Would you go on holiday without your kids?

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Just wondering what other people's thought are on this, would you go on holiday and choose not to take your young (aged less than 10) children with you? Children would be looked after by someone they are very close to.

YABU = No, I wouldn't go on holiday without my children.

YANBU = Yes, I would go on holiday without my children.

We haven't only because we don't want to be without him. Our son is 14 now and soon he may choose not to come with us.
I wouldn't enjoy being away but I don't really see a problem if parents want to have a little time alone.

Not sure I'd leave DS to go away with DH, but I've had a couple of short breaks (4/5 days) away leaving DS with DH.

I've done it quite a few times.
I personally feel I'm able to parent better when I've had that break. I'm not as stressed, my mind is clear and I appreciate the time with much more.

I have done so, although they are both teens now.

I would go on a city break for a few nights with just DH but I wouldn't go on a beach type holiday without DS.

When I was with exh (dc dad) we never holidayed without them although I had a few weekend aways with girlfriend.

Dc now teens and I’m re-married. Have been on several long weekends with Dh without dc but still wouldn’t want to go too far without them.

It’s important to me that I have good family holidays with my dc whilst I can, so there is not usually enough cash left for me and Dh to do much alone but we do manage a weekend break each year.

Me and dh are going to ibiza for 3 days for our joint 40ths.Ds is 6 and will be in the capable hands of gp.yanbu.

@glorioussilence you might not, but others do. For 51 weeks of the year I was Mum, responsible adult.
For 1 week I enjoyed being Chuffit with my husband.
@Myyearmytime my parents live on a beautiful coast. They adored the kids going to stay.
I had no childcare issues to have needed to take leave from work for.

@glorioussilence many people do

Yes!! Mine are 4 and 6 and I have been away on my own, with friends and with dh all on separate holidays! The longest was 15days!

My DH and I normally have a couple of short breaks every year
Grandparents look after DC
Doesn't affect the number of holidays we have with the DC

I don’t think you’re unreasonable for doing it but personally I wouldn’t as I wouldn’t spend money on a holiday just for me and my kids miss out on enjoying a holiday too

I wouldn’t, unless I could afford to go away twice. I wouldn’t deprive them of a holiday so I could go off by myself.

I’ve been away for a night just DP and I, or with friends several times, but not longer than that so far. I’d be happy to do a few nights away, but I have a better time when the kids are there. They’re not tots though, 15 and 11 and they’re normally better company than DP!

I went on a spa mini break with my Mum and sister for two nights and a one night hen weekend break with friends but other than that I haven’t and my DD is 11. I LOVE holidaying with my DD and always go away together on our own. It is my favourite thing to do.

Just to add the dds and me have been on holiday without DP! That was much better than leaving the dds at home!

My parents had a holiday without me when I was two and my gran looked after me in my home. It was great fun and it felt like a holiday for me too with just myself and my gran for a week.

Yes of course as long as I still had a holiday with them as well.

Haven’t been away without DS (13) yet but planning to when he goes away with school this year

YABU if you go away without dc and your dc never have a holiday. If however you can afford multiple holidays then YANBU, or if it’s for a special event like a honeymoon, anniversary etc

I wouldn’t if we only had one holiday a year but I’ve been away for up to 4 nights with friends and Dh and I have done a few 2/3 nights away then 5 nights for our 40th. Kids stay with grandparents. Going to Croatia for 3 nights in March-can’t wait.

Would do and have done quite a few times in the past.

Although now we have DC2, it will be a while because I would struggle asking my parents or in-laws to look after both of them.

I've never felt bad about it. He's happy with grandparents and we had a break and came back feeling refreshed.

I don't mind a night or maybe two max away without kids but I wouldn't enjoy anything more. They make my holidays more enjoyable and i couldn't warrant spending a large amount of money on me and oh.

I don't think yabu to do it every now again, but I don't get people who do it numerous times a year

I wouldn't if taking annual leave for that holiday meant DD had to be enrolled in childcare for the school holidays to cover for my holiday. I would rather spend my annual leave with her. But if all school hols were covered by myself, DH, and other family so that it was spare annual leave, then yes I would.
I'd also go on holiday with DD and leave DH at home, and he would do the same. So that we split childcare in school holidays and neither of us miss out, while we also have a short holiday as a three.

I sometimes need a break. I have two dds who are 8 and almost 3, no additional needs. I work full time in a stressful job. In addition to that, I'm the cook, cleaner and taxi driver. Youngest still doesn't sleep through the night reliably. Completely normal 'mum stuff' really. I absolutely love going on holiday with them, I love all of the day trips we do. I love being their mum and they are my number 1 priority. They come first 99.99% of the time. But, there are times when I need a break from the best job in the world. It exhausts me. I feel like I'm on a treadmill and I want some me time. For me, that means leaving them all day with dh whilst I enjoy a spa day with my best friend. We talk interrupted, eat lunch leisurely, lounge around like queens and deliberately ensure we arrive home after bedtime. Or it's going away for the night with my husband so that we can eat in family unfriendly places, go to the theatre, sleep in until 9am together and have morning sex. Or going away with my friends to drink wine, eat food, go shopping etc. If dh and I go away, the girls go to one of their grandparents - both sets of grandparents have a bedroom decorated and set up for them as the grandparents love having them as much as they love staying. Dd8 goes for regular sleep overs at my mums, at her request, because she loves getting spoiled rotten and spending quality time with her grandparents. Between 1-3 nights per year, dds stay with their grandparents so dh and I can have some time to ourselves. I'm not ashamed to say those nights are something I feel I 'need' at times. I don't feel guilty for taking time out for me. It makes me a better mum.

I holiday once a year child free and refuse to feel guilty! I spend 51wks a year dedicating every minute of every day to my children so I would challenge anyone who thought I didn't deserve 7days off to be a fully functioning human again doing absolutely nothing.

As stated above I have been away plenty of times without dc

I usually do;
-4/5 days away with dh in March/April
-2 girly weekends with different friend groups (2 nights each ) I have one booked for late May (another to be decided)
-A night away with cousins/aunts around Christmas.
-Then a 2 week family holiday in June (with dc)
-A camping week over the summer (with dc) and another few long weekend camping trips in the summer too.
-At Halloween break we go to a holiday park and spend 3 nights there.
So the dc get plenty!!