Would you go on holiday without your kids?

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Just wondering what other people's thought are on this, would you go on holiday and choose not to take your young (aged less than 10) children with you? Children would be looked after by someone they are very close to.

YABU = No, I wouldn't go on holiday without my children.

YANBU = Yes, I would go on holiday without my children.

Absolutely. My husband I did a weekend away every anniversary. My mother went back to her home country every year for a week or two (can't think how my dad coped as he was a busy doctor so someone must have stayed with us) and they took several trips together just the two of them when we were young. As long as your kids are well looked after and you take them with you on other occasions it's a great idea - every couple could probably use more couple time!

We make sure we do one family holiday and one couples holiday/mini-break each year.
I think that's fair.

YANBU!!

Me and my db went to gp for a week in the school summer holidays every year.We missed our parents but we had plenty of fun and treats and dm and df probably had lots of lay ins and daytime sex so everyone benefited.

We didn't under 10, no. Did once have a three day break in Amsterdam without them but no longer.

When they were very small I hated leaving them and once they were bigger they'd have (quite reasonably) found it unfair if we were having a holiday and they weren't. We couldn't have afforded one for us and a family one. Nor would staying with grandparents have been exciting for them, we all live within a few miles of each other and they saw both sets at least weekly growing up.

Once they were old enough to leave home alone they were happy to see the back of us though. (Dire warnings of 'if you have a party the neighbours will clipe on you' were met with 'not if we invite the neighbours'. I trusted my 16 year olds more than my neighbours)

I'd only take holidays without the kids if I had like loads of time off and loads of money lol we both have around 5-6 weeks off each year which is pretty good but realistically they are weeks I want to spend with my children, not away from them.
I'm sure soon enough they'll be happy to see the back of us. In the meanwhile they come with us. We've been to Rome, Lisbon and a few more places and a few planned ahead (+ usual UK hols and trips to our respective home countries). As they get older it's getting easier to have them with us and I enjoy it very much.

Thanks for all the replies, tbh I thought it would more 50/50. The reason I asked was because we are planning on trying for a baby soonish, and the thought of this being the last year of 'adult' holidays for the foreseeable future was freaking me out a bit! Good to know that it's "normal" to want and get a break now and again!

No, because me and my son (7) would miss each other like mad. If you have a less intense relationship then maybe it’s different for you. I can’t imagine enjoying a holiday without him.

No I wouldn't. I wouldn't enjoy the holiday as I would miss them.

I don't get it personally. They're only little for so long - plenty of time to go on child free holidays when they're older!

Personally no as I would miss dd too much at 3yr

Took 10yrs ttc so had many adult holidays

Maybe when she is older

But have no problem with those who do

As a nanny I often did 24/7 while parents went away Alone and I had kids

Then they went on a family holiday

I think a lot of it also depends on the holiday itself.
DH's exW has been to Disney Florida 16 times. Most of the time with the kids, but shes now been going on her own. Literally on her own. They're pretty gutted. Very bloody odd.

(the kids are 5-11yrs btw)

Depends:
Weekend away w DH to celebrate wedding anniversary - yes.
Two week summer holiday - no.

We are now at stage we could holiday without them in summer while they are doing their own thing, but depending on what they do, they’ll want to come with us later on.

I wouldn't personally and not just for under-10s. I work long hours and often travel for work too - my holidays are time to spend with the children for as long as they are willing to holiday with us. My eldest is a teen and never even had a night away without them for pleasure (partly due to not having anyone to leave them with previously - once eldest is old enough to babysit overnight this may well change :) )

But i wouldn't say anyone else is U to do it themselves. As long as the children are looked after then not my business to judge. Obviously would be weird if it were the only holiday and that was without the kids...

When i went abroad everyone said "oh lovely are you taking the DC". How i laughed and laughed

YANBU, family holidays are lovely but holidays for relaxing are a child-free zone! I went to an adults only hotel as well so there wasn't anyone elses kids around.

My DC are 7&4

I went for 7 days btw, i couldn't have coped for longer than that without them and they were at their dads so didn't need babysat or anything.

Yep! I've done 6 holidays without mine, all long weekends. We won a trip to NYC when dd was 2, I was a little worried but wasn't going to pass the opportunity, had an amazing time and she was fine, completely unfazed. I've done one other trip with dh and a few with friends. I think it's good for everyone to have a break. I enjoy family holidays but they aren't as relaxing as time away from the kids.

Yes, it's my fantasy. I long for the day it will be a reality.

Basking in the sun, with a good book & a cocktail. And the sound of... nothing.

Fucking amazing