How many funerals have you been to

[grimreaper1]

First off, I'm aware this is morbid and I don't want to upset anyone, but I'm currently studying grief and loss and becoming aware of how much bereavement I have experienced.

I'm 35 years old and I've lost 6 family members, a close friend, a teenage neighbour, accompanied two close relations to funerals of people I also knew and have had a pregnancy loss. So 10 funerals and a miscarriage.

I was just wondering if others had experienced the same or less or more? I don't know if it's changed my experience of death.

AIBU in thinking it's a lot for someone my age?

I'm around your age (37) and have been to 4 plus one miscarriage.

My Grandad (65), my StepNan (97), an ex-colleague who used to be my manager (55) and DH's close friend just before Christmas (43).

Three of the above were in the last 3 years so before 34 I'd only been to one funeral.

42 years old.
3 out of 4 grandparents.
An uncle.
A colleague who passed after having cancer.

I'm 46y and I have been to 4 funerals.

The first was when I was about 22y, dh's uncle. I can't really remember much of it and I didn't know his uncle particularly. I went to support dh and his family.

Although one of my grandad's died when I was a teen I never went to his funeral. My great grandparents died when I was around 8y and 12y but didn't go to those either. Children didn't really go to funerals in my family back then I guess, as my cousins didn't either. We missed dd's great grandma's funeral as we were on holiday and one of the things she and dh's grandad made us promise was that we wouldn't cancel it - she loved a holiday! So we did our own quiet reflection whilst away instead.

17y DD's also been to a memorial, not the funeral, for her Year 5/6 class teacher when she was 10y.

The other three of all be in the last 3 years - two quite close together (dh's grandad who was about 93y and a family friend who was in his 70), the last this autumn, my grandad who was almost 90y.

I'm 47 and I've been to 9

4 grandparents
1 cousin
1 neighbour
2 colleagues
1 friend's husband

The cousin and one colleague were young - one long illness, one traffic accident. The others were all age-related illnesses.

I'm mid 50's. More than I care to remember. All have been at crematoriums, except the most recent (this time last year) which was a church service and burial.
DSIS once attended 2 consecutive funerals at the same crematorium. (The deceased weren't connected).

I'm 36. Have been to 17.

Age 55 - I started trying to remember and counting and stopped when it got past 50
At least 1/2 have been relatives but also godparents, parents friends, neighbours and now sadly my own friends

I'm 31, been to nine, eight of which being in the last year and a half and majority family members.

I'm 39.
Niece who died as a baby
Nan C
Nan B
Step-dad
Dh's grandad
Dh's gran

Dh is 42
His friend's mum
A friend who died in a motorbike accident
My nan
My step-dad
His gran
His grandad

Mid-forties and couldn't tell you. Not even hazard a guess. Think it was six last year. I'll give you one guess where I live!!

I'm surprised how few so many people have been to.
I have no idea how many I've been to, but, aside from family, I've been to many, many funerals of older people I know through Church, through my volunteering, through hobbies, plus occasionally parents friends, etc.

It's sad how many people have suffered multiple losses in short spaces of time. 💔
On a plus side, I didn't expect a big response from this but everyone who has replied has given thoughts to their loved ones who have died today, so I like to think of people being remembered X

I'm 63 and have been to 11. All bar were older relatives.

I'm 29 and have been to 6, 3 of my elderly family members and 3 of DHs.

To all of you care workers who attend ‘patients’’ funerals, thank you. It means a lot. Especially to small families.

I’m 27 and I’ve never been to a funeral. I’m very lucky.

I was 20 before I attended my first, and that wasn’t family - it was a member of a choir I sang with, and we sang at the funeral. Between then and 35, I attended 2 for family and about 5 for people I knew through work, church or hobbies.

I’ve probably taken about 200 now, though.

37 and been to at least eleven. Five elderly relatives of grandparents' generation. The rest friends, mostly due to cancer or similar - at least two suicides too. I definitely feel like I've been to more than most of my contemporaries have.

I'm 36 and I've never been to a funeral. Very lucky to have never lost a family member or friend.

I'm 35 and I've been to 5, 3 were grandparents, 2 were 21 year old friends

I’m 34 and have been to 6 as far as I can remember.

3 grandparents (4th died before I was born)
1 lady I used to care for
An elderly aunt as a child.
And DPs grandmother.

Will have another one soon as DPs aunt passed away at the weekend.

1 (grandmother) and I'm nearly 40. Lucky to still have parents, siblings, all cousins (and there are lots of us) and most aunts and uncles. Of the two I lost, one had a funeral abroad and the other was buried in the midst of my finals. I lost my Godmother a couple of year's ago but we weren't overly close (Christmas cards and the odd phone call) so decided she wouldn't have wanted me to abandon the kids to travel for a funeral.

I’m a similar age to you and been to 3 grandparents , one of my best friends sisters and also went with my mum to an old colleague who was also my teacher at one point . I also went to funeral for the baby that I had a late miscarriage with . So 6 in total .

I'm your age. My dad, all my bio grandparents, an uncle, an aunt, a great aunt, a great uncle, a teenage neighbour, my fil, my ohs 2 aunts, my exs great gran (extra sad cos I was pregnant with 1st great great grandchild). My first funeral was age 5, so was my youngest's. My 15yr old has already been to 4, including a school friend (all their choice and well counselled). Another extra sad element is that my kids bio grandfathers died before they were born and when my oh adopted them his dad died shortly after. I'm glad they got some experience because Grandfather's can be wonderful role models.

38 and 7, I think. 3 elderly, 4 young.
Grandmother
Mother in Law
Uncle
Flatmate
Friend of family
Sister of friend
Colleague