To be annoyed about his comment?

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So I have been seeing a guy for 9 months, I am going through a divorce with a man who was pretty manipulative and abusive so have had support to deal with having good boundaries etc.

Anyway today in a text conversation he has made a comment about my pubic hair! I am not a wax it girl but I trim my bush, I don’t really like being hairless, and ffs it’s my body to decide! He prefers no hair or at least it very trimmed back back I am not livid with his comment about me having a stray hair and that i use any excuse to have hair down there!

Grrrr! I have put him straight saying it’s my body. I just feel pissed off right now! What are your thoughts? My ex husband never had an issue with this!

Well because I’ve been shaving since 2004 then it’s that used to it that I no longer get these irritations, it used to itch like hell but not now, it’s a lot of work and atm I’m single so it’s hairy but if I am going to have sex then I will shave it.

Why can’t people talk about others preferences without being derogatory? It’s not strange to shave, it’s not strange to have body hair. It’s not gross or old fashioned to have pubic hair and it’s not porny and prepubescent to shave it off. It’s literally just other people preferences.

*I find pubic hair collects smells
Personally I hate PH on a guy
Maybe he is politely telling you .... it smells down there ?

Pubic hair doesn’t collect smells- not washing does.

Doesn’t matter if o/p shaves all her pubic hair off, if she’s not washing it will still smell.

If she smells then asking her to wash will be far more effective than asking to remove ph

Personally I hate the hairless look and anyone asking me to even trim can fuck right off.

Maybe he is politely telling you .... it smells down there

FFS.

Maybe tell him that pubic hair is there for a reason and that removing it can potentially leave a woman more at risk of all types of infections, including STIs, skin infections, and possibly pelvic infections. If you wash regularly you won't smell, hair does not make a person smelly. It traps bacteria but that's why we wash frequently. It also traps pheromones which attract the opposite sex.

Of course it's a person's choice to shave etc, but your partner should not be mocking you because of your body, that's just disrespectful and childish.

It’s your body though but there’s nothing wrong with having a preference, it’s the norm now to have no hair there.

I really don't think that it is the norm (outside of pornography). If every single woman of the UK were surveyed, I don't believe the majority would have their pubic hair fully removed.

ffs it actually does have a purpose and its not an accident that we evolved this way - it helps prevent spread bacteria and infection and was designed to help sex but stopping friction

The norms for me and my friends then.

Wow! He actually said that! You don’t like the facilities, you don’t get to use them! I couldn’t continue even casually with someone after a comment like that. I would feel so humiliated and violated.

I think so, it’s maybe a certain age group, I’m 38 and most of my friends shave too!

Same age as you and it's not the norm with my friends!

I’m just a few years older and I have no idea and literally never have had any idea if my friends shave their pubes or not

Exactly, I can't imagine discussing this subject with any of my friends, yuck!!

OP, none of this means that your boyfriend wasn't completely in the wrong to send you this text. Your body, your choice whether you shave or not.

I find pubic hair collects smells

Only if you don't wash. Don't you wash?

So you don’t discuss these things with your friends, that’s fine but every friendship group is different.

Although to find it ‘yucky’ to talk about is prudish to me and if you can’t talk to your pals about stuff then who can you talk about it too?

You are entitled to style your body any way you damn well please. As is he.

But he's not entitled to tell the OP how to style her body.

I thought the bush is back? It is according to Vogue etc.

I think the fully bare look is really creepy. Who wants to looks like a child?

For me his comment would be an immediate binning offence.

The whole no hair thing is so creepy - post puberty bodies have hair, that is a sign of adulthood. I get the porn actors wax everything so cameras can see all aspects of what is happening, but irl, dont see any need for it. Just one more thing to spend money on. If he doesnt like it, set him loose to find someone who doesnt mind being bald there.

Well I have a women’s body in every respect so I don’t think any of my partners have been paedophiles because they prefer me without hair as do I, it’s a preference, they know it belongs to a grown woman!

"I think the fully bare look is really creepy. Who wants to looks like a child?"

Fucking bingo.

None of us look like children down there, not even if you haven't given birth.

Do we look like children when we put our arms up and we have shaved our underarms?

OP, what's the other remark? I'll put money on now your divorce is finalising, these remarks are part of an agenda.

He's entitled to an opinion

No one is entitled to give an opinion on someone else’s body! That’s just arrogance, to feel that you can tell someone how they should look.

I love how on threads like this everyone says “your body your choice” while also dissing those who chose to have no hair? Or insist they MUST watch porn

Fucking bingo.

You'll note that the "pubic hair is smelly/dirty/gross" squares on the bingo card were filled long before that one.

I'm amazed at people finding time to shave their pubic hair! I personally think if the person you're allowing inside your pants isn't delighted to be granted access bin them off.

Potential paedo.

Misogynistic at best.

LTB.

I also think referring to having no hair as ‘childlike’ is fucking sick