To give the newly weds exactly what their invite requests?

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I've been invited to a wedding (family). They've requested people don't give cash or gifts, but put in a scratch card.

AIBU to just put a £5 scratch card in?

I'm really not sure. They've asked for it, after all. I usually give wedding couples £50 or £100 to close friends and family.

I'm not sure I'm comfortable putting £50 worth of scratch cards in... Says she who religiously plays the lottery twice a week

Why wouldn’t you gift what they want? I read it as one scratch card, not £50 worth. Don’t go to the wedding, you sound like you don’t like them.

Oh I think that is really sad. I wouldn’t spend much and then give them a charity gift card like Wateraid or Cafod. Cafod sends a gift card so it lets them know. Or pay for a Guide Dog for a year and they will receive Pup Dates.
Or a voucher for a meal.

Dear lords, they're gonna have to scratch for their presents

with the chances of winning id just rather have the £10!
but just imagine if you gave them a winning ticket of millions.id want to crawl in a ball and weep.

I think they want a £1 scratch card. And I think that is lovely, given the moaning about the expense of attending a wedding. And that is what I would buy.

But what if they win big?

But what if they win big

What if they do?? Youd never know whod bought the winning ticket

When I had ds christened age 1..someone put in a £1 lottery ticket and a £1 scratch card.. They said they couldn't afford a gift as was just after Xmas but that could lead to something big.. It was bizzare but not awful..
It won £20 on the scratch card which went into his bank.

The same person since has given a £5 scratch card every birthday since.. He's now 14.. He knows its a one off and knows about gambling. But he's been pretty lucky over the yrs.. One was £100 when he was about 3..obviously he had no idea. Again went into his bank.

I think they are trying hard to avoid more unnecessary stuff and avoid their guests feeling the need to spend or give £££.

Scratch card in the wedding card and wish them the best of luck.

If you know they have a favourite charity I'd consider a donation in their name but ensure that doesn't go against their wishes.

I think buying £50 of scratch cards would totally defeat the purpose of what they're asking. It sounds like they're suggesting it to stop people spending much.

Yes definitely get them what they have asked for. A scratch card in a card.

Strange gift but there's nothing wrong with getting what they asked for!

I think it's a great idea. Maybe they know some of their guests are struggling financially. This way they're asking everyone to spend £1- £5 - if they didn't then everyone would feel pressured to spend more than that, whether on gifts or cash.

Buy them a decent scratch card.........and put your details on the back. 😂😂😂

What's with the suggestions to give money to charity
Buy them a £5 scratch card (or a couple) and then a voucher for a meal or an afternoon tea or something if you want to spend more money on them.
If they wanted you to donate money to charity they would have told you which ones they support.

I think its a genius idea. You spend a fiver and potentially you could be giving them a million pounds. OK so they wont win that, but still, they could end up with a tidy sum that hasnt cost their guests a fortune.

I think theyre being thoughtful of their guests costs and I hope it catches on.

I would just get one, but a 'fun' one like Scrabble or Bingo so there's that little extra element to it. If you feel bad about not spending as much as you usually would, go ahead and donate to charity, but don't tell them so as they'd just end up feeling guilty and awkward.

What a fantastic idea to request a single scratch card/ easy, cheap and a bit of fun.

I would be a bit disappointed if guests then rocked up also with a restaurant voucher I have to use or a donation to a bloody pet charity (bah humbug)

I think it’s a great ide

I think it's brilliant and wish I'd thought about it when dh and I got married!! Saves people calling and asking if there's a gift list anywhere!

Just buy a £1 or £5 scratch card and respect their wishes.

They clearly don't want or need 'stuff' and perhaps want others to avoid some of the expense of weddings. They have come up with a nice idea so just buy the one card, go to the wedding and enjoy it.

Are you being unreasonable to give a couple getting married a gift they have asked for - obviously not.

Your preoccupation with dodgy scratchcards in Poundland is a bit odd.

sounds like a brilliant idea - yes go for it. spend £20 on scratch cards for them and wish them well.

there is a good chance that one of the cards they get will net a decent prize and they can think of that as a joint gift from all their guests. and if all they get is the thrill of scratching and checking a couple of hundred cards with no big prize - they still will have had fun getting there.

Is this some sort of weird attempt at discrediting Pound Land? Very odd OP.

I think this is a great idea. I’ve never bought a scratch card - I do play the lottery online every week.
I too think this is a fun idea from a couple who don’t need ‘stuff’ and are happy and relaxed about their guests not having to spend a lot of £ on another bloody wedding them.
Even if guests are all easily able to afford more ‘normal’ gifts I think this is a lovely and fun idea.
Just buy what they have asked for !