. If you don't want to then don't. If it is a deal breaker for him then he needs to walk away and find somebody who does.

Tell him you’ll get the Hollywood wax when he does the same.

Then when he gets it done, you don’t get yours done! Just point and laugh at his pimply pudendum.

My friends probably split 50/50 on who waxes it off and who doesn't.

NOW you've got me thinking of The Karate Kid

I do mind my own business, it's not like I go up to people in the street and tell them what to do with their pubes this is a public forum and the OP asked a question which I felt like answering. If people are really so secure in their choices there's no need to get defensive about it.

Why would an adult male who is attracted to adult females wish their genitals to resemble those of a child? Beats me, but I'd guess too much porn/closet paedophile in all honesty.

@QueenOfTheSavages that’s the most ignorant and repulsive thing to say. Do bald men look like babies? Women in dresses with shaved legs and armpits do they look like toddlers?

FannyDingo

What the fuck? A potential paedo?
Preferring a clean shave doesn't make someone a paedo!

Trust me. As someone who was raped at 11 I can tell you that pubic hair or the lack thereof on a full grown woman is not what paedophiles are interested in.

OP you can have your minge however you want it and he has no right to dictate to you what to do with your pubic hair. You can have a vajazzle if you want and it would still be fuck all to do with him.

Yeah, he might prefer it shaved. I prefer someone with a bit of hair on their head... Doesn't mean I'm going to tell DP to get a wig because he's thinning on top. His head, his choice.

I find the whole idea of men wanting women to be completely hairless absolutely grim.
It's a porn thing.
Personally I would tell him to fuck clean off.

@QueenOfTheSavages you are the one getting defensive accusing people are being peadophiles if they don’t like hairy vaginas? My god I’ve heard it all

Ime this love of hair-free women comes from porn. Tell him to get waxed and see how he likes it.

After all you have been through you REALLY don't need a man like this in your life.

Whether they do or don't is unimportant to me as heads, legs and armpits aren't sexual organs. I find it disturbing that the porn industry has reduced women to infantilised objects for men to use and abuse. Sorry if you don't agree with what I say, but I would break up with someone who was into women with no pubic hair because I would think they were a creep.

I would ask this man why he wants women to look like prepubescent girls and tell him that pubic hair is a health issue, those who wax or shave risk problems, I wonder how he would like it if you preferred circumcised men?