To be annoyed about his comment?

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So I have been seeing a guy for 9 months, I am going through a divorce with a man who was pretty manipulative and abusive so have had support to deal with having good boundaries etc.

Anyway today in a text conversation he has made a comment about my pubic hair! I am not a wax it girl but I trim my bush, I don’t really like being hairless, and ffs it’s my body to decide! He prefers no hair or at least it very trimmed back back I am not livid with his comment about me having a stray hair and that i use any excuse to have hair down there!

Grrrr! I have put him straight saying it’s my body. I just feel pissed off right now! What are your thoughts? My ex husband never had an issue with this!

Burst couch is a Scottish term for ‘all over the place, bursting out’

I don't think it's the norm! I'm 32 and certainly don't shave it all off and pretty sure my friends don't either. In fact a couple of years ago one of my friends confided to the group her bf told her to get waxed if she wanted oral and we all told her to dump him! Fairly sure most women aren't going around sporting the porn star look.

If hair is going IN your mouth when you’re doing oral. Then I think you’ve been doing it wrong all these years!

My friends all shave, we’re early to late 20’s.

End the relationship? It’s entirely up to him if he doesn’t want to go down on someone with pubic hair. Also entirely up to you if you want to either go without oral or end the relationship.

Why does it have to be called a pornstar look?

As I said previously then we all have our own normal and mines is to shave down there.

Of course hair can get in your mouth when you’re doing oral.

I’m great at oral and I got my mans in my teeth a lot, sometimes it’s inevitable and so I disagree with this totally that it’s getting done wrong if it goes in mouth, ex sex worker here, I know how to give oral sex

Inappropriatefemale

I’m a bisexual woman and I like pubes on people. Doesn’t worsen giving oral sex at all for me.

He said you use any excuse to have hair down there? That’s an extraordinary thing for him to say. You don’t need an excuse, it’s simply a choice you’ve made. Why would you need to make an excuse? Weird.

I couldn’t be in a sexual relationship with someone who felt it was ok to critique my body and grooming.

It sounds like wants you to feel shame, yuk.

You mistake was dating again after leaving an abusive relationship without having done extensive work on your self-esteem and boundaries and not dumping a person who shows signs of not respecting either one at the first sign. This is the first sign. He's been 'respectful' long enough, now he's moving on to the great chip away.

In some ways, I'm so glad my DD is, as she says, 'a butch lesbian'. None of these fucking grim pornhub addict men.

Get rid of him.

I think a grown man who can't handle public hair on a grown woman is extremely creepy. Who needs 'an excuse' to have pubes... Ugh OP he's probably been watching way too much porn and has silly ideas about what natural adult female bodies look like.

Why on earth do you need an excuse to do what you want with your own body?

Dump him.

Who the hell does he think he is expecting you to change your preference to suit him, cheeky bastard and he's a coward not saying it to your face.

Just out of interest to those that shave, how do you manage to not get unsightly ingrown hair bumps?

*pubic not public

"thank goodness you have broached such an intimate subject. Have been meaning to mention I do prefer a much bigger penis".

Love this savage response 😂

No excuse needed for being a woman. LTB.

He's entitled to an opinion and he's entitled to talk to you face to face about what he prefers

But By text in the manner he did it , is just childish

You are entitled to style your body any way you damn well please.

As is he.

@Inappropriatefemale because it's been normalised by porn.

I find pubic hair collects smells
Personally I hate PH on a guy
Maybe he is politely telling you .... it smells down there ?

Mmm maybe it has but I don’t think hairless is a bad thing.

All this entitlement bullshit. No, he's not 'entitled' to make comments like this. He's entitled to fuck off if he doesn't like it, not hector another person.

Get rid, OP, stop dating until you've done much more work on yourself. It's common to find a different sort of abuser.

I find lack of pubic hair on a man bloody weird and I don't like it. Have never had an issue with smell - and presumably it should be fine if they are washing regularly and have good hygiene. I certainly wouldn't be giving a blow job otherwise!

But then I don't like completely men anyway - I like chest and leg hair. I slept with one bloke who shaved and waxed everything and it felt like he was a Ken doll! Seriously strange.

Completely smooth men - that should say!