To give the newly weds exactly what their invite requests?

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I've been invited to a wedding (family). They've requested people don't give cash or gifts, but put in a scratch card.

AIBU to just put a £5 scratch card in?

I'm really not sure. They've asked for it, after all. I usually give wedding couples £50 or £100 to close friends and family.

I'm not sure I'm comfortable putting £50 worth of scratch cards in... Says she who religiously plays the lottery twice a week

I am not sure why this is even a dilemma.
You should buy them exactly what they asked for. This is a bit of fun and takes the pressure of those who can spend less on a present.
And whats the snobbery about giving some to charity? That shouldnt be seen as a present unless an official request has been made ( and as far as I can see none has).
I would also add that I normally give cash, and its based on the relationship and what it would cost to have a similar even, plus a bit extra.
If I would give £50 cash than I do not see the difference in buying £50 of scratchcards either

My partner is a recovering alcoholic

But we bought afew people alcohol for Christmas, because thats what they like.

Each to their own.

At our wedding, No alcohol served...
Again, Each to their own

@woeisme99 - I can't work out the obsession with poundland either? why not just buy a lottery scratch card?

I'm I the only person who'd be half tempted to give a lottery ticket instead, but buy 2 with the same numbers one for me and one for them?

Therefore if it's a winning ticket we both win?

I am the only person who is thinking my supermarket sells my favourite champagne - Les Mesnil. I’d be bloody delighted if someone gave me that particular supermarket wine (not that I have an addiction).

Btw Have found my mums £3.50 scratch card envelope. Flat now looks like a tornado has gone through and I was supposed to be doing paperwork at home today. Hmmm

Just buy them a scratchcard. Honestly.

Lmao at people making a big deal out of this. It’s a bit of fun.

Also lmao at the people who would find it hard to cope if they won. You’re supposed to hope they win, you big meanies

www.goodgifts.org/
Offer a huge range of charitable gifts - and they sell gift vouchers, so the happy couple can decide what they want to spend the money on. We clubbed together with our AC and bought friends a large voucher for their 50th wedding anniversary this year - they were thrilled, and said how much they'd enjoyed picking the charities closest. to their hearts
Maybe one scratch card plus a voucher would be an idea..? 😀

Has anyone suggested buying a prank scratch card?

I didn't get this when I first heard about it, but get it now.
It's an alternative to guests giving them a lucky horseshoe, but they may win something.
I think anything goes these days. When we got married we'd been living together for four ears, but there was no alternative to the usual wedding presents, no alternatives asked for, you just did without if you didn't want what people bought

Of they have 100 guests at 50 each that's 5000 scratchcards.
100 years worth of one a week.
They probably have everything they need in house and don't want to ask for money.
I think its a nice idea.

A friend got £20 worth of scratchcards from his secret Santa, and won £50!

Nice idea. National lottery money benefits a variety of good causes such as the arts, sports and young people plus as a bonus they could win some cash.

Definitely agree - just buy them one scratch card. It's clearly just a fun way of not ending up with loads of stuff they don't want and letting their guests off spending loads of money.

I don't get why people are focussed on it being a waste of money if the people asking for it will enjoy it.
How many people honestly never spend money on stuff just to enjoy it that someone else would consider a waste? If someone spent a huge amount of dosh on a gold-plated Rolls-Royce for me it would be a total waste of money. I can't drive and hate ostenatious crap. If someone buys me a plate of fish and chips I would enjoy that hugely, but I can't claim I need it for the nutrietns, and I wouldn't have anything material to 'show for it' once I'd scoffed the lot.

I couldn't give a scratch card. It would kill me if they won big on a scratch card I may have bought! Selfish I know but I couldn't take the risk! X

bert3400 Mon 06-Jan-20 08:13:51I would buy a £5 scratch card and make a £45 donation to a Gamblerling charity

lol

@Aridane Bloody pet charity..?

Disgusting attitude you've got there

Does anyone remember the previous thread exactly like this one but with a weird message from the B and G?

Iirc that also got very heated

To answer your question, how could it possibly be unreasonable to give someone what they've specifically asked for?

Found it,

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3710442-to-think-this-is-grabby-and-genius-wedding-request-related

Nothing new under the sun

Why Broken? I'd never give to a pet charity either.

I’m surprised that no one has suggested the other MN favourite - a “box of posh chocs”

I've occasionally put a lottery ticket into a card but I always buy 2 identical ones then if it comes up, we both win and there are no issues - there's no potential for jealousy and the bride and groom don't need to feel obliged to share.

I really don’t understand why you wouldn’t. People don’t ask for something specific/no gifts and really mean something else. Or if they do, they’re idiots.

@MumW ‘so the bride and groom don’t feel obliged to share’

Newlyweds?
Share a wedding gift?!

You’re nuts woman