To not tell anyone about birthday of baby for 2 weeks

[girlanonymous]

Not due until April, but me and DP want to have a week or 2 to ourselves with DC when she's here.

We're planning on not telling anyone until after 2 weeks that's she's here.

Has anyone done this?

Snubbing your family is hardly a great start to parenthood.

I don't understand why you would do that or how you could keep it a secret. Do you and DH have parents or other close family?
Its possible to still have time to yourself with the baby and share the good news about their arrival with people closest to you. Believe me you will need all the help you can get when the baby comes. If you do this you are likely to really hurt the people you might what to go to for help. I would be very upset if one of my DC didn't tell me their child had been born for 2 weeks. Not least because mothers of daughters worry about their daughters during pregnancy, Labour and , childbirth. Not telling them the baby has arrived safely just makes that worry last longer.

Unless you're gonna lie about your due date too YABU.
People are not stupid and will call, text, pop round etc when they realise it is around your due date and they haven't heard from you.
Obviously totally up to you, but dont be too hasty in keeping everyone at arms length,especially as when you're tearing your hair out over PFB and just NEED SOME SLEEP, all those that you excluded push away may not be there.

This is ridiculous?

How are you going to hide away for two weeks and pretend to your family that you’re still pregnant?

As a mother I would be very hurt if my son or daughter lied to me about something so important.

When are you telling people the baby is due? - are you adding a few weeks to your real due date to hide away or no?

And when people ask how you are will you lie or just not answer texts?

If a close friend was 3 weeks over due date and refusing to reply to any message over the course of a week or two I’d be pretty worried about them tbh.

I never really understand people who do this, if you really don't want people to visit then just stay. But keeping the birth of your baby a secret for 2 weeks is just odd in my opinion. And I think you'll offend people (family). I also don't get people who say this but will be quick to ask family for babysitting when it is needed!

Is your name Meghan?

Sure OP sure.... (by day two you'll be hovering at the front gate waiting for the postman / milkman/ bin man/shop keeper/ local busybody so you can show him/her off to someone - anyone!)

2 weeks stuck in.. In case anyone sees you.. I clildnt do 2 days with either of mine.
Plus on day 5 we had to visit the midwife for the heel Prick test so chances are would be seen

Just say hi.. Little one arrived xxx date. Please give us a few days to settle in and we'll contact you when we're up for visitors.

That's awfully selfish, If you do this I hope your child does this in return to you in the future

Also ours is if a nice straight forward delivery.. All HV appointments they make for you to go there rather than HV coming to home. You will be seen.

Do what you want but I imagine your immediate families will be very hurt.
Personally I couldn't wait to get out of the house and see people - day after I came home after c-section we went out to lunch and I breastfed in public - removing that worry!
And it was lovely having people come by while my husband took his two weeks leave and introduce the new member of the family.

If you have an emergency c/s or any issues you are not going to want to shun any help or company!!!
And yes, it’s insane.,

if you don't let people know, they will worry that something awful has happened to you or the baby

and if you say you will contact them in 2 weeks, they will also think that something is wrong with you or the baby

Agree with Noeuf...my daughter had her baby a few weeks ago and I cannot imagine her not wanting people to meet her beautiful baby!! Brought back memories of how proud I was when I had my babies as well .There is something particularly unique about a newborn that is absolutely magical and I cannot imagine not sharing that special time with close family and friends.

Could you not just send a message to say ‘Hi all baby arrived safely on x date, he/she is doing great and we are very happy. Going to take a few days to settle in then arrange visits!’ You won’t have peace anyway as the midwife will be round on day 1,3 and 5 etc.

People can wait to visit, but I don’t think your parents will forgive easily being snubbed like this. And in my experience with all three I couldn’t wait to show them off each time and revel in all the help people offered! It’s lovely and you only have your first baby once.

Ridiculous idea. Must be 1st baby as have no idea of visualising what it will be like and how you will feel. Sorry but bonkers and odd imo.

Totally up to you and this may be the only way to get time to yourself (as that's what you want).
I had someone say they were coming to see the baby asap regardless of what my DH and I thought.

Two weeks seems a bit long. If you go over two weeks people will know. Also, it will probably get out.

I always wonder if the people who write these type of batshit keeping the little family unit apart from grandparents for the first few weeks are the same people who later whine about the fact that no one wants to baby sit their toddler so they can't go out...

Yabu. And ridiculous.

YABU and silly.

My dil did this. Said the midwife had said no visitors for at least 3 weeks, so she could bond with the baby.
We were allowed a tiny visit as we live abroad and happened to be in the uk. She cut off all family members slowly but surely. She now just communicates only with her mother. Not seen the dgs for 10 years. Her loss.

YABU. Think of your family and how they’ll feel. Not to mention people will think something’s terrible has happened if you disappear for two weeks.

I know some one who kept all visitors away for just over two weeks and the got really upset when no one raised to visit after as they felt excluded. You reap what you sow.

I’d find it really strange someone had kept it secret for two weeks.

It's your choice OP, but if you want the baby to have a close loving relationship with his/her extended family this might not be the best way to achieve it! Won't your parents / PILs / siblings be hurt?