Forgot anniversary

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Our anniversary was on Monday (6/1/20) and DH forgot and didn’t get me a card or anything.
I reminded him on the Saturday prior (he has form for forgetting things) and then I text him on the Monday to say “happy anniversary! Can’t wait for you to be home to celebrate”
He came home and is got him a card, made his favourite dinner and got him a brownie, which he loves. He got me... nothing and said he’d forgotten.

(For context I text because we have a 2 Month old DS and I’m still sleeping the night shift off when he goes to work)

I’m not materialistic, I honestly would have been happy with a card and some flowers from the petrol station, he knows this! But I’m hurt he didn’t even remember to go on his way home from work. This year has been a big year for us and I felt the most important in our relationship. We had a baby, bought a house together and got married since our last anniversary. I feel quite hurt and like it was quite thoughtless. But AIBU to be so upset? It might be the BF hormones and lack of sleep doing the feeling...

FYI we did get “married” so the paperwork is done but our wedding is coming up in 2020 so we won’t be celebrating a wedding anniversary on the date we signed the paperwork, so it’s not like that date is the one we will celebrate from now on.

2018, we signed register outdoors.

What nonsense are you talking?

NC as this is potentially outing. I married DH in a registry office on a Tuesday afternoon a few years ago. 2 friends as witnesses, I think it cost about £200. Incidentally it was the 6th anniversary of our first date, which makes anniversaries easier in the future.

10 days later we had a wedding, at a beautiful barn and had a very personal humanist ceremony in a stunning garden - the ceremony was the most important part of the day, where I got to say vows that I'd written, rather than ones that were prescribed to me by the law. The venue did not have a wedding license, which is why we did the registry office bit the week before. We didn't sign a register, but we did sign a certificate that our celebrant had created for us, some people may have assumed that was the register. Some of our guests knew that we'd already done the legal bit, some didn't, but we didn't try to hide it from anyone. On our invitation we mentioned the fact that it was a humanist ceremony (and anyone looking it up would realise it wasn't the legal bit).

In England, some wedding venues may let you have a real ceremony outside, but there will be some kind of permanent structure such as a pergola. The law says that wedding licenses cannot be granted to open air premises: www.gov.uk/approval-of-premises-for-civil-marriage-or-civil-partnership
The law is different in Scotland, you can get married anywhere you like, and I believe humanist ceremonies are legally binding too. Don't know about Wales and NI.

"I showed my DH some of the comments on here and he thinks most of you who have been so unkind are off your rockers."

This from a selfish git who couldn't be bothered getting you a card after you reminded him mere hours earlier. No one buys that he forgot.' I'm not so sure that anyone would really give a toss what he thought. 🙄

Well, he would say that, wouldn’t he??