To not let DD go on this trip?

[GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat]

Hands up, I’m quite anxious about this exact situation, I fear abduction but DH also thinks he’s leaning towards no as well but we’d like further opinion.

Dd has been invited by cubs to go on a seven day camp during May half term to a city 80 miles away. She’s 9, will be almost 10 at the time.

She goes on school trips, other cubs trips, family sleepovers etc and she’s our youngest child fwiw so no pfb here.

I just think this is too far and for too long and too risky but would appreciate your votes!

Am I unreasonable for declining the invitation?

Yabu re abduction, there is little chance of this happening, we have a cub/scouts/GG camp close to us (feel free to pm me to see if it's the same place this is happening at) and although they sleep in tents the whole area is discreetly fenced in, security on the gates, you can't get in or out without passes or authorisation.

It all depends on your dd tbh, my eldest at that age, no chance, she wouldn't want to go anyway. V quiet, shy and a real home bird, she's have got v upset. My youngest, hell yes! Outward going, outdoorsy, v social, she'd have loved it and jumped at the chance

Dd is actually going on a cubs sleepover at the end of January for two nights, and also PGL with school for two nights in April. Where people have got this idea that I never let her go anywhere, I’ve no idea. I think some people have their own agenda sometimes!

Anyway we have had a chat and she does want to go in principle. She’s not 100% certain (mainly due to how long) but we will continue to speak about it and make a decision based on how she feels when we get some more information. She wants to know who else is going for example.

OP I wonder if PP have been thinking that you don't let her go anywhere due to your fear of abduction comment. Because if abduction was going to happen it could happen on a one night sleepover down the road.

I am still amazed by PP being surprised that cubs will be sleeping in tents! Maybe it is because we live in a very rural area so all camps are in tents, never in buildings and not usually on proper campsites either. Portaloos are provided when cub camps are in fields, but scout camps are sometimes true wild camping without a fence or a portaloo in sight. They have to carry all their own equipment including a trowel I don't offer to help on those camps

We live in a small town on the edge of a rural area; Cubs camp as do Beavers but often at permanent sites, sometimes the tents (more often the kitchen hut) is already put up.

Where people have got this idea that I never let her go anywhere, I’ve no idea.

I'm beginning to question the reading comprehension skills of MNetters lately. So many people not reading threads properly, or maybe as you say they just have their own agenda.