How many funerals have you been to

[grimreaper1]

First off, I'm aware this is morbid and I don't want to upset anyone, but I'm currently studying grief and loss and becoming aware of how much bereavement I have experienced.

I'm 35 years old and I've lost 6 family members, a close friend, a teenage neighbour, accompanied two close relations to funerals of people I also knew and have had a pregnancy loss. So 10 funerals and a miscarriage.

I was just wondering if others had experienced the same or less or more? I don't know if it's changed my experience of death.

AIBU in thinking it's a lot for someone my age?

I am 57 and have been to the following funerals:

4 grandparents
1 aunt
1 Great GF
MIL and DF
2 children
4 friends
1 colleague

15 that I can remember. There may have been more.

I'm 57 and have been to 3 - mother, aunt and uncle

OllyBJolly A good funeral is better than a bad wedding

The year I turned 40 I went to 5 in 12 months I think.

I find these things come in waves. You have the years of weddings, the years of children, and the years of funerals.

I'm 36 and been to 8 (at least) I couldn't go to my nana's for various reasons but I went and sat in the work chapel at the same time and prayed instead
been to 5 weddings and 1 baptism (not counting my own wedding and baptism of our DS)

@Drum2018 that's one way of passing the time I guess

Great Grandmother
Great Uncle
Grandmother
Grandfather
childhood baby sitter
Aunt
Friends Father
two family friends
one friends child
Step grandmother next month

a lot of it is just part of getting older - 20's / 30's it's all weddings and christenings - 40+ it gets a bit sadder!

Last year alone I went to 10 funerals including that of my cousin, as well as some of wider extended family members and parishioners.
Over my lifetime I've lost 3 grandparents (one had already died before I was born), both parents, a brother, two sisters-in-law, my mother-in-law, several uncles and aunts and most recently my cousin. Not to mention numerous relatives of my husband's, whose funerals I've also attended.
It's a sad fact that the older you get, the more funerals you go to.
I'd never been to one at all until I was 19 and a friend from uni committed suicide. But since then the number I've attended has just grown year on year. I couldn't count how many I'd been to, but it must be well over 100.

I am 38.

Dad (at 12)
2 x Nans
1 x Grandad
2 x great grandparents
3 x friends
3 x family friends

57 and only 2- My Dad and a good friend.It would have been 3 had I been contactable when my Nan died but this was in an era when mobiles phones and internet hadn't been invented so by the time I returned from interailing it was all done.

35yr old - 5 (2x grandparents, 1x grand parent in law and 2x parents in law) my friends dad is unwell with cancer and unfortunately he is end of life. I will go to that one to show support to my friend.

I'm your age OP and probably 20 or so. Sadly far too many children.

Far too many to remember at 49. I'm partly Greek Cypriot so big families and am a biker, though mainly lost friends through cancer/other illnesses than bike accidents but still looking at at least five of those over the last 30 years. I would say that we, as a family, average about 4-5 funerals per year although last year was higher with a few elderly neighbours leaving. Assume it'll only get higher the older we get. :(

I’m 44. Been to

My Mum’s cousin
My granny
My grandad
My XHs cousin
My XHs granny (didn’t go to actual funeral as had 4 month old DS but went to the wake)

Think that’s it.

I'm 30 and I haven't been to any funerals. I've also never known anyone personally who has died.

Goodness, such a mix of replies!

The various ways in which those people have died have all been different too...cancer, car accidents, suicide, old age...death really is such a big part of life.

Out of the 10 funerals, only two were expected...one age related, one terminal cancer...so I guess that has an impact of the grieving process.

8 x relatives. Mostly elderly but one in his 40s
4 x older people I lived with for a year in a shared community
2 x colleagues
5 x going to support a friend in their loss.

I suspect there are more that I can't recall

I'm 40. The colleague ones were both shocks. One was 41, other was only 21.

Sad to hear about the funerals of children...that's never happened to me, I just don't know how I'd manage that...

I'm 38 and have been to 5

• 16 year old friend killed in a car crash (was also 16)
• grandmother 1
• grandmother 2
• uncle
• father in law

The first was by far the most traumatic but I was too numb to cry. Cried the most at Uncle's who I wasn't even close to.

@notaregularmom for sure! We were delighted she'd done it all. She went home after that and the next morning her family arrived over with a huge fry up for us. Great neighbours by all accounts.

I'm 27 and 0, for which I feel very lucky.

An old friend died 2 years ago but unfortunately I couldn't make it back home for her funeral. Other than that, thankfully I haven't lost anyone especially close.

I'm 44 and I think I've been to 12 (I say think as #dh has lots of relatives who all seem the same and who also have commemoration services in the same place so it all blurs into one! )

I'm 45 and have been to funerals for my uncle, my dad, 2 x grandparents (the other 2 died before I was born), my auntie, my cousin, 7 x family friends and 1 student. In a way the last was the worst because he died tragically and very young. I was there in an official capacity for that one, the others I was obviously family or friend.

27, from one I can remember I've been to 10 including my first born sons.
After burying my soon I've taken a pass on going to certain funerals because of the timing /place so paid my respects afterwards.

*son even not soon🙈