Friend selling gifts I got her

[nobunfight]

Just been on Facebook and seen my best friend is selling some shoes she borrowed from me a couple months ago. She asked me if she could borrow them, I said yes of course. I hadn't asked for them back because I hadn't needed them, but I do want them back at some point! Anyway they are on Facebook for sale, I thought ok, she maybe forgot they were mine, but then I noticed there are 2 other things she's put on, gifts I bought her. One is a gift from a holiday, that I put a lot of thought into, and another a Christmas present that again, I spent a lot on and put a lot of thought into and she said she loved them.

How do I approach this? Am I being unreasonable to be pissed off?

I would approach her very directly about the borrowed shoes! That’s so cheeky!

I would have commented on the for sale thread, saying "I think these are the ones I lent you, can I have them back please"

She knows you only lent then to her. My sister is the like this. Anything she borrows she keeps.

I honestly would put a comment on FB too regarding the shoes. Hopefully it would stop someone trying to buy them before your friend has seen the message.

I would put "interested" on Facebook!!!

I don't get why anyone would do this knowing full well you can see it I would like all the posts and ask for the shoes back and probs not talk to her again

I assume the gifts were for Christmas? Really rude to sell less than a month later on a platform you use.

I would message on the post about your shoes, maybe with a pass-agg ‘?’

I agree with you OP it's completely disrespectful ! And rude

I wouldn't mention the gifts - however in future I wouldn't bother getting a gift. Could you suggest a day out together instead? So instead of exchanging gifts you go out for spa day or afternoon tea?

Hi op,she can't have forgot they were your shoes,when you list them you put the condition so automatically you think back as to how often they had been worn since you bought them.
She is depending on you being to nice to front her up about it.good for you that you have.

Sounds like she's doing a January de-clutter, getting rid of things that don't bring her 'joy'. I'd forget the gifts, just give her a voucher/bottle wine next time. As PP have said, you just have different tastes.

Make sure you get the shoes back - she's probably just forgotten they were borrowed not given. Unless she is known for this, in which case - she's a CF and I'd not lend her anything again.

I wonder how many threads this will continue for?

I'd get the shoes back asap! As for the gifts, well they are hers to do what she wants with. Maybe she's just having a clear out and has forgotten that they aren't her to keep. Next time just buy her wine, flowers or chocs!

HowDo has op done several posts about it?

Forget about the gifts, they are hers to do what she wants with. Ask for the shoes pronto as that's very cheeky of her and they may be sold soon!

Are there several threads on this? I've only seen one

Good for you @nobunfight

I'd say don't loan again and I'd be weary of presents too. Does she buy you gifts?

Err, beyond cheeky fucker for the shoes, they arent hers to sell!! Get them back!
And although the gifts are hers to sell or whatever it's still rude as she knows you'll see them!
She sounds like a cow and I'd end the 'friendship' once you've got your shoes back!

She's probably having a clear out and if the gifts aren't something she uses regularly it makes sense for her to make some money from then rather than chuck then in the bin

This is not a friend. Get your shoes back and don't buy her any more presents.

I want to know if you get the shoes back, so I am shamelessly placemaking.

The gifts are rude to sell but the shoes are outrageous! I'm surprised you didn't comment on the post to tell her they're yours and you want them back!

No way does someone ‘forget’ that they were lent and not given the pair of shoes. She obviously thinks that it’s been long enough that you won’t ask for them back. The gifts you can do nothing about, I wouldn’t be buying her any more though. Has she put other stuff up for sale, or just stuff you’ve got/lent her?

and yes - stop buying her presents, theres no point she doesn't want them

She's probably having a clear out and if the gifts aren't something she uses regularly it makes sense for her to make some money from then rather than chuck then in the bin

No it bloody doesn't. The thing to do with an unwanted gift is to give it to someone else, not sell it.

Obviously ask for the shoes back before she sells them, OP. You sound as wet as I am. (And I mean that in the nicest possible way.)