Friend selling gifts I got her

[nobunfight]

Just been on Facebook and seen my best friend is selling some shoes she borrowed from me a couple months ago. She asked me if she could borrow them, I said yes of course. I hadn't asked for them back because I hadn't needed them, but I do want them back at some point! Anyway they are on Facebook for sale, I thought ok, she maybe forgot they were mine, but then I noticed there are 2 other things she's put on, gifts I bought her. One is a gift from a holiday, that I put a lot of thought into, and another a Christmas present that again, I spent a lot on and put a lot of thought into and she said she loved them.

How do I approach this? Am I being unreasonable to be pissed off?

I’m afraid to kick up a fuss in case she forgot they were only on loan not to keep and I don’t want to come across as petty over some shoes

She is selling your possessions and you don't want to be petty? Do you have some nice shoes I can borrow??

Honestly learn/practice a bit of assertiveness, not just for her but its a useful lifeskill.

I would have asked for the shoes back as if you hadn't seen the online stuff and you want to wear them on Saturday. Depending on how she was would determine whether I mentioned the facebook posts. Either way, no more gifts being bought for her. Why bother when you got it so wrong that she wants to sell them.

I'd comment on the shoes "I used to have a pair like that" with a laughing face. She will then realise you can see all her selling posts. Cheeky cow.

Glad you texted for the shoes back and I hope that you mentioned you saw them for sale on FB. At least that way she will know you've probably seen the gifts for sale too. And don't ever buy her anything again.

She's not desperate for money, I know that for sure :/

Unless you have access to all of her financial info then you don't know for sure.

It’ll be obvious anyway that you’ve seen them for sale, otherwise why randomly ask for them back now? Do she’s going to know you’ve seen that she’s put the gifts up as well. I wouldn’t worry though, because how can you sell borrowed shoes? 😂

I'd tell her straight, hi just seen you're selling my shoes I lent you on Facebook, can I have them back please as they weren't lent to you for selling on.

She'll know you've also seen the other gifts too if you mention the shoes

The gifts is rude and I know why you're pissed off/upset about it, but they are hers to do what she wants with, sadly.

The shoes thing is outrageous though. She's stealing them.

The shoes definitely CF

But genuine question if a friend buys you a gift, that you won't use what do you do with it?
Give it back? That's rude direct to their face, although I guess they could return or exchange it
Landfill? I guess the giver wouldn't know but wasteful
Charity shop? Less wasteful but giver could still find out
Sell? Based on this thread, obviously rude but at least you'd get something for it and could buy what you wanted

So what do you do - keep hold of every gift whether you liked it or not not?

I would demamd the shoes back and I would mention the gifts... I would tell her if she's gonna sell gifts I've given her, maybe she shouldn't do it on FB where I can see it!

No reply yet. She has been selling lots of stuff lately, hoping she's just forgot I lent them to her.

Ask for the shoes back now.. "I saw your selling some shoes on facebook, you've probably forgotten but I only lent them to you, I'll pick them up next time I see you". Forget the rest of the stuff - but don't buy anything else for her.

Not saying you have to keep every gift you are ever given wether you like it or not, but maybe not put them for sale where you know that the person who gave you it can see it!

She may have forgotten that youd lent her them, honestly if she was a true friend I'm sure she hasn't done it on purpose. Annoying about the gifts but they are hers. I used to hoard things because I felt like I couldn't sell/ get rid of stuff that other people gifted me but there comes a point where I can't have too much stuff so I usually charity shop it.

Yep- right thing is to ask for shoes back. Unfortunately, gifts are gifts; she can do what she likes with them. But selling them on eBay is a bit

If she's selling lots of stuff, is it possible that she is doing this to other friends of hers? I can see it not ending well...….

She may have money troubles, you say she doesn't but you don't know for certain unless you have access to her banking.

People who have babies get gifted loads of lovely outfits when their children are born, should they never sell them on?

The gifts I wouldn’t mind

But she can’t sell your shoes!

Just send her a polite message saying that you have seen them on fb but had she forgotten you loaned them to her .. just be polite and honest .. I'm sure she will be fine about it and just forgot they weren't hers

Did she message you back?

Have you shagged her fella or something?

Don’t lend her anything again. I would of commented on the shoes personally and said “oh have you forgotten these are mine?” Doesn’t sound like a good mate if you’re scared to upset her over your belongings.

Don't text her, put it public on the group so others know. For all you know she's had private messages to buy them. The gifts she can do what she wants with but from now on don't

Don't buy any more gifts, or loan anything.

How about:
"Yes please - I used to have some like this but lent them to someone and forgot to reclaim them."