To be annoyed about his comment?

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So I have been seeing a guy for 9 months, I am going through a divorce with a man who was pretty manipulative and abusive so have had support to deal with having good boundaries etc.

Anyway today in a text conversation he has made a comment about my pubic hair! I am not a wax it girl but I trim my bush, I don’t really like being hairless, and ffs it’s my body to decide! He prefers no hair or at least it very trimmed back back I am not livid with his comment about me having a stray hair and that i use any excuse to have hair down there!

Grrrr! I have put him straight saying it’s my body. I just feel pissed off right now! What are your thoughts? My ex husband never had an issue with this!

I would probably wait until he wanted sex to dump him. Just so he got the full effect of his words.

I would dump at this. I know you don’t want to but it’s a bad sign.

Fuck him off.

"thank goodness you have broached such an intimate subject. Have been meaning to mention I do prefer a much bigger penis".
And block.

He's not a keeper. I bet he watches a lot of porn.

I would send a text along the lines of "im so glad you brought this up as i have some concerns myself regarding your downstairs region but felt i would be rude to bring them up" then never speak to him again...let him wonder

Nah.
Personally I'd phase him out after a weird, patronising comment like that.

Move on, your body and your choice

He can have a preference, doesn't mean you have to do anything, i'd be more annoyed if he mentioned it again after i'd told him i wouldn't be doing that.

I am hair free completely down there and I totally understand why men don’t like hair, imagine getting hairs in your teeth when giving oral? Yuck.

It’s your body though but there’s nothing wrong with having a preference, it’s the norm now to have no hair there.

Offer to wax his bollocks for him since he’s so keen on hairlessness. Your hair, your decision. He has no say in this.

@Whynosnowyet

I am hair free completely down there and I totally understand why men don’t like hair, imagine getting hairs in your teeth when giving oral? Yuck.

If you have male partners do you insist on them being hair free too? Women managed to get oral long before the (fairly recent in terms of humanity) trend for hair free vulva.

it’s the norm now to have no hair there.

Really?

I got my ex to shave his balls and I shaved myself, or he did, I don’t like hair when giving oral.

I think so, it’s maybe a certain age group, I’m 38 and most of my friends shave too!

Tell him to fuck off.

Times change and hair down there isn’t fashionable anymore, each to their own of course but I prefer mines shaved.

You’re repeating the pattern of settling for manipulative men.

Get rid. You owe this guy nothing.

He was offensive about it and could’ve been far more tactful and he should have said that he would do it to himself too.

I think so, it’s maybe a certain age group, I’m 38 and most of my friends shave too!

Same age as you and it's not the norm with my friends!

Porn- does he watch a lot?

Run a mile. Now.

I think so, it’s maybe a certain age group, I’m 38 and most of my friends shave too!

Same age as you and it's not the norm with my friends!

I’m just a few years older and I have no idea and literally never have had any idea if my friends shave their pubes or not

IMO women talk about these things together, it obviously all depends on your pals but as an ex sex worker then talking about sex is natural to me and especially with my pals.

I started shaving way before sex work though.