How many funerals have you been to

[grimreaper1]

First off, I'm aware this is morbid and I don't want to upset anyone, but I'm currently studying grief and loss and becoming aware of how much bereavement I have experienced.

I'm 35 years old and I've lost 6 family members, a close friend, a teenage neighbour, accompanied two close relations to funerals of people I also knew and have had a pregnancy loss. So 10 funerals and a miscarriage.

I was just wondering if others had experienced the same or less or more? I don't know if it's changed my experience of death.

AIBU in thinking it's a lot for someone my age?

42 and couldn't possibly count - but then I am Irish and we go to alot of funerals

I'm your age; I've been to 7 family funerals (two of which I officiated at) and taken close to 200 funerals professionally.

im 33 and have been to 2 funerals. One my Dads, one was Granny's. Both expected deaths. Both cremations.

I really hated them each time. I hated the Victorian era procession of it all. "feel free to take the time to spend a few minutes in silent contemplation to say goodbye". ok thanks, I dont need a ceremony and a stranger to tell me to do that. The whole thing pissed me off.

I'm 35 and been to about 80-100 I'm a traveller and we go to loads. Also we do a sit up the night before where the dead are brought back home and have an open casket and you sit up with them all through the night.

You’ve attended the funerals of patients? I’ve never heard of a GP doing that before.

A gp will have a relationship with their patients over time so it's certainly not unheard of for a gp to attend a funeral. My mums gp visited her in hospital when she was dying. Gp was very upset. She attended the funeral too, as did the staff at the medical centre and pharmacy mum used. Again, not unusual in Ireland anyway.

I'm Irish too and wouldn't be able to count them either as there have been so many.

In the last 6 months, I've attended 2 relatives' funerals (full day) and 2 mass/funeral home part for parents of friends.

I'm 60. Been to 4...my parents and 2 aunts.

I've been to about 10-15 I think - I'm a few years younger than you.

Couple of grandparents, a few close friends of my parents/'aunties and uncles', my partner's mum, a couple of distant aunties from our extended family, one of a friend from school, a close friend's dad who we grew up with, my best friend's grandparents.

I didn't think of it as a lot - most people will have grandparents and older relatives, and a lot of people will know one or two people who die young, so nothing unusual. The only ones that aren't typical (possibly) are the best friend's grandparents, but I was very close to them.

I’m 33 and have been to one.

You’ve attended the funerals of patients? I’ve never heard of a GP doing that before

I wouldn’t go to the funerals of most patients.

It’s my long-term mental health patients, who I tend to see every month or so often over several decades - most of them have few friends and are estranged from their families, so I attend the funeral to try to make up the numbers a little. I go for the same reason that I send these patients a Christmas card - I don’t think anyone else will and I don’t want them to feel like they’ve been completely forgotten.

At the patient funerals I’ve attended, the average number of mourners is about 4 or 5.

Too many! I’m 31 (just) & have been to around 18. That includes my childhood best friend, my Mil & my Dad.

I’ve also been present at 30+ Hindu & Sikh scattering ceremonies in a professional capacity.

@notaregularmom I've sat up at many a wake too. When my aunt died she was laid out at home and a few of us were sitting up for the night. A neighbour came in and at about 2am asked where the hoover was - she had cleaned the kitchen and proceeded to hoover

Smiling at all the all the Irish MNers. My Irish granny would say nothing beats a good funeral..

I've been to many- too many. DH is 50 and has only ever been to two, for his GPs who both died in the past few years. I thought it odd that he got to be late 40s and had never been to a funeral.

I’m 56. My df and his five siblings in fairly quick succession, in one year. Then my dm 20 years later. My dp’s Granny. And then my dsd.

So nine in total.

In in my early 50s. I have been to 6.
3grandparents
parent
uncle
friend

I think 19? I’m 41

3 were more because I was close to the bereaved person rather than the person who’d died... the rest are family, friends and in laws.

I'm 34. 5 funerals and 3 miscarriages. I really ought to have been at another funeral but had a crucial university exam and had to go to that.

I'm 30. I went to a funeral with my friend who needed support, I did sort of know who the person was who had died.

One of my school friends was killed by terrorists when he was on holiday so I went to his funeral.

I've been to my neighbours and my other neighbours.
I've been to my auntie's and my partner's Grandma's that's it I think. All my grandparents died before I was born apart from one, I was too young to go to his funeral.

5 off the top of my head.

Same age bracket as you op.

I grew up in a manse so I've interacted with a lot of people who have experienced loss but didn't attend actual funerals unless it was a loved one or eg my friend's dad

Early 30s, Irish so at a guess I'd say 50-odd?

First off, I'm aware this is morbid
It isn't morbid. My DM always says that whenever there is a mention of death. It is just a part of life, although a very sad part of life.

At 35 I'd only been to 2 funerals - one of my GP plus an aunty but I'd also lost my other 3 grandparents and a brother when he was a baby but didn't go to those funerals as I was too young.

20 years later and I've now been to 11 more relatives' funerals and 5 friends' funerals, with the last one being just after Christmas 2019.

I’m 42.
I’ve been to 38 family funerals and 5 friends/ parents of friends funerals.
That is an awful amount of loss.

I'm 59 and have been to two funerals. MIL (3 yrs ago) and FIL (24yrs ago).

I'm 36 and been to about 9 or 10 I think? Slightly hazy on the details because I know I was taken to family funerals as a child but can't exactly remember which was which. Then that number includes my father, my aunt, my grandmother and also others outside the family such as a work colleague and a neighbour.

6 and I'm 29.
Great grandmother
Uncle
Grandad in law x 2
Daughter
Nan
The last four have been in the last 3 years and also lost another uncle, aunty and cousins daughter but couldn't go to the funerals.

Hundreds. But I work in a crematorium. Personally 5. I'm 32.