How many funerals have you been to

[grimreaper1]

First off, I'm aware this is morbid and I don't want to upset anyone, but I'm currently studying grief and loss and becoming aware of how much bereavement I have experienced.

I'm 35 years old and I've lost 6 family members, a close friend, a teenage neighbour, accompanied two close relations to funerals of people I also knew and have had a pregnancy loss. So 10 funerals and a miscarriage.

I was just wondering if others had experienced the same or less or more? I don't know if it's changed my experience of death.

AIBU in thinking it's a lot for someone my age?

Age 40 here and it's over 30 funerals
The usual grandparents, great aunts&uncles and then aunts and uncles but I've also lost a large number of friends starting at primary age.
People my age have died from
12- suicide
13- car crash
15- hit by lightning
21 suicide
30- SAD
40 allergic reaction
40 mnd
40 sepsis
40- MND
40- heat attack

Mid 50s and I've lost count but it's more than 15. All but one have been cremations.

Great grandparent
Dad
2 grandparents
Both pil
Sister in law
Friends dad
So 8, I'm 52

I am 52 and have only been to 3 - a very low number compared to pp's.

My dad died when I was 24, my best friend when he was only 40 (that was awful), and my next door neighbour who was a very good friend, but very poorly, and was 70.

Large family, but haven't attended other very elderly relatives funerals as they live in other countries, and were therefore buried quickly, or we weren't close, or they all died when I was much younger or not even born!

3 grandparents
Mum
My daughter
2 aunts
Ex MIL
Nephew
Friend
FIL
Friends dad

Adds up to 12, but I have a feeling that I'm missing a few. I'm 40 years old.

40 and I've been to 3, and wont go to any more

A childhood friends mum when I was a teen, then those of my 2 children.

I hate funerals and refuse to attend any now.

1. Both in the last two years.

Far too many

My husband

My mum

A close friend

2 employers

Uncle

All taken too young

Let alone grandparents and elderly friends /neighbors and relatives

Now 47- since I was 11 - 3 grandparents (possibly 4, but I would have been 1 at the time.) 2 parents, 2 schoolfriends, 5 great-aunts, 1 great-uncle, at least 4 of my parents' friends. So that's 17. There are others I would have gone to if logistics allowed.

Im 50 and have been to 4

2 x grandfathers
1 x grandmothers
1 x husband

My 14 year old just attended her first - joint funeral for her father and her grandmother - she didn't want me to go with her as didn't feel her fathers family would want me there. Not going was harder than going

38 and at least 20.
The first I remember was my dad's, when I was 6.

Nan
Auntie Jean
Auntie Pat
Uncle Phil
Cheryl
Mick
Auntie Barb
ExBF dad
Little sis
ExH mum
Maybe add one in case I've missed something
So 11 and I'm 51!
Although never had a granddad on either side or a Nan on my dads side.

I'm so sorry @Clangus00 for all of your losses.

I'm 54, and I've been to thousands, but I have been a church organist for most of my life and that is why the number is so high. At many of those, I could have been a mourner, too.

3 grandparents
2 friends of my granny
2 great aunties
Mother in law
Family friend
Friend's dad
I have one on Friday, DD's godfather

I'm 29 & I've been to 3.

Grandad
Uncle
Family friend

My grandma didn't have a funeral- she had no last wishes & none of us were inclined to arrange one with so little personal input and there were so few people who could or would go that we didn't have one.

Like the other Irish people here, I've been to countless and I'm in my early 30's.
Many where I haven't known the deceased but to show support for a friend/work colleague who lost a family member or close friend.
Where I'm from, it's also common to attend the wake (usually in the deceased home or their family home) to offer condolences, bring food or tea/coffee and share stories as well as attending the funeral.
Normally the first night of the wake is family only but others are welcome on the other two days/evenings.

I'm 42 and been to 19 funerals. Mainly close family.

I've been to about 9 or 10 funerals. Nearly all of them were elderly relatives or friends of the family, one was my uncle who died suddenly aged 52-this was the one that hit me the hardest despite not being close to him.

I'm 32 and attended 6

FIL
GM
great uncle
Sisters friend at 17 😭
Cousins little baby 7 weeks (v traumatic)
Neighbour

I'm 37 and have been to loads, but then I work in a church! Been to 6 as a guest.

7 sorry, old school friend who passed from cancer at 26

I’m 48 and have been to:
4 x grandparents
DP’s dad
DP’s uncle
2 good friends
Owner of shop where I worked

Doesn’t sound like many for my age I know, but I live in another country from where I grew up and spent early adulthood, so it has to be a close 2nd with for me to head back to the UK.

Sorry a close friend or relative!

Irish here so lots - maybe one or two a year since my teens, and a few as a younger child? In terms of losses I've been lucky enough to still have all my immediate family with me, but I've lost all four grandparents, an aunt, an uncle, two cousins (as infants), a school friend as a teenager and another a few years later. The other funerals would have been more distant relatives and in-laws, neighbours, parents of friends etc.

I'm 49 and am about to attend my 10th funeral. Lost 2 very good friends in the last couple of years, just awful.