Friend selling gifts I got her

[nobunfight]

Just been on Facebook and seen my best friend is selling some shoes she borrowed from me a couple months ago. She asked me if she could borrow them, I said yes of course. I hadn't asked for them back because I hadn't needed them, but I do want them back at some point! Anyway they are on Facebook for sale, I thought ok, she maybe forgot they were mine, but then I noticed there are 2 other things she's put on, gifts I bought her. One is a gift from a holiday, that I put a lot of thought into, and another a Christmas present that again, I spent a lot on and put a lot of thought into and she said she loved them.

How do I approach this? Am I being unreasonable to be pissed off?

The presents are hers to do with whatever she wants, although it’s a bit rude and I wouldn’t buy her anything again.

The shoes I would demand back ASAP before she sells them!

PS - maybe she’s desperate for money, but no, you’re not being unreasonable to be annoyed.

Make her an offer

The gifts are a bit different, because once you give someone something it's theirs to dispose of as they wish. Although in future Is just get her wine or chocolate or something - clearly your tastes don't mesh.

The shoes - I'd be leaving a public comment reminding her who they belong to and requesting their return!

The gift thing is poor form but at the end of the day they are hers. She’s into cf territory regarding the shoes though. As pp’s have said make sure you ask for them back

Text her "Eh Mary, why are you trying to sell my shoes , I want those back"

Say nothing about the gifts

She's not desperate for money, I know that for sure :/

She sounds horrid. I'd be so tempted to make a comment along the lines of, 'Are these the shoes you borrowed from me?' and, 'Oh, sorry you didn't like the gifts, I know not to bother next time'. Then I'd probably delete her. The fact that she doesn't care that you can see all of this is doubly rude.

Then just tell her

Oi! How self absirbed do you have to be to do this where I can see it? It's bad enough selling gifts I have given you but to sell my shoes that you borrowed I'd utterly shit. I want them back, immediately.

What CalmDownJanet said.

Just because you 'put a lot of thought' into the gift, doesn't mean you got it right.
She was presumably being polite when she opened them, but if she isn't going to use them, then why keep them ?

Get the shoes back though!

Get your shoes back. The other stuff is hers to sell unfortunately.

Have you asked her for the shoes back!

I'd post on fb that you want the shoes back that she's selling as they're yours. I'd embarrass her on Facebook.

Get the shoes back. Unfortunately there’s nothing you can do about the gifts except maybe don’t buy her anything in future.

Just ask for your shoes back, really don't understand why you wouldn't.

As for the gifts; they are hers to do with as she wishes. Yes, your feelings might be hurt, but they may honestly be something she likes/needs.

doesn't like or need I mean!

Not asked her for the shoes back yet, but I will. Probably won't mention the gifts. I’m afraid to kick up a fuss in case she forgot they were only on loan not to keep and I don’t want to come across as petty over some shoes

The shoes are yours, so ask for them.
the gifts are hers though(and to be polite she would always say she loved them, even if not), so she can sell them if she wants (better than the bin!)

Ask why she is selling your shoes on Facebook, you want them back then just say as she is selling the gifts you bought for her, you're going to stop doing gifts

Ask for the shoes back definitely.

For the presents- perhaps say 'Well I paid £50 or whatever for these, but I'm willing to pay £5 to buy them back from you'... It will put others off and hopefully make her think twice about it!

I'd get on with it if I were you. Stuff on fbook is often listed, sold and collected within an hour round here!

Just say you've seen your shoes listed on fbook and you need them back!

Definitely just leave a comment on the shoes saying "Oi Madam, I want these back"... she will know that you've seen the other posts regarding the gifts then too.

Gifts are hers to do with as she pleases. Shies tou must ask for back if you want them.

Shoes too not shies tou