To not tell anyone about birthday of baby for 2 weeks

[girlanonymous]

Not due until April, but me and DP want to have a week or 2 to ourselves with DC when she's here.

We're planning on not telling anyone until after 2 weeks that's she's here.

Has anyone done this?

I think it's a great idea, but how will you field ALL the questions?

Your baby, your choice but sounds bonkers to me. Is no one going to ask where you are or expect to see you in that time?

YABU. Just do what everyone else does and say "we'd like a couple of days to settle in".

Why hide something joyful your closest family and friends want to celebrate?

Why? Is it your first?

When you say you wont tell anyone do you literally mean anyone or those out with immediate family?

2 weeks

You'll be stir crazy at home for that long. Will people not pop round?

You can still have time to yourself, but why not just tell people you have given birth and that (hopefully) you are both well?

People WILL ask you, so what are you going to say to them?
I think it’s better to be upfront and say you’d just like a bit of quiet time for a short while. If you lie then tell the truth later on it will no doubt backfire on you.

A friend of mine didnt let anyone see her baby for 4 weeks. She was/is somewhat unconventional though.

It’s lovely to get cards and flowers from friends when a baby arrives and people understand that it’s not usually welcome to have lots of visitors. Tbh if you’re stuck in the house with your partner and a newborn for two weeks you’ll certainly appreciate your friends when you do eventually allow them in

You will be super bored if you stay home for 2 weeks! A few days is fine, but honestly you'll likely want to see people.

That's really selfish of you.

So what suits you. Your life.

They will all be really hurt. Your mum might hold it against you for years.

Ah the pfb.
All been at that stage.
Ime you will actually want to show off your baby!!
And receive wishes and love from those who care about you!!. Imagine your pfb doing that to you in the future!!
Visitors will want to cuddle your baby not steal it you know!!
Yabu.

it's your life but I would think it's so attention seeking of you. More like, I had a baby and we are too good to see any of you but now that two weeks have passed you are all worthy of knowing.
Why not just be adults and tell people you need a bit of time and pop in after two weeks?

Giving birth and welcoming the babies we’d been looking forward to for 9 months was the neat feeling. I was so proud of myself, my husband, my baby... I couldn’t wait to see my parents, my wider family and friends and show off my gorgeous baby.

So you're not going to answer any calls or messages for two weeks? Do you not think anyone might be a bit worried in that period?

It's fine to keep people at arms length but just remember they may stay there. In the long term do you want a close extended family? People to be a part of your child's life and have a close bond with her? If so then I think you need to consider how this might impact on the people you are shutting out and lying to.

My first baby was born 9 weeks early, I hadn't processed or and decided not to tell anyone I had.

14 hours later everyone knew. Not my choice but news gets out.

Ffs. If you must do this tell your family or friends baby is safe and well, we will let you know when ready for visitors in a couple of weeks.

Not telling them of birth is impractical at the very least and deceitful/hurtful at worst.

Your choice and depends on your families involved. One of my favourite memories is handing a day old DD to my mum, the first person to meet her, and watching her meet her first grandchild. It was wonderful. She’d have come the day before when DD was born but we were in recovery overnight and not allowed visitors.

2 weeks is a lot. Do people know your due date? Prepare to have to turn your phones off or have to explain later why you lied to your loved ones.

Is this your first?

This sounds like a lovely birth plan with candles, whale music and no pain relief - by 8pm of day 2 you'll be texting/emailing/calling to see if anyone wants to pop round 😂

It seems rather unfair on your family not to be told for a fortnight. And even on supportive friends. I'd have been so hurt if my brother and SIL had done this, and so much more so if my daughter did this to me.