How many funerals have you been to

[grimreaper1]

First off, I'm aware this is morbid and I don't want to upset anyone, but I'm currently studying grief and loss and becoming aware of how much bereavement I have experienced.

I'm 35 years old and I've lost 6 family members, a close friend, a teenage neighbour, accompanied two close relations to funerals of people I also knew and have had a pregnancy loss. So 10 funerals and a miscarriage.

I was just wondering if others had experienced the same or less or more? I don't know if it's changed my experience of death.

AIBU in thinking it's a lot for someone my age?

I’m 47, just worked it out and I’ve been to 21 funerals. I went through a stage between 2004 and 2011 I was keeping interflora going on my own.

At 47 I can remember 11. There were another 4 deaths where I couldn’t attend the funeral due to being overseas

Nope, it’s 6 Ive missed being overseas. 5 family, 1 friend

I'm 44.

1 x Aunty
5 x grandparents
2 x friends
1 x friend's husband
1 x friend's mother
1 x uncle
2 x nephews
1 x friend's grandad
I'm sure there's more but it's getting too depressing to think about.

Around 2 dozen.

Oh I am middle aged.

I'm in my 50s and I've been to about half a dozen English funerals, all elderly family members.

Since I've lived in Ireland I've been to many, only a handful of which have been DH's family. It's normal here to go to funerals in your community to support the family of the deceased, whether you knew the deceased person yourself isn't relevant.

I think someone else upthread has already pointed this out, but this thread really highlights one of the big cultural differences between England and Ireland.

28 and only been to 1 thankfully. My great grandma died when I was 5 and I was allowed to attend her funeral.

I'm a few years older than you and counted 20 but can't help feeling that I've missed one which is awful. Ranging from immediate family and in-laws to friends and colleagues.

I had a spell a few years ago where quite a few people I knew died.

My first funeral I was 8 I think. A grandparent had died before this but I didn't go.

I’ve had two miscarriages.

Thinking about the funerals I’ve been to, I remember:

Four grandparents
Two older relatives
13 yr old Friend at school who died in a house fire
Cousin aged 7 yrs who died from leukaemia
Childhood friend aged 36 yrs who had terminal cervical cancer
University friend aged 23 yrs from undetected heart defect
Best friend’s stillborn baby
In-laws I didn’t know that well x 2
Colleagues x 2

Heartbreaking each and every one, but nothing more sad than burying a child..,

Sorry for everyone’s losses .

I’m 38 and don’t think I could remember - probably in the 25-30 region. I’m interested in the regional variances, obviously Irish people culturally attend a lot of funerals, I’m Scottish and recognise a few other Scottish posters at the higher end. I’ve been to a lot of funerals of people I hardly know, colleagues’ parents, that kind of things, I wonder if that’s not typically done in England, people only attend close relatives perhaps?

Quite a few I think and I'm 41.

My best friends grandparents
My grandmother
DHs grandmother
A great uncle
My uncle
A friend from work who died suddenly

Plus several others where I was close to the bereaved rather than the person who died. In 2017 I went to 4 I think.

At age 39 I just lost my one uncle Dec18, '19, his brother, another uncle 4 years prior( I braided his hair in the morgue), an extended family member 2 years ago, a great-great-great grandmother, great-great grandmother and a grandmother, also a young cousin. I have also been in the presence of death with ppl I didn't know 2x. I hope this helps your research

I attended these funerals all before age 25. Life can really suck at times.

Friend aged 18 accidental death
Friends sister suicide
Friend 20 suicide
Grandad
Relatives baby (still born)
Aunty
Grandma
Friend aged 20 car crash
Dad
Husbands gran (like a mum to him)
Friends son (baby)

I’m 26 and have been to 3 funerals...uncle, Nan and my mother’s. Due to go to my fourth end of this month...boyfriends Grandma.

Irish. Countless funerals since I was a very small child. I think it must be incredibly difficult to be from a culture where there’s no tradition of funeral-going unless the dead person was someone you were very close to — it means you’ve often never been to a funeral or seen a body unless you’re in desperate grief.

And one this year. Aged 29. My dads best friend. 12 in all

2, I'm 34. Could have been more though, but distant relatives who died and lived far away so I didn't attend. Have only known two close relatives who died, I didn't know my grandparents really and don't remember being invited to their funeral.
This is a low number compared to msot people I know.

None I’m in my mid 20’s I’m in the minority though.

I'm 37.
Friends mum
Great grandmother
Friend
Friend
Great uncle
Nephew
Father in law
Are the funerals I've attended.

One grandmother and both my grandfather's have also passed. I didn't go to any of their funerals for different reasons each time. Also, other friends (including a school friend when we were 14) and other family members such as great aunts. But I didn't go to those for individual reasons.

All awful, but the worst was my nephew, who was 4. I am still haunted by his mother's reaction when they brought him out of the house to put him in the car to go to the church.

I'm 27, I've been to 3.
My grampy when I was 18, and 2 of my nephews, one of which i was there when he passed. That was the worst. 2 other GP died when i was young and i wasnt allowed to attend

I’m 41. Probably been to around 30 funerals of family/friends. Didn’t attend my sibling’s funeral as a child as my parents thought I was too young.

The rest include:

• 3 grandparents (the fourth died before I was born)
• my mother
• 3 uncles
• my godmother

37, probably been to a hundred funerals, but I’m Irish and we go to a LOT

This.

Out of my family...4 funerals I think. And 4 for dh's family.

I'm 42. I've been to about 35. I know this is high.

I had ten bereavements last year and five funerals I attended of those ten. I have another funeral on 22 January. 😢

I’m 34 and have been to 7 that I can recall:
4 grandparents
2 aunties
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